"During both World Wars, Lord Moran, a physician who served as a medical officer during the first and Winston Churchill’s personal doctor during the second, studied the nature of courage. One of the interesting observations he made was that aboard military aircraft, the navigator experienced greater nerves than the pilot.
The reason for this, Moran surmised, was that the pilot had more to do: “In the presence of danger man often finds salvation in action . . . to stagnate in mind or body, is to surrender without terms. Whereas movement, work of any kind, helps to deliver him from those feelings which are traitors to his better nature.”
Yet it’s not just action itself which dulls fear, but the sense of control such action creates.
The modern civilian can readily see a parallel to Moran’s example in his own life: though driving is statistically more dangerous than flying, it’s less frightening to sit at the wheel of your car than as an impotent passenger on a commercial jet.
To experience life as happening to you, breeds feelings of helplessness and anxiety. Whereas believing you can influence your fate, generates strength and confidence. Control = courage.
The parent who advocates for their sick child at the hospital; the individual who practices answering questions before an upcoming job interview; a soon-to-be mountain climber who repeatedly checks his equipment before a trip; all will approach their challenges with a braver heart.
In every situation, there is always something you can do to exercise greater agency, and thus subdue your fears. Even if that is preparing to accept those things which truly cannot be changed, by intentionally developing stoic equanimity.
In any fear-ridden or anxious situation, ask yourself: “What things do I have control over? What options for action remain open to me?” For courage is born in the captainship of soul. "
Art of Manliness Fireside chat
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Wolflight Steve Hackett
0700 am Brain functioning. Body cold need to generate heat. Testing 123. Is anybody out there. Smile if you can hear me. There is a lot learned in the quiet of the morning before the static begins. You see the static where I just disappear in. This is hard for me to write. It is not a holier than though the piece. It's not the wrath of a good piece. It's not going to suck you dry and leave you in the trunk piece. I am laughing about the wicked dance we do when things and people spin up. I am sad that I am not able to send in the mail Valentine's card to my one true. I get mad when I see others taunting her for no good reason other than a sissy fit. I am amazed by the power she has. I am on the sidelines watching the game, the cheering section. I heard that I have a very dark reputation here. No, I learned a long time ago it is better to walk the walk and talk the talk just for this day.
My friends and family do the same thing that is why they are my clan my tribe my pack. I don't have many days left so I live each one as the last. This is the wolf way standing tall and walking this planet because he means it. If you want to join me on my hero's journey. You are welcomed. Those that don't well you know (drop mic).
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