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WHA?? O_O

You know what? I totally agree. I was an Anonymous viewer last night (I didn't speak)... unfortunately there because it was reported. I didn't see any bullying, I saw people responding poorly to an even more poor display. And all the crying? There was once a pause to reapply lipstick. I'm sorry, folks. I don't buy the shit and I was pissed to have needed to go back and watch the bullshit for a possible ToS violation.

Yeah, it was all just a show and I'm amazed at the amount of people willing to buy into that load of crap *shakes head*.

Waving boobs and crying? Whats up with that?

~shakes head~



LOL and poor IIW! She HAD to stick around and endure all of it! O_O

I agree with the attention seeking and what's even more disturbing is how people give it and feed the issue by getting themselves riled up to go on the offensive after the people who hurt this person. There is a big difference between helping someone feel better and enabling as well as encouraging their destructive behavior. (Excessive crying, drinking, sexual displays, all in a very public way to many strangers)



Truly caring for someone probably shouldn't involve patting them on the back when they do these things. I'm sure someone does need help but it certainly doesn't seem like they will get it here...

Totally hit the nail on the head with that, Morri. I was surprised to see these 'friends' encouraging it.

Yes, it's actually pretty sad. There were a number of enablers present. A real friend should of private messaged her and talked her out of the webcam, instead of offering to "get" the offenders. Unfortunately I don't think this occurs just when she has been drinking to excess. I just can't see her as the victim in this case.

So glad I missed that show. It sounds like a nightmare.

And really icky.

I don't think you should see anyone as the victim, Pandora, you're exactly right. Seeing someone as a victim doesn't really help them. We can't help how people frustrate or hurt us, but we CAN help our mature reactions to the situation. I'm not saying we should never be bothered by what people say, but this was an extreme...

Did she really do all that?!! I choose not to view her cam after I visited it one time and saw nothing of interest to me so I missed the show. What you just described is not only inappropriate but against the rules. So if this is true then it means you get your cam suspended for inappropriate conduct and content only if you don't have a whole bunch of people get riled and come to your defense?

It has to be flagged at the right moment and an Admin see it, I wasn't fast enough.

I too was an anonymous viewer as well last night with her little show, and I was shocked at her little outburts and self pitty, and how everyone came to came to her aid. This shows that in real life she gets no attention, so she feels the need to come here and cry and shake her tits and ass to get a little attention to make herself feel wanted. These types of chicks make me sick. Any way I agree with you all here. Drunken cam shows need to be taken back to vampirefreaks.

Oh, thank you Pandora.

Next time could you please excuse yourself before vomiting? Thanks :P

some great comments here from people who's opinion I respect always. I tend to agree. Things like that are not what this site is about, what would that look like to members of the public who may have been future members of VR? Really not a good image in my opinion. Athough there is nothing wrong with drinking, nor even drinking too much its sad to see someone not in control to the point that folk feel they have to pander to that kind of behaviour.

seem's to me this is an issue only cancer can fix because if the trouble is the admins didnt see it or the flag didnt catch it in time then maybe a different tool is needed or an upgrade to the current flag system is needed to catch these kinds of things...just sayin.

As I had written in my own journal, it was all attention seeking, and yes as Images pointed out she did take the time out of her dramatic crying session to apply lip stick.



So very many good points have been made. And Jadee yes I agree with you 100 % on the issue of not being able to flag it at the right time. Because she was flagged several times. I flagged her myself.



Nowm on the subject of all the people that were there to support her in her time of need People did continue to tell her to check her in box, but when your an attention starved drama queen why bother to check the messages when your getting more attention from the water works ? I have voiced my opinion on the entire matter. And for those people that were consoling her you played right into her pity party.



Because someone that really wanted help would have gotten off cam and not continue to play the cry me a river music and go from highs to lows --- all the while manipulating her audience - as the victim. When it was very clear that she was not the victim - because all the attention that she did receive was due to her actions and she got what she wanted. Sorry Jadee I didn't realize how much I typed lol /rant

I have noticed that people continue to throw pity parties as long as they have someone to entertain.

And there are plenty of dysfunctionals here to come to their "rescue". They don't get that they are being manipulated.

lulz

and let's not forget to shake our tata's for the cam

taa taas and alcohol, every mans dream come true lol...can you say trailer trash?

Well said, maybe she should have taken her roommates advice after he told her she had too much drink. Yes this is a Pg-13 site, but if you feel the need to shove your tits in the camera there are other sites to do this at. Enough said.

*Nods*

i feel the same way...i think there should be a limit per year on name changes

It is kinda ridiculous on the amount of times some members are changing their names. I generally delete them from my friends list just because I get annoyed with trying to keep up with who they are. Plus I don't give 10's to name changers and that seems to hurt their feelings lol.

I know exactly what you both mean. I am sick of people changing their name all the time - I know of at least 4 people who change their names on a weekly basis and I am tired of trying to keep up with them. I am starting to delete them from my lists and I refuse to rate them from now on, and if they push me to rate them then I am going to start rating them below a 5. It is ridiculous and I do agree that there needs to be a limit on how many times you can change your name.



Yes, I changed my name more than once, but it was for a good reason. Not because I wanted higher rates, but because I am trying to remain anonymous with the ex's new spouse and the drama that person causes. The less that person knows about me, the less drama that one can cause on the site.

Yep. It bugs the hell out of me. I like my name, I sure won't be changing it anytime soon, besides the whole process is too much like hard work and I'm too lazy LOL

I am still the same person ;)



No name changes for this Rubber Ducky! ;)

oh crap now I feel guilty guys :(



I am Pagan on my other profile, got given this profile by a friend and eventually changed the username from Persianpaul to Selkie. I feel more than a little contradictory given my post as Pagan here previously. LOL my BAD am I forgiven? :P

*bounce*



WELL we can have drinky-cam..I JEST! :P

Oooooo lala ;)

:P



hmm, drinkey-cam, not drunky-cam?

Maybe you should get on the VR webcam and wearing a school girl's uniform on.

Do it - it's fun to webcam on here.



Especially if you're doing something interesting to begin with.

Do it. :)

Geez, you don't like the smokers and you don't like the drinkers. You're no fun. What's next, the chicks that are prettier than you? :P

I didn't know there were any....:P

I don't think any of them have done anything they couldn't just simply laugh about later. They are speaking 'live' with their best online buds and being silly. Even Cancer got toasted on cam the first week they were implemented :P



It all depends on what kind of drunk you are, I guess... alcohol affects us all differently. Don't do it if you're depressed, don't do it if you have secrets you don't want to get out, or are simply holding things 'in' :D

I wasn't bashing them at all, some are my friends, just saying that "I" would make an ass of myself.

Yeah, I wasn't implying it was a bashing- I just meant... their ideas of fun are obviously different and I don't think anyone's done anything they'd regret. Just a simple response because you said you were 'surprised' how many are doing it.

yeah, tact has no place on vr lol

i'm just waiting for them juggalos to get high on cam one of these days lol

Personally, I think the conversation I witnessed when Cancer was drunk on cam was endearing and RAWR, he's hawt!



But ah, I wouldn't be drunk on-cam, albeit I'd pay a pretty penny to see some high Juggalos. ; )

o.0 damn.

and I was being nice...

O.O Holy cow batman! Some people are just cyber whores. I can name a few XP

~munches popcorn~ oooh things are about to get good ~moves to the edge of my chair~

*munches on more popcorn*

for some reason i think i know who you are talking about heh

ooohhhh , This is gonna get good , don't know for sure who this is about but its getting good.

Agreed~

I guess some women can only feel attractive and accepted by men by baring it all. They feel this is the only way to get a man. Which is sad really

that is gross i have seen some pretty nasty looking people on cam i give credit to them just having bad genes lol