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I think, from my personal experiences here over the last two decades, is that people are always listening, always watching, always paying attention. For me personally, I prefer to stick to myself. I don't reach out to people, I don't try to make friends. I merely watch. I sit back in the shadows and observe. I'm not against making friends, of course, and I will always respond to messages that are sent in earnest, but I'm also very wary of the masses. VR can be so unbelievably toxic, and I've been drawn into the nonsense far too often for my liking, people have to show me that they're worth the effort. And sure, that may make me sound harsh, but after 20 years, you just get tired of the games. I've seen it all, and it's gotten extremely tiresome. So, that could be why you may not be receiving the kinds of responses you're looking for.

In regards to change... I feel like it's a healthy mixture of both. Though, I think a person's want to change outweighs both those things. Because we can be validated, we can be seen and acknowledged, we can be offered helping hands, but unless we decide we want to change, none of those things actually matter.

I'm really happy I could add a little welcome to you joining VR. You have a connective vibe and I understand the brain activation thing. I've got that going on too atm, I'm just burning with life and the expansion of existence within me, around me, through the people I know, love, care for, need, it's been a hell of a week for me, and well, wow, the world, its clarity, its horizon, it's just beyond words.

I'm a bit excited about life at the moment.

I have adventures lined up. We all need those, I think.

In Reply to,

'What do you usually look for when you decide to talk to someone online?'


I like to offer support, a hello, a welcome, a nice comment, an offer of help to someone new.I think it matters and changes a person's outlook rather than feeling ignored and unwanted.

When I joined here a couple of months back, I got help and support from members too, and it changed my outlook on this place. I went from joining and wanting a platform to blog, to finding a place I wanted to spend time in because of the people in it.

It's a fun place, I hope you enjoy it.

I really like that approach—small moments of kindness can genuinely change how someone feels about a place. That’s what I look for too: people who are open, respectful, and willing to actually connect instead of just scrolling past. Glad you had that experience here.

I think as a person is helped they in turn focus on offering the same help as time moves on. Friends and members I chat to here mention this to me often, and I think it's very true, and very right.

It’s like being helped gives people a reference point for how it should feel, and then they naturally want to pass that forward. Which is good, makes me feel like there may be hope for this world yet.

There's hope in the world, and beauty, and an incredible magical awe-inspiring stunning existence for all of us, for anyone.

We all start in the same place from birth, and have the same world to share. I know there is sadness within it, yet there is also a soul opening existence too. And I hope you enjoy your existence within this world, as I.

And here on VR, there's also an existence of sorts, I find it to be one of beauty and depth. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

Thanks so much. I hope I do as well. And I know I enjoyed reading your comments and your profile! :-)

Enjoy the site. It can be a lot of fun. I'm happy to chat as and when. I've only been here a couple of months so I'm not that great on the workings of the website but there's lots of members who will help as you get settled.

Thanks for reading my profile - it could do with a little tidying, I just keep adding to it. I like it that way.