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Just to Focus...

17:02 Nov 30 2019
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I’ve been there, experiencing EXTREMELY unhelpful preoccupied thoughts that induce a state of discomfort (such as anxiety, sadness, or frustration). To change how you feel takes WORK. Lol ALL CAPS LOCK KIND OF WORK. What I’m about to say may seem odd, but I do this often. SPEAK OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF, and talk yourself out of your thought process. Lol obviously you don’t want to do this in public, so in those cases I write to myself on my notepad app (kind of like journaling). Create a new perspective and talk yourself out of your original one. Things to consider: 1) Can you do anything to change this circumstance NOW? If not, acknowledge that. 2) Do you know 100% that your thoughts are true? Is there evidence? If not, acknowledge that. 3) Is there another way to view this situation? If so, make them up. Most likely your thought process is a made up narrative, so might as well make up a new one that serves you better.

Then, FOCUS on what you’re actually doing. Are you driving? Eating? Working? If your default thoughts pop back up, focus on your new perspective then back to what you’re doing.

Then, take ACTION. If you’re dwelling or stewing, get up and do something else. Boredom feeds discomfort. Also, you can take action with your situation and find evidence that proves or disproves your old or new thoughts, that way you aren’t guessing (try to focus more on the new, more helpful perspective). OR, you can ACT how you’d like to feel or how you’d like to be. If you’re sad because your thoughts are making you that way, reframe those thoughts and ask yourself what would a person who is in a better place be doing right now? Go do that (socialize, hike, exercise, create something, meditate, make gains). If your emotions are strong, that’s OK. Feel them. Self-soothe. Get validation. But I still suggest doing these other techniques, too.


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Predicting...

22:25 Nov 22 2019
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I’ve talked with a few people this week who’ve expressed worry about things that “might” happen to them…worries about getting bad news, being late to an appointment, someone getting mad at them, etc. I told them all, “Go slow and stick with what you know.” What I mean by this is take your life one moment at a time, and to remember, we cannot tell the future (although that’d be interesting if we could). To make up predictions about your day, especially predictions that cause stress, is VERY unhelpful. Remain present and stick with the facts. If something does come up that’s stressful (like you get bad news) you can deal with it in the moment, because honestly, that’s all we really can do. To “future trip” is to use energy now for something that hasn’t happened. Let your life unfold and deal with stressors if they’re in front of you. In the meantime, be here, now.


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