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18:31 Jun 09 2009
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I have gotten away from posting wise quotes, that mean something to me, or conveys something that I am trying to say. I figured its time I get back into it.





"Smile, for everyone lacks self-confidence and more than any other one thing a smile reassures them. "

-- Andre Maurois





"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

-- Elbert Hubbard





"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you."

--James Allen

20:00 Jun 01 2009
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LordV got a phone call from his best friend, yesterday, for his birthday. As they caught up, from the last time that he called, Mark complained about his lack of sex.



About a year ago, Mark was complaining that he was getting it 6 times a day. Now he is complaining that he is only getting twice a week and he has to initiate it.



So, I was thinking about it.





I wonder if he realizes, that he isn't missing the sex, but the intimacy that comes with being close with someone.



I wonder if he realizes, that most people reveal their darkest emotions and fears, moments after "sex".



I wonder if he realizes, that in most relationships, it is the intimacy that is important. The feelings of closeness, affection and a deep understanding of the other person.



So.....here's a hint:



Guys: Don't assume that if you can make love to your significant other, that it will all be ok. You need to show her, that she is more than an object, but that you deeply care for her. Share your complaints and deepest fears with her. Since its only when you reveal your deepest weakness and fear, does a woman truly feel as if she is a partner in a relationship.



Girls: Most guys don't understand intimacy or what you need. In this way, you need to be specific. You need to tell them exactly what you need. No beating around the bush. If you feel you need a hug a day, tell them. If you wish to more time together, tell them. Unfortunately, they can't read us, any more than we can read them. Verbalizing your needs and wants, is the only way to survive.





I know in my previous relationships, I told my spouse what I needed. But it was disregarded and I didn't like how I was feeling. I was always wondering if I was loved, because how I was treated and what was said to me. Now, because of my relationship with LordV, I know that I was right in demanding to be treated better, to be respected, to be loved properly.



LordV and I cuddle every morning....and every night. That is intimacy for us. The time to talk about things, our feelings and what we wish in our lives. We give each other a hug once a day, we listen to what we did during our day. We simply connect. That is what love is all about....a deep connection, simply put .... intimacy.