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i was just wondering if anyone had any advice on how deal with the feelings of hoplessness that so many deal with everyday, me being one of them.

yes, i can understand. sorry to hear you have felt that way too. its an utterly alone feeling. ive had my near exit points too. ha....*shaking head at myself* but, i believe in karma, and all that jazz, and i certainly dont want to come back to learn the same shit again. i believe that we did this all to ourselves, the good, bad and the ugly. its shit we are here to learn from, or doomed to repeat. i believe we planned all of this before we were even born. its not personal, you know? i mean, its very personal to us, sure. but like, with assholes....they are who they need to be, with us in their lives, so that we (and them) can learn and advance spiritually. its supposed to be. and perhaps, we go through this misery, so that we can experience it, yes, and to have compassion and understanding, and empathy for others feeling the same way. this will only help us, and others in the future. our past is what makes us who we are today.

i lovingly call them assholes. you know what im talking about. the type...the ones that hurt us. the ones that arent sensitive to our obviously tender heart...but they are who they need to be, for us to be who we are destined to be.


we are spiritual beings, having a human experience. =) all playing out our roles this time around. and hell, we are living by example and showing the assholes, a better way to be, and that it really is possible. =)

i know its hard to not get sucked into such emotional turmoil. i have a permanant address there. haha....but its imperitive to find another angle to view the situations sometimes. its our only salvation from the pain. we made these contracts with these other energies of light, to do what we need to do. and be sure and accept openly and gladly the good stuff that has happened and that comes as well, as this is a result of your soul plan too. you did it, so embrace it! =)
that is my thoughts on that. =) course, thats my opinion. and you know what they say about that....opinions are like assholes....everyone's got one, and they all stink. HA...

...."but its imperitive to find another angle to view the situations sometimes"...

This is so true Jamie....sometimes the best thing to do is get outside advise, or try your thinking differently...

i deal with it alone, i like to be by myself and reflect on things and analyze my situations.

i dunno, i deal with my feelings on my own....sometimes when i dunno what to do i go to my best friend which she is like my sister and she knows me like no one else does...

other than that i deal on my own...
sometimes is better....i dunno...


*shrug*

darknessbound, thats like me....... try and deal with what goes on in my life by myself.... its pointless for me to talk to my mum or stepdad, doesnt matter i'm i'm sad or happy, they dont care..... so i sit in my room and think about it myself.....

sometimes its really hard to deal with, and i do stupid things sometimes, and end up fallin on my ass for it lol then i crawl to my best friend who gives me a hand back on my feet.... he's been through most of what i have and so its esier for him to relate and know how to comfort me (even over the phone)....

People need to realize that hopelessness and depression is a feeling that can become a constant habit! After a while of being in a state of bad mood it's uncomfortable but to your mind it's a comfort zone because you know it. If you feel hopelessness you need to stop and be like I feel this today and reflect on it, but tomorrow I'm gonna use it for fuel to kill the level I'm at right now. I'm gonna try and not be to harsh. But if you dwell on deppression and it leads to hopelessness to often it's possible your going to have a mental collapse or start to have a behavior desorder(I do). And the last thing you need to feel is the effects of the shitty ass anti-phycotics on the market. To put it in a basket hopelessness is a normal feeling from time to time, but observe and leave it don't dweal on the shit life hold's so much more if you're out looking for it.

It is a habit... its that feeling that suddenly hits you when you grow up that not everything is going to be alright and not everything will always be sorted out. However we need to find our own sanctuary and ways to mentally cope witht hese feelings.

I wish I had an answer for you, and I hope things get better for you. Then again, if you find an answer, do let me know.

Chin up my dear x

*smiles at antania*

yup.....we understand eachother.

we solve most of our problems, but
thank god for our best friends huh?
they are sometimes the light at the end of the tunnel =)

Anything we cannot change for ourselves for the way we want them to be, it becomes a feeling of hopelessness, because you feel hopeless because you can't change it for the better or for the worse or to suit your needs, many people spend they're whole lives feeling this way for they do not know how to get rid of it, many do not feel this at all throughout they're whole life, but there is no real way to get over it, you sometimes just have to deal and cope with it

Be optimistic in spite of all and my answer for the hopeless feelings, that old tried and true expression, accept the things you cannot change and have the courage to face them and deal with them. I felt hopeless today and am even now working my way through it, one baby step at a time. I survive by starting everyday over again with new hope no matter what, it works for me.. its a strength you look deep inside for..

it's always good to take a moment and look at how your life have been, deal with what you've got, cope and then move on. things like hopelessness always come by in our lives once in a while or always. but then again, there's hope in the word hopelessness. life is full of challenges, the feeling of hopelessness being one of them.

Hopelessness....as defined: noun: the despair you feel when you have abandoned hope of comfort or success

By Websters: HO'PELESSNESS, n. A state of being desperate, or affording no hope


Hope: HOPE, n. [L. cupio.]


1. A desire of some good, accompanied with at least a slight expectation of obtaining it, or a belief that it is obtainable. Hope differs from wish and desire in this, that it implies some expectation of obtaining the good desired, or the possibility of possessing it. Hope therefore always gives pleasure or joy; whereas wish and desire may produce or be accompanied with pain and anxiety.

We always "hope" for the best in every situation that we face...and to some degree I believe that our Hope steams from our wants, needs and desires...therefore, when things don't turn out as we "hoped" we come to believe that it is a "hopeless" situation...but truly I believe that MOST nothing is truly hopeless...events may not be exactly what we EXPECT or look for them to be...but it's only hopeless if we don't change our way of thinking...

...depression isn't a HABIT. it's a chemical imbalance. it can be dealt with in many ways: medication, therapy, holistic remedies, increasing ultraviolet exposure, more sleep, a more balanced diet and exercise...just to name a few.

...and if someone says "oh c'mon...cheer up! things could be worse" or "stop feeling sorry for yourself" then they are real losers. you cannot just turn it iff and on like a faucet. tellem to git lost.

paramour:

that I truly do understand...If I had a dollar for everytime someone has said thqat too me in my life I'd be rich....


So where is my money....It's funny in a way...I have felt so hopeless at times I truly wanted to end my life...but some how I slugged my way through and now I see so many others in the same boat I once rocked along in...

Does it ever end...from one generation to another....

i would just like to thank you all for your wonderful posts. and i must agree with you vampirebretheran. lol, we have so much in common dont we bro?