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OK.....before we get in to it....I'm not talking physical pain, I mean MENTAL and/or EMOTIONAL pain.

I'm asking I guess because I need to know I'm not alone. For some time, I was seeing someone. Everything was going fine until, for a reason unknown to me, she just stopped talking to me. If I called, she would not pick her phone, and If we were both on-line and I tried to IM her.....she would not respond. Needless to say, it has left me heart-broken.

I don't know what is going on. Did I do something wrong? Did something bad happen to her? Or does she just want to end our relationship.

I love her, but this silence and not-knowing has thrust into a severe depression. I'm at the point where I can't take the pain anymore, and I'm thinking that I should just walk away, and end the misery instead of waiting for her to talk to me again.

I sent her an e-mail telling her how I feel (I didn't want to sent it e-mail, but she didn't give me any choice), and now I'm waiting for her to call me and talk, but I'm not hopeful that she will.

I guess I want to know if any of you would have gone thru the same shit I have....and is it worth enduring more? Or should I put up the white flag?

I don't really know what the situation is... so my advice is to give her some time. She should at least give you the curtisy of a reply... the emotional pain lets you know that there is still love there. It's when you don't feel anything anymore that there's a problem....

Wow. That is a terrible situation to endure.
I too have been in arduous situations where I felt like i was between a dagger and a wall.
It is said that hind sight is 20/20-- with that in mind, looking back now -- I see that I should have just moved on instead of hitting rock bottom on several occasions. You are only hurting yourself by continuing to place yourself in such painful predicaments. You have to value yourself more than just dragging around waiting for someone to reply. Life doesn't have a "hold" button where everything freezes on the request of an individual.
Give it time. She will either come around again or your wounds will be healed.

Remember, the only constant in life is change..you either adapt to circumstances or become obsolete

best wishes to you as you shift into different stages in your life. Sometimes you have to take situations as learning experiences and move on.

I'm sorry hawk that's aweful. I was in a situation where i was heartbroken and seriously depressed for months and months! It's not worth it to sit and wait, some things just aren't meant to be...the longer you wait the more pain you feel, and i tell ya it's definetly not worth it!

but then again i don't know how your realtionship was so it's kinda hard to say it's not worth it since i dont really know...

mental and emotional pain is the same as physical pain in the sense that it is all relative......some people shrug off things that would crush others utterly.....simply because they have seen so much worse that it seems not too bad to them....
if you meet a person who is all broken up about something you think is really trivial....keep in mind that the level of pain they are feeling is relative to all other pain they have experienced in their life.....so even if it is trivial to you then it is still the worst pain that person has lived through....