My Bisexuality Blog (from 2005)04:25 Dec 11 2007
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Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night. ~Woody Allen
This quote always made me shake my head. (Woody is truly a straight man.) If only there was some truth in this quote. Case in point: I am home alone on a Saturday night and was alone on Friday night as well. I have not been out with a girl since last October, (I asked her out), and I am rarely asked out by men.
The term 'bisexual' is often misleading to many especially straight men. Let me see if I can shine some light on it for those interested:
1. Bisexual does not mean someone who is promiscuous nor a person who is only into casual sex.
2. Bisexual does not mean a person who is incapable of fidelity in a relationship. Bisexuals can be monogamous and many true bisexuals are.
3. Not all bisexual women have bleach blonde hair and big fake boobs or look like porn stars. In fact, most look like normal women and are tough to pick out in a crowd.
4. Bisexual men are not all "confused gay men". By nature all human beings are psychically bisexual - capable of loving a person of either sex.
As If: Bisexuality is NOT making out while intoxicated with a female friend at the bar, in the parking lot, on the dance floor, in the jacuzzi, etc in order to get the attention of that cute guy. This behaviour can be fun but let's not get confused here. This does not make you bisexual or gay. If you regularly do this, leave the cute guy at the bar and then go home with the female friend and make her squeal for hours, you may just be bisexual or gay - if nothing else you ARE a tease.
5. If you date a bisexual, it does not mean you can bring home a girl/guy for them (which really means for you) without their consent. They do not like it when you test drive the above to make sure they will be compatible for you both. If you are going into a threesome situation, take your time and pick your partner wisely. GET TESTED FOR AIDS AND STDS - having fun should not cause permanent damage or death. Be smart.
6. Bisexuality doesn't mean you have to have multiple sex partners simultaneously on a regular basis or ever. (Just because it is your fantasy to fuck 2 women at once, doesn't mean it is their fantasy to see you try.)
7. If your girlfriend/boyfriend is bisexual, that does not give you free reign to hit on other women/men in front of her/him, have sex with someone else or constantly talk about having a threesome. Your partner may like a threesome every now and then or maybe even everyday but it is possible that they don't ever want one, they may consider it as cheating or they are just tired of hearing about it. Don't assume because they are bisexual that they have the same fantasies and desires.
8. Many bisexuals, especially men, do not identify as bisexual, even though their sexual behaviour is otherwise indicative of bisexuality. {Have you ever met a gay man who loves to suck your nipples?? I have } Male bisexuality is still regarded as "disgusting behaviour" by many, and that it is the reason for the spread of AIDS in the 80's and early 90's. Female bisexuality is virtually the opposite and is in fact promoted and encouraged.
REMEMBER: It's not a person's sexual preference that creates the risk to health but it is unsafe sexual practices. (Guns don't kill people - people with guns kill people and monkeys with guns kill people.- Eddie Izzard)
9. True bisexuality is not a trend or a choice. You are born and love as you will. If you are doing it for someone else, or to get someone else, you are not bisexual & should reconsider your relationship and examine your self-esteem.
FUN FACT: 87 per cent of the "bisexual" girls at the trendy bars are drunk, high, etc, are trying to get a certain man's attention or are just trying to get attention in general. People who are "bi-curious" prefer to have their first experience as a one-on -one not a threesome, foursome, gang bang, etc.
10. Being bisexual is not “The best of both worlds.” I can’t speak for any one person other than myself, but many times being bisexual has not made things easier or better.
It can be very difficult and downright miserable at times. Be more understanding if you date a bisexual, don't immediatley plan all these threesomes you think you are gonna have, don't make that the major topic of conversation moving forward and don't run out and join a swinger's club. If you do, you are giving them a clear sign that you only want them for the chance to see 2 women together (or men) not because you truly like them.
Robyn Ochs said it best "I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted -- romantically and/or sexually -- to people of more than one sex, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."
For me it has always been about the person not their body parts.
If this enlightens 1 person on something, I have done well.
Kisses and licks to you all,
Sandinista
Oh and BTW: the Dictionary.com definition of bisexuality is
bi·sex·u·al ( P ) Pronunciation Key (b-sksh-l)
adj.
Of or relating to both sexes.
Having both male and female reproductive organs; hermaphroditic.
Botany. Denoting a single flower that contains functional staminate and pistillate structures; perfect.
Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of either sex.
n.
A bisexual organism; a hermaphrodite.
A bisexual person.
bisexuality
n 1: showing characteristics of both sexes [syn: androgyny, hermaphroditism] 2: sexual activity with both men and women
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