00:14 Jul 11 2025
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Figuring out myself and my gender identity has been a slow, years' long process, and I'm still trying to figure things out completely. But with that, I've been considering the idea of getting a chest binder, as well as going by a more gender neutral form of my name. I'll always be Nicole to family, and that's fine, but I am toying around with the idea of going by Nik. My immediate family has called me Nik or Nikki since I was a kid, so it's not all that different. But I feel like that's more aligned with who I am. So, I don't know if I'll ever fully change my name legally, maybe when Logan and I get married, but at least when I introduce myself or when working I can just say I'm Nik. It hasn't been easy, since fully realizing I'm non-binary, I've had to deal with a lot of push back from people, people saying I'm confused or just going along with a fad. It's also hard with the whole "there are only two genders" bullshit rhetoric. But, I know who I am. I'm not some confused kid, I have felt this way for my whole life, just never really having a way to fully realize it. I'm going to be 38 next month, I know who I am and how I feel. I'm not some silly kid who's just playing along with what's in at the moment. That line of thinking is so harmful. To say anyone who feels differently is just confused or trend following, it's disgusting and so harmful.
But yeah... That's where I'm at, and I'm so grateful that I have people in my life who do understand and who do accept me for who I am as a person, not for what gender I may or may not align with.
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R3d
01:21 Jul 11 2025
I am so proud of you! :::huggs:::