Frusterations and Unease.16:14 Jun 28 2012
Times Read: 409
I never wanted something bad to be the first thing on my journal, but I hurt. this hurts.
A week ago my brother decided that he didn't want to continue supporting his 4 month old daughter and girlfriend. He quit his job, told my mom he wasn't going on government support to help out, and that her child benefits would obviously buy the baby diapers and formula. It was her problem, not his. Our family does what we can to help her out. I live far away and have shipped her clothes and toys for the baby as much as I could, but even I am struggling, not that i've told them so. But it isn't about me, it's about this adorable 4 months old baby. with her big, doll like blue eyes and her bright red curls. A personality that never ceases to brighten up my mothers day. I've never met her, I live too far away, but I see pictures like you would not believe. She is certainly my brothers daughter. My brother though, is no parent.
My stupid spineless asshole brother has decided to start splattering comments all over facebook about his daughters mother. He is 18, just turnt 18 i should mention. and has not only cheated on, then dumped, but is saying really cruel shit about the girl and his own daughter. He has embarassed my family, and I am ashamed to even call him my sibling.
I asked my mother if i could drag him by the ear back to the hospital he was born in and tell them they gave us the wrong one. She just laughed, the hurt clearly displayed on her face, both as a mother, and a grandmother. It made my heart hurt, another crack added by the actions of a stupid teenage boy.
As it goes right now, he was choosing to ignore his girlfriend, hang around other girls and often brought those girls home while she was there, day after day looking after their daughter. She has a job, held down school, 5 siblings chores and her own baby while trying to keep their relationship together. And all my brother could say was that he didn't want her in the first place.
This not only makes me angry, it breaks my heart. He uses her faults against her and then brings the little girl into it. shes 4 months old, luckily to young to understand what he is saying.
The part that bothers me the most is that our dad was a deadbeat, we grew up in a single parent home struggling, and now he wants his daughter to grow up that way? it's ridiculous. My mom called his probation officer (yeah, he's gotten into that kind of trouble too) and I told her to call one for me too, because i want to beat that child silly.
He's 18, he thinks he's an adult now. Knows everything, but he is still a child. Immature and pathetic. a spineless asshole.
He's threatened suicide, then said he was joking, he has skipped out on his responsibilities. My mom has had 5 police cruisers at her house just for him. He has one last chance to show up at his appointment with his probation officer today or he is going to jail. I secretly hope he decides to play badass and skip it.
My brother is no badass. I don't even wish to call him my brother. His actions are ludacris and irresponsible. Drugs, alcohol, anger. This child doesnt need simple help. He needs a mental hospital and rehab.
COMMENTS
-
deed
17:33 Sep 12 2012
Wow, So hard to give advice on such chaos. A lot of pain, so much hurt. reconciliation, is it possible? What can be done?
ObsidianDream
15:35 Nov 20 2012
Update:
While he finally stepped up to be a parent, sort of. he screwed up his government support, got kicked off the benefits, and now has been kicked out of his apartment by his roommate. He can't even make it a point to show up for school which is why he got kicked off benefits.
my mom finally stopped giving in to him. she refused to take responsibility for him making it to court on time and whatnot.
my niece is very adorable now, talking now. and still brightening people's days.