wonky06:04 Sep 20 2010
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well, things have certainly changed. idk how or when exactly, but they did.
as i may or may not have wrote about, my husband plays in a band, most of our friends are in bands, and we help promote each other. easy peasy rite? wrong.
some we are close to, some not so close and others are like family. so what is going on. when did everything change and it get so scrambled.
now my husband had been working 7 days a week except for the days off his band played. then he'd take time off. so it was my job to go out and be the social butterfly. not so hard really. i enjoy it. i love the energy and the people. its a euphoric feeling to be surrounded by that much energy.
well, a group of friends we are VERY close decided to take time off, which is no big deal either. all bands do it, its how new songs get written, cds are made, you get the point.
well the band had a see ya soon show. of course my husband was working, nothing new. but the vibe was off all night long. it just wasnt rite. i knew something was up, we all did. i wasnt getting the normal affections i was used to, i was from most, but not everybody. i did notice this was a pattern that was starting. so i didnt worry bout it. i asked certain people, and yea, they noticed it too.
so i hung with those who showed their usual affection and left the others alone. no biggy, so i thought. but at the end of the night... it apparently was.
i had brought some friends with me i dont normally. i thought maybe that was it, though i knew that was crazy. it doesnt matter. and when we decided to leave, i told one of the ones who seemed to be outting me good night. he hugged me as usual and i felt that calming i always get from him, he asked why in fact i was leaving so soon. i gave him a reason, just not the one pertaining to his way off vibe.
so he hugged me again, and when i turned to kiss him on the cheek as we always do, he turned further in to actaully kiss me. now it wasnt a big deal. it was a quick peck, nothing more, but it surely wasnt on the cheek or on top of the head like it always is.
the friends i had brought with me didnt say anything till we were out in thier van. they knew the vibe was off all night, they had sensed it too. and he hadnt acted normal all night long. none of the normal jumping of the stage and singing with me like he always does, no coming up and putting his arm around me, no walking by and just touching me, and just hanging out. and yes he does that when my husband IS present.
so yea, i was stuuned a little. had he acted normal, i probably wouldnt have been. and no, my friends didnt miss that. they saw more than i did, apparently.
and when i told my husband, he wasnt shocked, nor did it bother him. he said he knew it was coming, it was just a matter of time.
but as the weeks went on, our friend quit answering my e-mails, my texts and well, he just doesnt talk to me anymore. he doesnt want to. so i agreed not to go to anymore of their shows and not be his friend.
well, they play again coming soon. i havent talked to him in a while. my husband sent me an invite to a show i thought was his band, but after i responded and said i would be there, i found out his band wasnt going to be there, it was our friend's band.
now the last e-mail i sent our friend was i would never even look at him nor talk to him among other things. and i am still very close to the other band members. some of us talk everyday. i figured i could be thier friend, i just wouldnt show up at the band house if he was there nor would i go to a show. so inlight of his invite my husband sent me, i'm kinda stuck now. and to top it off, shortly after i posted i was going to this show, the guy posted he was going. well duh was all i could think, cause its his band thats playin.
asking my husband why he did this to me, he shrugged. he doesnt know if he's working that night yet or not because now their on 5-6 days a week instead of 7. and when italked to one of the other band members about it, and asked what in hades was i going to do after i told HIM no way in hades would i ever grace him with my presence basically, they told me to come anyway. this had to end, he was wrong, not me. they want me there, and i want to be there. but i dont want to deal with him. not after what he did and not with the way he treated me because of it. i shrugged it off, let it go, pretended it didnt even happen, hades, it doesnt even bother his girl because she knows it wasnt nothing. but somethings got him going.
so what am i gong to do? well, i'm going. i'm gonna hang with the others as i usually do and just ignore he exists. this aughtta be fun.
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Oceanne
07:30 Sep 20 2010
Im confused..what is it the guy did?