I'm Back and Really Hurt20:50 Apr 25 2014
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I am back on Vampire Rave and it has been a rollercoaster of emotions, good and bad. Back in November 2012, I had a major health issue to contend with, a stroke. It has been a long trip back, both in my daily life and my online life. Yesterday was my first day back on VR and it was really nice connecting with old friends and meeting some new ones. At times, it felt like there wasn’t a gap of almost a year and a half. I felt like I had come home.
In August of 2012, I posted a journal entry called “Gender: Unspecified.” It was a response to many who messaged me and insisted on knowing my gender. In brief, the entry explains that I am neither male nor female in the way most of us look at it. I’m not transgendered or anything like that, but I’m exactly as God and nature made me with sexual characteristics of both sexes. Over all, the entry was met with mostly positive responses, but a couple of really negative ones halted my original plan to follow up with more about my situation. However, as people inquired, I sent them to my journal and that mostly worked to satisfy them.
I have now been back 24 hours and I regret to report that I have already gotten into two fights over this. In addition, a third person has made a rude comment. The last fight, this morning, left me a weepy wreck. A guy asked me if I was male or female. I referred him to my Journal. He replied that he couldn’t find it. Really? A guy who is leveled in the 30’s can’t find my Journal by pressing on the quill pen icon? This message was accompanied by the words, “just tell me.” I sent him a link to the very journal entry that explained everything and this is a cut and paste of his reply to that…
“just fucking tell me if u are male or female.”
I guess this is more about me not giving him an answer than anything. He has bits of information on his profile, like his age and birthdate, that he was not comfortable sharing. I wonder how he’d responded if I continually messaged him out of the blue, insisting he tell me how old he was. What if after several refusals, I had answered, “just fucking tell me how old you are?” This is plain out and out harassment! If someone wants to keep a piece of information private, they should be allowed.
Who the hell is he to repeatedly ask and get upset with me for keeping something private? Who the hell is he to get angry at me and try to brow beat me into answering a question that I was not comfortable answering?
I think I have been rather open talking about a subject that is so tough for me to talk about. I had hoped when I first revealed my most privately held secrets here that I had finally found a place where I could be myself, both as a vampire and someone who has always had to hide who they really were from society. I guess I was wrong.
From now on, I’m going to not be so open. I’m going to list a sex and keep the pricks, like the one above, from entirely ruining VR for me. However, VR has just become a lot less special for me.
Welcome back, I guess.
COMMENTS
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Plumbface
22:18 Apr 25 2014
cr8054
07:19 Feb 02 2016
Sorry you had a bad experience. The problem is there are a lot of narrow minded people out there and for most, we think of gender in binary terms. I have always known that some people are gay or bi-sexual, but its only the last year or so that I have found that some people consider themselves genderqueer, another words not having any gender at all. While its not for me, as long as you're not hurting anyone, who cares what you consider yourself to be? Its certainly no one elses business and no one should be judging you for it.