Have you ever gone back to an old habit because it was familiar to you?
Why? because the unknown of the other alternative seemed scarier somehow.
I had laid certain things down at a point in my life because I had made a decision that those things weren’t moving me forward in life the way I needed them to.
Just because an old habit feels safer than the unknown in the long run doesn’t mean it is. Some times you have to take that leap off the cliff into the unknown, you may not know what may be on the other side of that but why go back to that old thing you know has not been cutting it for you.
There are things that happen to us in life that we allow to color our experiences in life.
Say when a Father is not really a Father to his children. Or a Mother doesn’t live up to a child’s expectations of what they should have been. Remember they are human and not infallible just like you.
I think problem lies with your broken expectations of them.
Just something to think about...
When one is given every chance to be an active player and they refuse and place everything above them is it the child's fault or the parent who dropped the ball? There is no excuse for someone who is given chances and abilities at a restart that most would sell their soul for to piss it away because they find $2 whores, concerts, and everything else more important specially when they claim how bad they want to be involved with said child and they do nothing to make it happen....
Life isn’t always fair hun. I know it’s painful to watch and to have experienced. I know you want justice we all do but there is a point in life where we have to lay these things down because no matter how much you want or need someone to change they may not and at a point it is no longer in your hands anymore.
Justice will happen but mercy will always drive a person to their knees faster.
My grandmother always said it’s easier to catch flies with honey than vinegar.
You make a good point.....you cant make a boi into a man and you sure as hell cant make him into a father. It takes those around that child to make up for the lack of and more time than not if the child is luck that happens.
Hun I’m going to say this the best way I can because you know I don’t sugarcoat things. You need to stop living from your past hurts in life. I know enough about you to know some of what you have been through. I get it. I really do. I’m sorry you ever had to experience those things in your life. Your not healing for them. Justice will be better serviced if you move on from these things that have happened to you.
Actually this isnt just about me I have friends who have children that are neglected and have been abandoned by dead beats but I have heard the sob stories from the dead beats
I don’t have time for revenge in my life. I used to live that way a long time ago but carrying that kinda shit around gets heavy after awhile. You are drinking the poison expecting the other person to die but really you are only killing yourself.
So my advice is this let that shit go. It will not profit you in the end.
I totally agree. If someone crosses me, I'd cut them off from my life. You can get to people around me, but you will never get at me. Very much like demonic possession, really. Lol.
I agree with everything all of you said thats why I am not going to feed into this stuff.
I got a headache
I hope you feel better. I get migraines every once in a blue moon with nausea, light sensitivity and even throwing up so I get it.
Have you forgot about our dreams?
Remember when we used to dream what that life would be like? How we believed in it?
I don’t want it at all if it’s not with you.
I find it amazing how there are some people that can talk and I mean really talk a lot but really if you look deep there is no substance to what they are saying. It’s like they are just talking to fill the air with something anything but silence.
Of course I understand this on the internet. Not everyone is capable of such connections and well then there is the fact that is depth like that even healthy to a point. Small talk..you see being an empath I can feel sometimes when something is bothering someone....then when one denies what they truly feel to another person for one reason or another and it turns into a one sided exchange because maybe they are scared to be vulnerable...scared to look weak....
It’s a very uncomfortable situation...that conflicted feeling...Yea you know that feeling I’m talking about...
When it comes down to the wire what will my choice be
I don’t know what the future holds for me
Will I come through when it matters the most?
I’m crying right now because I feel like no one understands me
I have no one to say to me it will all work out in the end for me
You know that bigger picture that will be the whole of my life lived
It’s hard to stay positive when I fall and fail daily at the most simple things others seem to have no problem with things they take for granted
I just feel alone and the only person I wished was here to tell me it will be okay is you but I pushed you away
I know it was for the best but I’m so stupid to miss you like I do because everything was a lie with you and I wished it hadn’t been that way
We both lied to each other both said things that we can’t take back
Both have so much baggage from a life of others tearing us both down
Have to go adult now and hanging out with my bestie later on tonight. Yes wine will be involved. Lol
Well my god it’s us enabling them well you are admins you have the power to stop said shitty behavior but here we are allowing it to continue because no one wants to not just follow TOS but be decent human beings to each other it’s much deeper than the TOS of this site. People are left to their own devices and allowed to break the TOS and you wonder why it’s become a shit show here. The admins need to step up and stop giving others preferential treatment.
It’s all or nothing why drop the standard and just apply it to a few people? Myself included but people at the same time not allowing others to speak out about the pure injustice of it all. It’s not just about the TOS it’s about not standing up for the people that are here that are hurt by this ongoing behavior. Most on here are actually decent human beings if given the chance to be but I cannot stand this shitty behavior that has been allowed to go on here but yet we are responsible for something you should be doing. It should be a mutual agreement. It’s a partnership and the reason it doesn’t work is because it hasn’t been. I can be unbiased I have no problem taking someone out of here that shouldn’t be here but I don’t have that power and it couldn’t just be based on my pure opinion alone but based on the Prince and TOS yea so here we are. The TOS is one thing but just allowing others to treat others poorly why isn’t that an important factor in the TOS?
Don’t shoot the messager.
It is frustrating to say the least that I always hit these brick walls. I can’t go any further and I’m sick of books being throw at me.
I want to see manifestation I want to see that physical person standing before me someone I can reach out to and talk to. Someone I can confide all my weird thoughts and experiences someone who has some damn experiences, knowledge and understanding about what I seek to know.
Someone comparable to where I am at where ever that may be. Lol
Mmm coffee so good. I dreamt again last night. Weird dream. Well not weird by my standards but maybe by others standards. A strange ongoing theme I haven’t had in years. Anyone ever notice when they talk to certain people they tend to have more dreams as a result meh maybe it’s just coincidence but this is twice now. Right before I drifted off to sleep I felt a presence and saw a wolf.
I find it’s impossible to reason with most people. I’m fighting a losing battle so I’m just not gonna do it anymore. It’s a waste of my time and theirs.
Most people are just going to do what they do with no regards to how they hurt others.
Silence really is golden....because the argument is always hypocrisy. So no one feels they need to change their behavior and yet no one can speak up for whatever wrongs have been done. It’s the perfect argument really. It may render people silent. *shrugs*
Yet it’s the biggest lie there is...
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