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how seriosly do you take the diference beween sex and making love?
I mean...it is two separate worlds to me...so I wanted to ee what the rest of you think about it...

mmm being realistic is practically the same thing altogether.

although id like to think of having sex as something unmeaningful and empty, as just another f*ck...the bare act of mating.


while making love to me is two people in love sharing feelings and bonding together as one.

At the end of the day, as long as the person i am with orgasams 3 or 4 times.. then i know i have done my job (never failed yet) and had a great time doing it, does not matter if it involved asphixiation, bondage, spanking, biting. Or simple soft kisses, gentle strokes on back on knee and crease of elbow and well placed licks.. *winks*.... so yeah, i know when a person has been with Dhampir, i've made a big differnce to their sex life!.. I'm a perfectionist!!...

it's dependant on the state of mind. If you have a mind set that you want to make love with someone, it will naturally all fall in a slower pace. Mindless emotions create sheer fornication.

Sex without relationships is boring. And fuc.... without relations is empty.

love and sex are totally seprate....
you can have sex with someone you don't love....
you can love someone you never have sex with...
when the two can combine it is a truly devine thing.....but they are mutually exclusive..

I totally agree with Daermon (and the others) here... To have sex, and too make love are two different things.... anyone can go out and have sex with another person...hell you can even pay to have sex with another person (not that I ever have) and there is no meaning involved other then to get oneself satisfaction.

But to make love is to be with a person that you have more then just a physical connection to, someone you have a mental and emotional connection to...while it maybe wild and crazy, or slow and sensual in either situation....with out the mental/emotional/physical connection combined...then it's just a fuck

hmmmm well havent experienced the love making side of it yet lol but until then i shall agree with what people have to say here lol

oh yea....sex and love. different. i agree with above. you can surely love someone and not have sex with them.

you can have sex with someone simply for the passion....and not love them.

you can also have sex with someone that you love, but not making love....let's see, how many ways can we say this? haha...

you can have sex, but.....wait, you can make love with....ok, you can have sex....what was the question?

I have only ever made love, from what the definition means, and not had sex then.
It depends entirely on how you take the meaning of them. I see them as the same thing... f*cking on the other hand, is enturely different.
Thats a loveless act which I choose not to perform.

how about angry sex? where does that fall? ;) what if you have sex with someone you are angry with, and used to love?

i don't know what you fools are talking about even. i make hot monkey love. that's it.

*shakes her head and wanders away mumbling*

Love is an emotion, not an action.

Sex is an action, not an emotion.

They are easy to seperate, and easier to confuse if one loses sight of the goal intended. It is only in this "enlightened" age that there is confusion in the very vocabulary used. Sure, you can bind the emotion to the act, but it does not change what the act truly is, nor that the emotion is anything more than what it truly is.

{And only for you did I do this.}

Well said Cade...

To me, they are different. I cannot just go out and have random sex. Sex is just for "getting off" so to speak. I have to have passion and feelings for the person I am making love with. If the emotion is not there, it is just idle f#@$ing ande means nothing.

Well said morey, i definitely agree with you.

its more of a complicated matter for women because like Morey said, we take things more on the personal level than most men do, it all depends on how you view it all.

Sex is what you make it...you either have your whole heart in it because you're crazy about the other person or you're just doing it because you want a fuck. Honestly I never just have sex...it takes away the whole beauty of it...

well i've had both as most do. after years of empty sex to feel the person inside you actually caring about you makes a difference. to know afterwards they want to lay and hold you instead of the usual boot out the door, see you next week kinda life. it's a lot gentler, you're both more into pleasing each other more than yourself and yes you can still have crazy wild sex but you still know you'll both be there in the morning and so doing it makes it even more pleasurable because you know you mean something to someone, and everyone craves that.

on the other note, would you like someone to say oh make love to me darling, or would you prefer them to grab the back of your head and say fuck the s**t out of me!! ??

I feel sex is to short of a word to convey such intimacy between two people. The difference to I is the time shared between two people, those that care and have feelings for one another and those whom seek mere pleasure and the simplicity for an evening of feeling wanted, and desired for but a moment with no emotional commitment. Making love is a greater of two bonds between two who share compassion and are willing to give up all self pleasure for the one they care for. It’s a nourishment of time shared together while being intimate, the emphasizing of pleasure upon the one you are with, with no care if you receive pleasure in return. For your pleasure comes from knowing you have integrated their body, mind and emotions and shared appreciation for such through exquisite sensuality and sexuality allowing doors to be open to a range of physical delights while nourishing the emotional dimensions of sexuality, and creating that ambience that you care and are cared for. However my appretiation for the beauty of being intimate has myself desire to enrich sexual pleasure and to intensify the bond of wanting to be with that person even if but for a night. To Strengthen varying tactile sensations between us both and have the other experience pleasure through through all senses and not merely only the sense of touch.

In short...I'm a cuddling whore.

to me the difference is a state of mind basically. one is faster (except in my case lol) than the other. cause i like to $%#*

I agree with AnTaNia999