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COMMENTS
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leviathandelioncourte
18:22 Mar 03 2010
Honestly, letting go is very hard. Believe me I still have feelings for my ex fiance, I havent seen or heard anything from her for over 6 years now.Yea it hurts, but over time if you fall back in love with that same person maybe its meant to be
Seeker2112
21:13 Nov 10 2010
Two schools of thought on this one. Opposite sides of the coin, I suppose:
The first is to refuse to let go. In my opinion, to do this only makes the individual resist even more. Ultimately, if you refuse to let someone leave, you are only prolonging the inevitable and giving birth to resentment and animosity which will result in the destruction of the relationship anyways.
The second school is to let go of that person. If you love someone, you want to see them happy and in the place that they belong. We often times get caught up in our feelings of love and assume that where that person belongs is with us forever. There seasons in life, just as in nature, some longer than others. I personally believe that if you care about someone, and they wish to leave, then you will respect their decision and let them go, while making it clear that you don't desire thtem to leave and hope they will return. If you are resolute in your deisres regarding the relationship, then the ball truly is in their court, so to speak.
As for falling in love with them all over again after having been apart, that is a tricky situation. I assume for the sake of argument, that we are not talking about obsession, but rather the existence of a genuine love and respect for the one who left. In that case, near as I can see it, there are only three choices available.
1) confess your love to the individual and hope they return it, but in this you face the sting of rejection as a possible outcome as well.
2) Remove that person completely from your life and direct your attention elsewhere in the hopes that their memory will diminish and you will be able to move on. This, oftentimes , is accompanied by a mourning period which people often mistake as the belief that they cannot go on without the individual. The death of the relationship being confused with the idea that it wouldn't hurt if they weren't "meant" to be together.
3) Keep your feelings to yourself, and quietly watch from the sidelines as the other person enjoys their life, while you sacrifice yours. This is the most unhealthy, as it invloves inaction. In my opinion, to do something is better to do nothing.
Just my opinion.....