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well i am date this girl and this guy. but my boyfriend says that i have to brake up with my girlfriend or he will leave me so im just asking what should i do?

ditch the one who makes you choose

Sorry hun, but I think this should go in the personals post area.

well i didn't want it to be there so sorry :(

Sorry, but I am just stating my opinion dear.

ok :(

Hey unloved, not trying to be a bitch or nothing, but PhoenixTempest was just giving you a bit of friendly advise, becasue if a mod see's this here they will more then likely move it, if not kill it....

...and no one likes a smart ass...that was just rude...

yikes.

Hey HellChildDami, I think you are assuming that unloved was purposely trying to be a smart ass. Some people say things differently and just because you don't know how she meant it, doesn't mean you should immediately accuse her of being rude. You do see how she said "ok" after what PhoenixTempest said right? And the little :( is a sad face, not a sarcastic one rolling its eyes or anything. Her intents were probably good, unloved's I mean, and she most likely didn't mean any harm by saying what she didn't want.

Now in answer to your question unloved, I say that the guy has to go. If he can't accept that you have a girlfriend and want him at the same time, then well he doesn't need to be with you. I had to ditch my guy of close to 8 months because of that. No one should ever have to choose between two people, not like that ever. Not even I would make anyone do a thing like that. So cheer up and go for the chick. :)
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yeah well sorry, wasn't trying to be rude either...

I know you weren't, and I apologize for making it appear as if you were.

okies.... sidesteps sling fest j/ks lol and to ur question??? been in the same position.... All i said to my b/f "If you cannot understand or accept me for who I am, then we have no relationship!" He accepted me, then a month later dumped me *shrugs* you have to understand that ppl do have opinions, and some might not be able to accept your life and the way inwhich you choose to live it.... in those cases its better that you end the relationship with that person, because they will never be able to accpet you....

::gets off soap box:: :P

in my personal experiance, i would usually tell you to go with what your heart tells you to do. but in this case im not, in my opinion you should ditch the guy because he sounds like an azz, and doesnt know how to honor your feelings. i believe it to be very rude of him to try and force you to decide between him and the other girl. he should have kept his mouth shut and left time go by, and maybe you would have choosen him, but since he didnt, ditch his azz.

guys guys guys

here, have some of this....



it will help all of us live in bloody harmony ;)

I truly wasn't trying to be a smart ass...and if y'r intrested...no one should make you choose...but I you also have to look at both sides of the coin...who were you with first...does he justify asking this for himself because he was with you first, or the other??? You need to understand his thinking as well...

well......I have been in both monogamous and polygamous relationships......and there is one truth I have found.....if all parties are not interested in the poly thing......IT WILL NOT WORK....these types of relationships are touchy to begin with....very hard to keep together on a good day....but the better question here is....who do you care more for....which one would it bother you more to lose....
because once the decision has been made.....by ANY of the three of you...then a decision MUST be worked out....I myself am currently in a touchy situation similar....not the same but similar....but you have to set where and what the boundaries are VERY VERY openly...or it will collapse like a house of cards in the wind.....this answer could take all damn night tho...so I'll leave off there

Technically speaking, this post should be in this category... As it is not a post from someone looking.

There is nothing wrong with the guy forcing you to choose. He knows what he wants. Do you?

In my experience, women seldom make decisions like this unless they are nudged. This relationship could've gone on for some time, with some participants not 100% happy. Daermon brought up some great points... All of which are reasons why I do not believe in polygamous relationships.

Well, from my 2 points.. VvvvV

1: it would do it for me thinking my gf had just been biting another female all over!

2: relationships are the cause of alot of pain, anyway, if it's not this problem it will be something else... *licks lips*