23:19 Mar 01 2012
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We spend up to 40 weeks protected in our mothers' womb gestating into a small, spiritual creature, with no expectations. We are born. Some of us are born to start a family while others of us are born into one. If we survive the ordeal of child-birth, we are then taken care of until we become old enough to start crawling, taking our first tiny steps of independence.
After awhile exploring our new world, we learn how to talk, understanding the association of objects with specific words. As we grow older we begin to understand those words in a deeper, more meaningful concept. After a time, we are entered into the schooling system, where we are taught an array of subjects, mathematics, social sciences, english and the proper use of them and how they can applied in the real world when we do become independant adults. We begin to develop behaviorial patterns during school to either be friends (social), the one who is bullied (anit-social) or the one who is doing the bullying (anti-social). High school is more demanding, we learn about deadlines, proper presentation, grammar skills and competition, moreso than in middle school. Then college or university where we truly learn how to cope under pressure, become reclusive and meet the demands of the curriculums - but by this time we learn how to broaden our horizons - furthering our knowledge, life options, and start planning for careers or for some, family life again.
But as we grow and age, we are not only conditioned in a family life situation, be it the younger or older sibling, the middle child or the only child. Each part in a life is still conditioning us, sometimes without our conscious knowledge of who we will become as adults, what effects our life choices will have on us - noone can ever predict their future, no matter how well planned out it may have been.
As each person is uniquely different in their own way, so too are their perceptions, ideals, morals, ethics and beliefs. You could have twins separated at birth, given to two different families, raised differently, and yet while they still have the same identical dna structure, would be entirely different from one and other, even if they did have some similarity with mannerisms. It will depend on how you are raised, the environment in which you are raised, the beliefs bestowed upon you while maturing and your ideals of the world you live in. Children born poorly would have a much different outlook on life than let's say, someone born into a wealthy family.
It does not matter what our race, gender, religion or creed - we are all different from one and other. As adults in an ever-evolving, technological world, we then are able to recognise the difference between right and wrong, even if it does have a different meaning for each and everyone else. Something which may seem wrong to one, may seem perfectly right for someone else. For instance, someone who loves animals would never dream of becoming a slaughter house attendant. We learn how to cope with different scenarios and circumstances that are placed before us and we attempt to surpass that given ordeal to the best of our own ability. Just because someone is an athelete doesn't mean they would be able to always run a marathon.
Just because you don't understand another human doesn't mean you have to shun them, or even befriend them to get to know them. It just merely means they are different than you - and that's perfectly fine - that is what defines the human race from other creatures, the intellect to know the difference between species. Some may believe in a God or God/s, while others believe there are none, but that doesn't prove that there is or that there isn't one. Just because you see something, doesn't necessarily mean its there or it isn't there. Can you see the wind? Or can you see the effects that the wind has as it blows through the branches of a tree? When you see something that is there, still doesn't prove that it is real. You can watch a sleight of hand magician many times and still ponder at his tricks. Same thing with hearing. I'm sure that everyone at some point in their lives have heard things that go bump in the night while in their beds, yet can't explain or acknowledge what made the noise. Our senses go hand in hand, more often than not. Is seeing really believing? Is knowing really wisdom? Are the facts real or speculative? Nothing in this world is a given. Nothing can be proved to be right to everyone, nor can wrongful be wrong to everyone.
I am not trying to justify anything, nor am I trying to dismiss everything, but what I am trying to say here is that no matter what your ideals are, they don't necessarily have to be mine. I am just as different as each of you who are reading this is. I know the difference between my right and my wrong, but I don't know the difference between your right and your wrong - it's mere speculation yet again, and visa-versa. Just because you don't understand something fully, doesn't necessitate the judgements you pass.
My point is, we are all uniquely different. That uniqueness is what makes us individual. This individuality will bring about sceptisms, criticisms and judgements, that's only a natural part of being "human", but don't try to force your ideals onto another - after all we are each uniquely different.
03:57 Mar 01 2012
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Believing In Yourself
The phrase "" Believe In Yourself" has taken on trite meaning, in terms of self-help programs and lame " successories" posters. Regardless, you should have confidence in your own, rational thoughts.
One of the most common problems with individuals today is that they do not believe in themselves.
Many people constantly doubt their abilities, skills, talents, opinions, and numerous other aspects that makes them who they are. For these individuals, a lot of precious time is wasted on this demeaning method of thinking. If you are looking to improve yourself, your life, the way that others see you, and the way that you see yourself, it is important to understand the importance of believing in yourself. If you miss the opportunity of accomplishing this very important goal, you will continue to miss opportunities all through your life.
When a person believes in their abilities, skills, talents, and value, they also develop a new logic to life. They understand that for every action there is definitely a reaction, however, each reaction can be a positive and fulfilling experience. These individuals have a high level of self-confidence, they are usually quite motivated, and they understand the power of positive thinking. Here, you will discover a couple of ways that you can create a positive self-belief. If you are looking to improve yourself, your life, and the general circumstances of your life, this article is for you! One of the first methods of learning to believe in yourself is learning to take a close look at yourself and being able to identify the potential that you have.
Many individuals experience many negative situations throughout their life that may lead them to believe that they pose no value to themselves or others. Usually, these thoughts are created by listening to the harsh assumptions and words of an individual who is relatively close – such as a friend, or a family member. As a result of these negative assumptions and harsh words, a person may start to actually believe what others are saying. It is important to understand that everyone has a right to their opinions, but these opinions are often only one viewpoint. Furthermore, many opinions are wrong.
One of the second methods of learning to believe in yourself is to overcome the obstacle of fear. Many individuals are frightened to attempt a new challenge or task because they are afraid of failing and not succeeding. However, any individual with a high level of self worth will quickly inform you that it is better to try, fail, and learn to succeed than it is to not try, failing, and not learning to succeed. If you are able to keep in mind that failing is just another form of winning, you are creating a strong belief in yourself. Those that fail in the attempts that they make will learn from the mistakes of the attempt. However, those that never try to attempt anything at all will stagnate in their personal growth.
The third method to building the belief of yourself is to challenge yourself. In order to do this, you should establish a list of items that you are thoroughly convinced that you are unable to do. Once you do this, you should start tackling each task, one by one. You will quickly find that you are able to do much more than you ever imagined that you could. Soon, you will discover that the list that you initially created is getting smaller and smaller. This is a great way to prove to yourself that you do offer something to yourself, your friends, your family, and your world. This will help you establish the ability to believe in yourself.
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there. To serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.
The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and to open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count.
Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it.
"If you take your eyes off your goals, all you see are obstacles."
8 Tips for Believing In Yourself
1. Set goals. When you set goals, you have control.
2. Recognize when you achieve your goals, so that you will build your confidence.
3. Consider reasons you fail. Everyone fails to achieve some goal, but if you learn from the failure, you will be more likely to succeed in the future.
4. Use realistic expectations to judge your success. Do not expect to run a four minute mile, until you have trained and conditioned to run a four minute mile.
5. Listen to critics, but never let them convince you that you are less than you are. Some critics will tear you down to make themselves look bigger and better, while others will offer critical advice to help you make changes to improve yourself.
6. Give your time and energy to others. When you do this, you will get positive feed back and respect from others. These are building blocks for self respect...which is essential to believing in yourself.
7. Don't give up on your dreams, goals or aspirations for you never know how right they truly are until you put them into action.
8. Believe in yourself and you will do your best. Believing in yourself is the key to success in life.
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