Made the single relationship status Facebook official a little bit ago. Really, I just made a post and disabled the comments so nobody talks any crap… Definitely wanna avoid any shit-stirring people because he and I don’t have any issues with each other. Things are smoother with us than they have ever been.
Really, 22+ years in the making… I am getting divorced. We’ve talked about it for years, but I never really knew what I was going to do or how I was going to do it. But we have been in separate rooms all of these years.
About a week and a half ago I had a talk with him and we agreed that we could get divorced amicably and stay friends. I told him that as long as the rest of my time here is stress-free, I will agree to waive my rights to his retirement and alimony (I do NOT need it). Being married for nearly 30 years, I am entitled to half of his retirement. But I won’t take it. I also told him that I will only take what’s in my bedroom and certain things in the kitchen that he would never use. We shook hands on it lol… Then gave a hug.
So zero drama, no hard feelings… And no one needs to say, “oh I’m so sorry”… There needs to be a huge damn congratulations because we’ve both needed to move on forever. In fact, we joked that when we get our divorce papers we will take a selfie together with a huge smiles on our faces LOL
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At the very least, it’ll be like seven months before I can go anywhere because I’m still working on my dog’s service training. I am also on the waitlist for “Guitars 4 Vets” and I want to finish that program.
I have a place to land when I leave and it’s someone I’ve known since high school. Later, we were also stationed in the Marines together in Japan. Over the years we’ve played World of Warcraft together, even with my husband and son. So this is no stranger. I know I will be safe.
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My husband and I also agreed to keep this off of Facebook – so any of you who are connected to both of us, please don’t mention any of this stuff there (even if you’re not connected to both of us – don’t make any comments on my posts there about this). We don’t like to talk about personal things on mass social media… This place is different because- it just is.
My son is also cool with this – as he’s also known for all these years that we’ve been separated living under the same roof, and I know he wants us both to be happy. We will all get along just fine. This is the best case scenario. So many people have nightmare divorces, and that’s not going to be what happens here.
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COMMENTS
I don't think you could have a better opportunity to move forward. Very happy for you and excited for your adventures ahead!
That's so cool.
I am happy for you. It is so great that you both are able to remain friends and end things the way you are. Another chapter to begin and more new adventures await!
This is pretty damn amazing! Loves ❤️ it so much!
Yes, I am happy to be planning my move- I would say around my birthday this year. We will see if I have accomplished what I need to by then.
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WutheringHate
17:25 Feb 15 2025
back when i (mis)used facebook, i used to deliberately do that all the time, but leave the comments on so i could enjoy a nice coffee while i sat back and read the shitstorm that followed
always good for a chuckle that was :p