23:28 Nov 11 2025
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Hello to the community! If you don't know me, I've been around the community for a bit, mostly lurking in the shadows, as we do, haha. I'd recently taken a step back, mostly for peace of mind issues. During the time I more active on here, I was contacted/approached by another member. I did not respond to any overtures, and did not report any messages or mentions with my name in them to admin, though I had been urged by other members to do so. Simply put, I did not think it was a big deal. When I'd made the decision to step back, I messaged some people that I'd become friendly with, to let them know what was going on and thank them for their kindness. One of the people I ended up messaging was the above mentioned member. I simply wished him well. So I stepped away, checking in every now and again.
Recently, this member reached out and shared contact information. Despite the warnings given by my friend and other members, I thought Why not? and contacted him. We had conversations, both via text and phone call. Some of those conversations were quite intimate. (I know, insert facepalm here) But then I began to see red flags. When I wasn't immediately available, he'd get upset and send not great messages. We talked about it (well, argued a bit first), and eventually I said I wanted to take a step back because I was worried that he wanted more than I could offer and at this point could only offer him friendship. He initially agreed, but then began sending messages I was not comfortable with. I did not respond. Today, I was asleep most of the day, and did not respond to his messages. I woke to a threat.
Understandably, he has his point of view, and says that he feels used and thrown away. I feel that we were both consenting adults and I was very clear about why I was taking a step back.
Why am I bringing this here? The threat that I woke to this morning was that he was going to post my pictures and contact information for the community to see. Now, while I am not ashamed of any of my actions, and the three pictures are fairly tame ( two of my face and one of my cleavage - still pretty covered up), I don't necessarily want my personal information shared.
This threat might have swayed another woman. BUT I know who I am, and I do not cower at threats. I'm not ashamed of my body, and I accept that MY choices were consentual in the moment. However, I know that there are other people on here who may be or may have been in similar situations (Not saying with the same member, just in general). This post is for you, and anyone out there who may be in a situation where you are seeing red flags but might be afraid to call them out, for this very reason. To those people, I see you, your feelings are valid, and you have the right to establish boundaries without fear of threats.
I have since told this person I am done, and wished them well. He may follow through with his threat, I don't know. I certainly cannot stop him. But here's my cautionary tale, transparent for all to see. Be careful who you trust, friends. xoxo, Bella
ps. if anyone has any questions, feel free to message me. thanks
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Cadrewolf2
23:35 Nov 11 2025
Well Stated
BellaBlackwood
23:36 Nov 11 2025
Thank you