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HOw can I block the Empathy i feel...
I am having some REAL troubles opeining because I am in fear of afflicting the OTHER person.
But I need to 'open up' for my OWN good.Instead i'm worryin about the other person..
If there are any well experienced Empaths out there, Please give me a pointer as to how I can block this FEELING.

Basics, ground and center... find a focus... and take care of YOU first. If you don't, then no amount of training will prevent you from affecting the other person.

Sometimes the hardest thing is to step back and take care of you, then to think about others.

In member articles there are some basic energy exercises that deal with focus and centering, even if you just focus on breath.

From what little you've given, there are thousands of ways to deal with it, it just depends on what you are fully attempting to do.

I agree with Liebe you need to start with you grounding, centring and shielding are the first things you need to learn as an empath. Always make sure your shield allows positive feelings and energies to flow through and block out negative until you can deal with negative energies. In do things you can also screen your own energies and not affect others.

I'm not understanding... why does your empathy keep you from opening up?

I'm pretty empathetic, I have no difficulty opening up to others... why can't your empathy just be a part of who you are. The other person, if they care about you the same, should understand that...

Birra I know that in the past before I had more control that my negative moods and feelings badly affected those around my just as much as my bubbly happy, air headed madness does. So learning to deal with those emotions an controlling them and blocking them from interferring with others is something I had to learn and possibly what Minx is talking about.

Birra..

It effects me because If I OPEN up and speak of my pains.. the person(s) hear of my words and then they react, some feel Pain from my words some, anger.. Well, I FEEL the effect of THAT pain, on to them, Sometimes I feel sick to my stomach and sometimes I feel a pain in my chest.
This is what stops me being OPEN when i NEED to be.. I can give snippits. But I try to avoid hurting others, hearing 'details' of my discomforts.
Written is easier, but face-to-face is really hard.

I have that problem sometimes too, but i meditate a lot and it helps me to clear my mind, then i can put up mental walls without problems.

Minx unfortunately you would have that problem as an empath or if you weren't an empath. People will feel for you and understand your pain its part of being a compassionate human being. So in reality there is no way to stop people from feeling your pain, especially someone that has been in your position and can fully understand what your going through.

Some empaths not only have the ability to sense another's feelings deeply, they also have the ability to cast their emotions on others.

If Minx has this ability, it's important to learn how to shield to protect both the self and others around you. It's a similar situation to the vampire that feeds without concern for those around them or has no control over their ability.

Minx, I find that meditation and centering and grounding, as suggested by Lady Winter Rogue, is a great help to me to start. If I meditate more, my hunger becomes slightly more controllable.

There is a book by Christopher Penczak called "The witch's shield" that contains a variety of shielding methods, symbols, associations, etc.

OK.. yes I understand that LWR..

But I then FEEL the effect OF them feeling the pain of what I have said!!

it's that part I wish to try to understand and be able to perhaps, 'block'

well you just need to learn to shield yourself hun doesn't take long to learn and once your use to do it, it becomes second nature.

Thanks Jenova and LWR..

I reckon some meditation can't do any harm and I've never Really done it.

I have been able to cross my emotions on to others... But I was only able to do it as a kid.
In my journel titled "thought associating" in stories.

ahh meditation is my thing minx let me know if you need any help with it.

any pointers to good books LWR would be Fantabulous!!

And being able to 'learn' to disconnect my ability to feel others pains, BEFORE I open up would be beneficial.

wow there are hundreds and I have read a lot I have a good one that involves the chakras. Its called 'Chakra Meditations by Layne Redmond"

The most important thing about meditation is breathing ( I been talking about this in another thread and I know I am repeating myself lmao )

Meditation is firstly about relaxing the body and mind, the rest falls into place once you have learnt to relax first.

So the first thing to learn is to breath and you can do it anywhere relaxing in a chair, sitting on a bus even at work. Just take a few mins out to breath. You do that by slowly taking a deep breath and count slowly to 10. Then hold it for a few seconds and slowly release the breath to a count of 10.. and you just keep doing it until you feel truly relaxed. Its rather simple. Then you can move to meditation music, yoga mats lol etc.

Perhaps opening up and sharing those feelings with a neutral thrid party would be a healthier approach than just blocking them?

Really instead of blocking you should learn how to deal with the emotions...You'll never get away from them and avoiding them altogether won't solve anything.

Learn how to let things move through you.

Empathy (from the Greek εμπάθεια, "to make suffer") is commonly defined as one's ability to recognize, perceive and directly experientially feel the emotion of another. As the states of mind, beliefs, and desires of others are intertwined with their emotions, one with empathy for another may often be able to more effectively define another's modes of thought and mood. Empathy is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or experiencing the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself, a sort of emotional resonance.

I can tell you why you are feeling this way I have had this problem in the past, it is because you are advancing, you are unable to let your feelings go because you feel what they feel when u try to and it intertwines

but this is what I did, I shut it all out meditate on your situation grow in your confidence, alow no entrence what so ever, take control of whats going on inside u focus deeply at your task and you've got to really want this.

or else your destined to self destruct.

§§Juliet§§

i also have the same problem and am hoping for more helpful info

Gosh it SOUNDS Collosall!!
the blocking thing to Enable the flow from myself

If you have empathy, you have a gift Minx. I would consider not to block it, but rather tailor it, to suit you. Good luck :)

u can't block it all u can to is pin it up until the end of the day but if u do that it will cause u physical pain message me is u want to know more

Part of what you are wanting to learn is the creation of boundaries.

Empath or no, all people need these to keep both those around them comfortable and themselves.

Blocking is a basic way to help you learn how to create healthy boundaries, but is not the final solution. It is just the first step.

Part of gifts is that if we do not use them, they go away. If we work on them, they grow. It is expected that we will make mistakes along the way and the best thing you can do is be patient and honest about what you are going though with others.

I'm more apathetic than anything. But I fear that people won't get what I say. I keep a lot inside because I can't trust anyone. I don't know...

No, I agree with Maia.. she needs to learn to express it in a healthy manner.

Blocking it just represses natural feelings that need to be expressed.

projective empathy feeding back on itself is a scary prospect.

i want to make sure i have this right minx.

when you open up, you make the other person feel what you are feeling, it affects them and then you feel the affects of your emotions affecting them and it sort of spirals out of control from there?

if you are projecting your emotions onto others, wether it is concious effort or not it is something you need to take control of. the projective ability that some empaths have is something that can be brought under coucious control. grounding centering and focus are the most essentioal steps to the solution yes, as well as shielding, but the most important thing is to become aware og when you are doing it. it is something that you can control, and stop. i struggled with this problem for years

Actually Minx upon thinking about this perhaps you should use your empathic ability to feel a person out, know who you can talk to and who you ccan't. For instance I know you have told me a fair bit about stuff and I have remained unaffected other than feel close to you for trusting me and caring about your pain and wanting to show some comfort and support. I haven't become depressed, angry or upset in anyway.

So perhaps its more choosing wisely who you talk to rather than blocking it off and shutting it out. That I know would be a bad thing and lead to long time problems. Gives you something to think about at least. I can show you how to recycle your energies too to cleanse yourself if that can help.

There are 3 kinds of people; those who allow emotion to write on their soul s in stone; those who allow ti to be written in sand, and those who allow it to be written in water.

Do not BLOCK your emotions, simply allow them to flow through you uncluttered like an undamaged artery that does not allow cholesterol to stick to it's walls no matter how much, or what type of cholesterol it may be.

Blocking is the problem, not the solution.

PhoenixMoreonlife.. you hit it RIGHT ON there!!

I'm welling up coz it seems you recognise it.

empathy is a form of DEEP understanding because u hold the ability of being a mother, it is a natural circle. u truly need to learn to HARNESS your impath ability ,,,,,,,,,,,,u can do awesome things 4 others when u learn to listen not fear your powers,,,,,,,,be well

How would I find my grounding to be able to start this process?
My energies seem, bottomless!
I can get a sense of people almost right away, my opinion rarely changes once I feel it.


SORRY I spelt your name wrong phoenixmorlithe...

Indigobizarre..
thank you for that information.

It is a great source.

Blessed be