That Coffin Really Brings Out Your Eyes ;)00:30 Feb 06 2011
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You can really learn a lot about where people draw the line when it comes to being honest with others and themselves. To give you some context, specifically I am referring to the way people change when someone is seriously sick, dying or already dead. It seems like most people throw honesty out the window in those situations. All of a sudden, the person who was egotistical, arrogant, selfish, bitchy, deceitful, etc is referred to as driven, determined, cunning, blah blah blah.
Fuck that. My opinion of you doesn't change just because you get sick or die. Who you are or who you were is what I base my opinions on. People can change in those situations where theyare dying or seriously sick and they take an inventory of who they are and who they want to be. I get that. In what seems a lifetime ago, I was someone entirely different. None of you would recognize me. I made a conscious effort to change and refused to allow anything to stop me.
My point is, I am often brutally honest and I wish more people were as well. I lose respect for people who will talk shit about someone or voice a negative opinion and then instantly change it out of so-called "respect for the dead". If you care that much, you should have shut the fuck up about them when they were alive. They're dead. You're opinion in their eyes is worth even less now than it was when they were breathing. Somehow they think it's more respectful to lie and say nice things about someone they couldn't stand, rather than being honest.
I managed to piss a whole family off because they talked shit about someone in their familly for years, without fail, and frequently said they couldn't stand her. Then she got sick and died, and everyone started referring to her as if she were a victim and a saint. I kept my mouth shut out of consideration for the time and place this was all occurring. Afterwards, we were all congregated and they ask me what I thought of the dead person. So, respectfully as possible lol I said that I think they were a horrible person who was very conniving and selfish and hateful. But I was glad they were no longer suffering and having to fight that losing battle any more.
You could have heard a pin drop. Talk about some pissed off rednecks. These people have known me for years. They know I'm honest, to a fault. I don't understand for the life of me how they could have NOT known I would answer honestly. So, they start talking to me about respecting the deceased and that I should have talked about her good qualities. The problem: I can honestly say I never saw that woman demonstrate a good quality, other than closing her mouth. To say that would have been more disrespectful, to me, than saying what I did lol
Anyways, long story short, I told them they were hypocrites and made it clear that I wanted none of them to eulogize me when I'm dead.
I'm an asshole. I know I'm an asshole. But I'm far more than that and everyone has their own opinion of me. Don't change who I was after I'm dead. I want you to respect me by being brutally honest and judge me for what I've done and contributed to the lives around me.
Can you say the same for yourself?
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Bijou
02:17 Feb 19 2011
~claps hands~ very well put sir :)
Deity
02:17 Feb 19 2011
Ohhh, I'm loving the Spanish.
Que bien te expresas! :D
aceycakes
03:16 Feb 19 2011
asshats!?
that was epic, and that is now my new favourite word.
HisRainingLove
00:31 Mar 03 2011
Very well said my dear Friend