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Does anybody fear of seeking relationships with others that have the same emotional paterns? Maybe an interesting thread, but answer it with what you will.

i never fear antyhing so if i wanted to that is what i would do but at the moment i am in a very good relationship. and also a relationships with people that are exactly the same can be kinda dull as the two of you are kinda similar. i myself prefer a relationship with someone who has a few things in commen with me like say music taste or something like that(doesnt always have to be a goth as i have dated one or two people that dont even listen to my music and hate my taste but they liked me).then you can find more about that of your partner and love the things they do.

Well done slazs!

thats ok no need to mentuin it

i guess it could be a bit dull if your both the same...maybe a few differences would liven it up a bit...but i would prefer some one with the same music tastes..then you could relate...and go to gigs and stuff...know what i mean? but thats just my opinon...
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i do admit going out with people with the same taste in music is rather good as you can make out to your music and not some pop stuff i hate lol. and taking ur partners to gigs is rather good and i wouldnt want to drag a pop girl to a cradle of filth concert she wouldnt fit in lol

SOmetimes people can be very similar, adn that can compliment them as a couple, others can end up bored or irratated by oneanother (Ive been in both boats!)

I just tend to go for who I like, but my friends sometimes say that I seem to go for the troubled and become their counsellor. I dont mean to do it, people just get attracted to certain 'types' sometimes.

I just feel you ought to date someone that you feel a connection with...whether the emotional similarities are there or not..
If there is no connection there then what do you build on?

I only fear artificial feelings. I mean, what’s worse than feeling what is not there or what is manufactured? Feelings you feel that are not your feelings. It scares the shit out of me *shivers*

Daermon I believe is correct. I have only been with one person in 6 years and we have only been together for 10 months and we are now engaged and getting married in July. All it takes is that deep connection with the other person, whether it is emotional or whatever it is, as long as something binds you together I think fate just takes its course and lets you two be together.

im usually looking for someone with different interests and comfortable wit other ways then i am, i love to just make like a new way that sort of combines them both together... its great... did that make sense? ummm cuz i cant really make it much clearer cuz im bad at writing :-D

That's exactly how I feel Madeline. Also and I don't want to come off conceited, but also Im afraid that the young lady will try to become like me, and I hate me. It seems like all the Indiana girls (I KNOW) are shallow, and would suck the natural energy I have in, well just the way I am.

close relationships blow: that is the best i can answer this

ive been in a relationship like this before and it kinda makes thing easier but diffacult at the same time

to be honest with you all .. Daermon is right .. that connection is whats needed .. when it comes down to it ... it doesnt matter if he/she doesnt dress like you or listen to your music .. if you connect on that deeper level .. things will fall into place....its just something that comes when things link up .. part of the problem is that people spend their whole life looking for that person that falls into that particular mold that they think they want and i can almost guarentee you that if you do that you are looking over the person that you would have that connection with... i almost looked over my connection 4 yrs ago .. if i didnt have a really good friend who made me stop walking away .. i wouldnt be married to the man that finally gave me that connection

I guess it's easier if your other half understands your feelings, and the best way one can understand is if they can identify with you, or have felt the same or similar way before. As in, if you're the kind of person who takes things too seriously and you don't have a self esteem that's too high, and the one you're going out with hasn't ever felt like that because they don't lack that confidence, it would be hard for them to understand you. And sometimes when people don't understand you, they just assume things about your personality, sometimes even stereotype. So I personally can't "stereotype" my perfect match into any sort of category because I've been in many different situations and in more than one of them, there was a point where I felt like I'd found my soul mate. It's a little hard to answer this question, since I'm not sure I've known any of my past boyfriends SO well to know their exact emotional patterns. But ta ta, I guess it all depends. :D

i wanna know if i should be afraid that im seeking the opposite,
im a metal head and my gf who isnt really my gf yet, but we hang out alone and all her friends say she likes me is an emo girl, i mean for christs sake her fav band is taking back sunday, and mines mudvayne {represent}
but shes so cute and she does bite{yes}
and i like her, we just cant listen to music without making fun of the others and my whole life is music. any advice?

I think I've choosen to weight the pro's and con's, Its probably better to disagree and make fun of each other than the both of you rejecting the different tastes, In lay man's terms its good you guys can communicate, Say I'll do this and you do that! Hell life's about trying different things ain't it?

Opposites attract.... i rest my case!

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i belvie everyone has at least one fear might not be a major one but everyone has one mine is clowns i hate um i love friday the 13th i hate the movie IT but i can deal with the clowns as long as they stay away from me they come close i get violent very fast

blacknight is right we all have our fears but really let me ask u all this what is there really to fear but fear itself? fear is something u put in ur own head and see through ur own eyes its up to u when it comes to what u fear and for some its not just fearing sameness its fearing commitment but who hasnt had a fear of commiting to somebody?......we often fear the familiar for we know what it brings

i for one am still afraid of the dark......dont ask me why for i am still searching for that answer -laughs-

There is no darkness, only Absence of light!................Looks up.

Yea on what Starry says. We must remember 'tho that it is easier to hate than to love and some choose to live this path forever.

I say, go with the flow. If you feel a connection or that certain spark, give it a chance. You may regret it if you don't. Just go with your gut instinct, if it doesn't work out, then at least you learned a valueable lesson.

oh but without light how do we kno what there is right in front of us......therefore the abscences of light (or darkness) is a scary thing for we dont kno whats coming or what is right there waiting for u to discover it..........kinda like love u never kno whats to come next its so unpredictable

i agree with Janette. I dont look for someone in particular.... well no thats a lie, i'm a sexual predator, so i look for weakminded individuals but that gets boring lol, but feel, that when you are specifically looking for something, you can never find it, but its when ur not looking that you find what you've been looking for..... like my house keys, i will loose them and no matter how long i look for them i can never find them, i then forget about it and 5 minutes later i come across them.... my philosphy