When?16:21 Feb 14 2008
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When did it become socially acceptable to place a child on medication and label them ADHD?
When did it become the normal thing to do?
To put a child on an addicting drug that they will have to take for the rest of their lives to function?
When?
Why?
Do not tell me that my child is a disruption in class and that I am a bad parent because I will not put my child on this drug just so he can learn. That is unacceptable to me. It is wrong and to me it is morally incomprehensible to do to a child.
Now.. Yes there are children, and adults, that need to have this medication. That is the choice of their families and selves. That does not mean my child should have to be on it.
Don't tell me my child is a disruption in class unless you are going to have the common sense to send home a note or, heaven forbid, call me at home and tell me there is an issue.
If my child acts out in class, take away his damn recess... I will sign whatever damn paperwork needs to be signed that says you can take away his recess.. Recess is a privilege and if he has done something so terribly wrong that you should have called me in the first place, you better damn well have adhered to some guidelines that we agreed on at the start of the school year. You know.. I signed that paperwork and could have sworn so did you. *WE* came up with this agreement together.
Now.. The school my son goes to has this system with colors that they do every day. Green is a good day, Yellow is a warning, Red is a bad day; Blue is a really bad day and I get a call home from the teacher, and White is a referral to the office and the principal calls me.
Where in there does it leave any room for interpretation as to the consequences of his actions. He acts out, he flips is card from green to yellow.. He acts out again he flips it from yellow to red.. He acts out again he flips it from red to blue and you get the point.. Where in their does it say ignore his behavior and wait until we have a parent teacher conference about something else to bring it up?
Don’t tell me my son needs medication because you don’t have the balls to flip his damn card and call me. O.o....
Oh yes.. And when I said in the meeting today that "Unlike you all when he acts up, I get to smack him upside his head." Go ahead and look down your damn nose at me and say, "You should not say that, its child abuse." When I respond, "You think so huh? Well your wrong."
Don't look at me like I am stupid because I freely admit that if my son is an ass he is going to get treated like an ass.. These are the consequences of his actions and he will damn well be responsible for them.
I grow tired of hearing "Well the parents never parent." or "There is no discipline at home, we don’t get paid to discipline here at school." Want to bet? I give you permission to discipline him, within the schools guidelines, at school.
If my son acts out don't you dare say to me I should look into the medications when you have not done the basic thing of call me when there is a problem. Waiting 3 to 5 weeks to tell me of an issue does not solve the issue. It only tells the child that they can do what they want when they want.
Oh and... Please.. Keep your story straight. If my child is such a bad kid in your book.. Do not tell me how sweet he is, how he is always helpful to other students and the teacher. That is not only showing how stupid you are, it is hypocritical to my child. And it makes you look like an incompetent moron.
Oh and here is the big one friends.. My son is doing classroom work, with the other students.. He is *NOT* being pulled out for special education classes anymore, except for spelling tests. So do not tell me that my son's IQ has dropped because he is not on medication like he was three years ago when my ex-husband had him put on medication. Oh yes... Had him put on medication without consulting me or notifying me as he is required by law to do. Medication that was so much it put him to sleep by 5pm.. The kid was starving to death because he was not eating; he was coasting through his day and sleeping allot. I don’t know what tests they gave him three years ago, but I don’t buy it.
His IQ dropped in your book with your tests. OK I can accept that, I don’t agree with it, but ok. See I know when he is acting up and being dramatic, you don’t. OK well your starting to learn, but you really do not know.
Look down your nose at me again because I wont medicate my child so you can have an easy day, and I will smack that damn look off your face.. Suffering my own consequences for my actions. School Psychologist whatever, I don't care about your titles or degrees. If you cant come up with something better then what you have, well, you should go back to school yourself.
Oh and don’t ever try to suspend my son from school again. I warned you all the first time two years ago. You may not suspend him. I will come to school daily if I have too and be there in every class, all day long, every day if I have too. He is there for an education; I could get into trouble for not sending him to school. You will not be allowed to send him home cause you don’t want to deal with him.
I support you educating him. You need more school supplies, give me a list... I budget x amount of $ every month for odds and ends on school supplies because I know better. I Will be involved in my children’s education, I take it very seriously. I ask questions and I take notes at meetings. I listen and I comprehend what you are saying and I apply it at home. We study together; we dedicate time and a specific place for homework every night. Don’t look down on my child or me because you think we are not giving him the help he needs. We are, don’t believe me? You are welcome to come to my home, after school, and see exactly what our routine is it does not change. It stays the same structured way for consistency and structure.
Gahh… I just want to punch something.
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