I still live with my parents. And I am pretty sure my mom wants me gone- by gone, I mean living elsewhere. I cannot talk to her anymore; the most basic conversations end with her saying something really negative. For example, I graduate college in the Spring. My sister just got her degree in December, though her ceremony is in the spring. She gets here degree in the mail, and my mother is very proud claiming it's all of her hard work. My father says "Now we got one more. Alexis will get hers in the Spring." My mother says: "She already has one, she needs to get out." By one, she is referring to my Bachelor's. I'm about to get my Master's.
I had a minor car accident, where I scratched my sister's rental car trying to park in a tight space. My mother gets angry and says "See, this is the problem I have with you. You don't pay attention..." My father jumps in and proceeds to say I've been driving since 2010 and this is my first accident, and that I do pay attention. He tries to get her to relax. My mother gets angry with him and me and gave us both the silent treatment for the rest of the day. My sister finds out, and she is totally chill. I have insurance. She has insurance. The paint is scratched, but no dent. No harm, no foul.
Today, my mother says "You can't afford your diet, if you were living on your own." To that I say, "No, that's not true at all." Then she says "Okay," angrily and turns up the t.v. as to block out anything I might have said next.
I looked into low-income housing. It's doable, if I get a second job again. I add I am not a lazy bum that don't pay rent. I pay rent, a car note, the cable/phone package, and my own groceries. Last year, I worked 2 jobs simultaneously 7 out of the 12 months; I did this WHILE taking classes towards my Master's degree. I also clean my messes, do my own laundry, etc.
I told my father about the low-income housing idea, and he says if I do that then I have to transfer the car to my name and my car note/insurance cost will triple. That was not the original agreement! So I have to live here always being threatened to be put out, because if I move out I just might need 3 jobs and have to drop school. I have one class! One class until I complete my Master's. I will be able to pay the car off completely before the Fall, assuming everything goes to plan.
Why my mother so angry with me all of the time? I mean, she invited my younger sister AND her husband to move back in and pay rent- in which they are always late on. But I have to get out?
So I transitioned to a plant-based whole-food low-fat diet. I am on day 3, and I have a difficult time consuming 1200 calories; I am eating greater volumes of food- leafy greens, veggies, fruits, beans, fibrous grains, etc. Hopefully, this is not an overshare, but I have bowel movements more often. I have eaten upwards of 200 carbs, and my blood sugar readings have all been normal. My blood sugar, theoretically, should be through the roof. I'm eating almost twice my normal carb intake, and half the protein, and very low fat.
Now I have to wait patiently to see if I lose any weight. Any weight at all.
I add that I am physically active; I workout 5 times a week. I love Wii dancing, Zumba class, and line dance class. I also strength train with the machines at the gym.
Look to facebook for a local vegetarian/vegan group for tons of help and advice. I belong to one in Indy and people are always asking those type of questions. Plus it can help you find local places to enjoy eating out at and where to find great deals on food at the stores and meet-ups.
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