The Ultimate Vampire Resource and Directory

"I need to understand the world"

Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical,

and insightful.

How to Get Along with Me

• Be independent, not clingy.





• Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.





• I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.





• Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that
  
  I am feeling uncomfortable.





• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your
  
  sincerity.





• If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because
  
  it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.





• don't come on like a bulldozer.





• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music,
  
  overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

What I Like About Being a FIVE

• standing back and viewing life objectively





• coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects





• my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure





• not being caught up in material possessions and status





• being calm in a crisis

What's Hard About Being a FIVE

• being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world





• feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all





• being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be





• watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or
  
  technical skill, do better professionally

FIVEs as Children Often

• spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on





• have a few special friends rather than many





• are very bright and curious and do well in school





• have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
  
  





• watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information





• assume a poker face in order not to look afraid





• are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict





• feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

FIVEs as Parents

• are often kind, perceptive, and devoted





• are sometimes authoritarian and demanding





• may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
  
  





• may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy


Discover the 9 Types of People


Harper

SanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages