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This thread is about a suggestion, I made to Cancer, but I guess it would be good if he can see also other peoples opinion on this to decide.

We all have the power to block private messages and comments from the public eye on our profiles and portfolios. Thats a good thing so far, there is just one small problem that makes it also pretty pointless. When you block someone who abuses and harrasses you, they can still do it, with writing comments into your profile/portfolio. You personally can still see it and have to deal with the comments.

Now my suggestion would be that the block get extended to actually keep the blocked person from commenting at all. That would really keep you save from stalkers, abusers and harrassment.

What do you think of that idea?

I for one fully agree with that Kat, Yes it prevents them from publically flaming you, but they can still harrass you. Kat's idea would completely eliminate this problem. PLEASE take this into consideration.

I agree as well, if you do not want them to harass you at all, they should be blocked completely. It only makes sense..

Sounds very good to me. I haven't had many flamming type comments a few rude one.S far I have been lucky and avoided the harassing kind although I know people that have them

Great idea - and they shouldn't be able to see when you are on-line either.

I am for that idea as well.

I would also take it one step further and add a feature to remove yourself from friends lists. I for one have many that have never contacted me.

I think the blocking is fine the way it is, even if you can still see the comments, others cant, just ignore it....
If the harrasment continues it should be dealt with by an administrator, the primary purpose for blocking is to keep them from messaging you.

actually you could combine the friendslist with the online thing. you could have the choice between just being online for everybody and just being online for people on your friendslist :)

This has my support and so does CygnusNoir idea.

I think that when block the person should not even been able to access our profil, this way it would make the one who block feel more secure, cause its fun to be stalk for fun but not when it turns to fear or harrasment. So I would really like it if I could do that, bock them from my comment box in my profil and my portfolio.

Im in complete agreement with you Kat, great idea.

I support Kat's idea. I think it is a great idea.

Great idea Kat and one idea whose time has come.

A nice idea. hope it is one that will work one day.

I've been blocked from posting finely detailed messages to people to clear up misunderstandings, when I go to see later if the comment has been kept in their profile comments or picture area, it was erased I think it happened twice of course the more contraversial a person is, the more attention is drawn to your site, so I place the people who block me right on my portfolio page at the top.

The person who is scared of what you have to say by blocking you may never see it but a well developed arguement against their irrationality is left for the people on this site to make judgments themselves. BUt, people who block me, or any other idito like me, well, just don't read thei rmessage, just delete it and then they would think you read it be satisfied, and then not flame you out in public wherevere, so, that is why I don't block people, I don't mind opening my mind to their side of the story, I wish to learn, but if there are people I realise I can't learn from then I block them,

pictures change and I forget who was on my chit list, so I have to block them, other wise I forget they were a waste of my time.

Usually it is a one liner that irritat es me, I go over there, post something in response to come to an understanding and then they say I can't type more than one sentence or I don't like to think, so I block them, they are a waste of my time. But we shouldn't none of us have such a fragile self conecpt or weak philosophy that you should have the need to block anybody for you fear the freedom of their mind.

But I do agree if a person continually harasses you, like more than 3 interdepartment memos or something, and if they are rude with no way out for you to come to an amicable solution, someone should be accounting for their behavior. Some people don't have a conscience and they can terrorize people with out losing sleep. I feel bad when I err on here. I punish myself not to write for a day or so when I have made a fool of myself, but others may nbot be equipped with ethics, so yeah, I think abuse should be handled once it gets to a certain point. What ever that point is open for discussion.

a majority of the members on here are adults maybe they should act as such and not whine everytime someone says somethin rude about them,this isn't high school...pepole should just grow up and act their age.If Cancer jumped everytime someone had a minor complaint,he'd never egt anything done.The blocking is fine.

Kat that is a really good idea. but at one point i had a problem with someone and we blocked each other and i tried to post on profile and it said i was blocked. so i don't know if it has changes but it is an awesome idea. if they are blocked they should be blocked from interacting at all with the person that blocked them. good idea.

well premium membership could offer newer powers to safeguard the insecure who wants to totally live in a different world from the person or vampire they detest the most. Maybe they could have like a total blockage of say 5 notorious vampires and one bad witch, and you would never see their forum posts?

Someone dear to me told me about a little bit about the drama on this site, I know one amazing person left because of the in house or in coven fighting,

but the thing that this dear person told me was that there is this girl that once was with this guy and they broke up and he rattles her cage in here all the time, making fun of her, and stuff, really really bad to a fragile little flower like that, he was so evil I wanted to handle it myself, you know, it hurts, when relentlessnes is relentless. Maybe there could be a block your ex feature? This girl I doubt she is even part of the site anymores it got so bad. We need more of the good people and less of the evil, but wait, isn't this an evil site too? Hmmmmm

You cant comment someone if they've bnlocked you can you? It just comes up as 'This Comment has been blocked by......'

on the profile it comes up as blocked, but as a pm you can see what they wrote, dont know how it is for a free member

I actually have to agree with DarkWolfMan on this one. Being able to block someone from sending you messages I can understand, because there is the potential for somewhat malicious behavior beyond what is said, by flooding someone's inbox. However, with profile and portfolio comments, you can only leave one comment on each at a time. If you can't ignore a rude comment, especially one that only two people ever need know about, then you need to stop, think about it for a minute, and put your damn big kid panties on.

It equates to "Wah-wah daddy! Billy called me a poo-poo head!"

I think Kat's idea is a great one. I have been fortunate (knock on wood) that I have not had to suffer with flaming thus far, and I hope I do not ever have to. So far, everyone I have met has been kind and helpful *smiles*

Toilet man where you been we've all missed you? We need more humor like that to deflect flim flam flaming

I agree with both sides actually....
I think the blocking features work as are....but a total block wouldn't be a bad idea...
but consider people....cancer codes this site himself...he isn't pulling html shit off other sites, so what might seem small and innocuous to you might mean a whole shitpile of work for him...

I am sorry some of you feel this way... but, I have come to learn here on Vampire Rave that Cancer has a reason for EVERYTHING. He has set it up this way. And he'll eventually respond to all valid questions that he receives.

I sympathize with shitty comments- but I let is slide off, no big deal.

These types of threads unfortunately only breed more posts on all the things that are wrong with Vampire Rave instead of focusing on all the things are are RIGHT, and positive.

We've almost all have problems with at least someone. If comments were blocked for even YOU to see as well as the rest of VR, you'd still find a way to see it... the journals, the Vamp Box... People will continue to not get along in some way/facet via some outlet if they have problems with each other. It can even be dispayed on their profiles.

When do you stop catering to every little detail of people's personal problems? You just have to start learning to deal with it on your own.

I have had a person try to make my life hell on Vampire Rave via every other means - not comments on my profile, but through private messages to other people and posts here in the forum. So yes, people WILL find a way to screw with you. I never once complained to Cancer because the FAQ says:

"Administrators will not become involved in member disputes. If you find a member offensive, use your block button. All messages from the blocked user will be blocked, along with any comments they may leave on your Profile or Portfolio. Do not ask for a member to be deleted or reprimanded. You will be ignored if you ask."


So what did I do? Just remained pissed off, lol... eventually got over it. 'Tis life.