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A apology

01:06 Mar 31 2018
Times Read: 324


I want to apolize to shadowonthewall. I misunderstand the situation in why the journal post was written. I agree with most of her post. Except for the accidental
grammar error. It should of been block not black. I am sorry for calling her a racists. I should of talk to her first before judging.


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ShadowOnTheWall
ShadowOnTheWall
01:37 Mar 31 2018

Thank you so much. You are a good person. So much can be misinterpreted online. Kind of you. Thank you again.





PrincessMradu
PrincessMradu
01:46 Mar 31 2018

Again I'm sorry





Cultwatch
Cultwatch
02:12 Mar 31 2018

You need to take it easy, people make mistakes.
There is nothing wrong with shadowonthewall. Calm down





PrincessMradu
PrincessMradu
02:36 Mar 31 2018

Again I'm sorry. Cultwatch I already apolize





 

racists

23:15 Mar 30 2018
Times Read: 383


"Racism is a combination of attitudes, beliefs and behaviours, including:

*    believing your race is superior to another race;

*   offensive or aggressive behaviour towards somebody because of their race;

*   believing some groups do not fit in Australia;

*    actively avoiding or excluding people from a specific cultural background because you believe they don’t belong; or

*    believing everyone should behave according to certain values which are called ‘national’ but are not.

So racism is not just about treating people unfairly due to their skin colour, it is also about treating people unfairly due to their ethnicity or ethnic identity, cultural background or practices (including religion), and nationality.

The alternative view to racism is to understand that everybody has individual characteristics. As humans, we all share differences and similarities, and so people should be treated based on their unique merits rather than their skin colour, nationality, or cultural background.

Racism can be a belief or behaviour by an individual, a group, or an institution. All Together Now currently focuses on racist beliefs and behaviours of individuals, noting that any person regardless of skin colour or ethnic background has the capacity to be racist."
http://alltogethernow.org.au/what-is-racism-2/


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types of love

21:19 Mar 24 2018
Times Read: 420


8 Different Types of Love

“Eros” or Erotic Love. The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. ...
“Philia” or Affectionate Love. ...
“Storge” or Familiar Love. ...
“Ludus” or Playful Love. ...
“Mania” or Obsessive Love. ...
“Pragma” or Enduring Love. ...
“Philautia” or Self Love. ...
“Agape” or Selfless unconditonal love.


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Ladymindy
Ladymindy
21:33 Mar 24 2018

Great read





 

Let go

20:14 Mar 24 2018
Times Read: 433


How do we give up a grudge and forgive someone who has hurt, disappointed, or betrayed us? the victimized.

1. Inquire deeply about the root of your anger or grudge. Look at the situation honestly, without embellishing or rearranging the details. Pay attention to how this anger is holding you back and keeping you hostage in your own day-to-day existence.

1. Review your grievance story and reengineer that story so you see yourself in a more empowered way. Perhaps you chose to disengage or limit your time spent with a friend or family member that has consistently been hurtful to you. Perhaps you left a toxic partner. You had the fortitude to leave a bad situation. You were indeed the survivor and hero in your own story. Look at the strengths that you developed as a result of this situation. Being hurt or compromised can be your invitation to a transformative new path and a more fulfilling life.

2. Develop your capacity for empathy and compassion for yourself for landing in a painful situation. Blaming yourself for not seeing the signs sooner doesn’t help, and slows down the process of making change. Also, in my professional experience, usually abusers have been abused themselves, and they are operating at a deficit. Without accepting their hostile behaviors, try to understand the pain and suffering that he or she must be enduring. You can understand and forgive without accepting bad or abusive behavior.
3. Create new associations with your old story of neglect or abuse. Perhaps you can practice a ritual that signifies the end of things as they were and say goodbye to the past as you once experienced it. Welcome the good, the support, and the love that you now invite into your life. Light a candle, for example, to symbolize the brightness of the moment and the days ahead, or gather some friend to celebrate the end of an era and the beginning of a new phase of life.

Remember that you cannot control others, but you can control your own choices. As you continue to reshape your grievance story — becoming the hero of that story, developing empathy, and compassion for the abuser and celebrating your strengths — you will undoubtedly begin to notice a shift in your consciousness. Your feelings of anger and sadness are likely to quiet down and your self-esteem is likely to blossom, as will your relationships.

For more by Randy Kamen Gredinger, Ed.D., click here.

For more on forgiveness, click here.
Follow Dr. Randy Kamen on Twitter:


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live and let go

20:11 Mar 24 2018
Times Read: 435


Forgiveness transforms anger and hurt into healing and peace. Forgiveness can help you overcome feelings of depression, anxiety, and rage, as well as personal and relational conflicts. It is about making the conscious decision to let go of a grudge. Why would anyone want to forgive someone who has wronged her in the past? It is not about letting someone off the hook for a wrongdoing, or forgetting about the past, or forgetting about the pain. It certainly does not mean that you stick around for future maltreatment from a boss, a partner, parent, or friend. It is about setting yourself free so that you can move forward in your own life. Joan Borysenko said in an interview, “You can forgive someone who wronged you and still call the police and testify in court.” Forgiveness requires a deep inquiry within ourselves about “our story.”

Forgiveness means giving up the suffering of the past and being willing to forge ahead with far greater potential for inner freedom. Anne Lamott famously declared, “Forgiveness is giving up all hope of having had a different past.” Besides the reward of letting go of a painful past, there are powerful health benefits that go hand-in-hand with the practice of forgiveness. In the physical domain, forgiveness is associated with lower heart rate and blood pressure as well as overall stress relief. It is also associated with improving physical symptoms, reducing fatigue in some patient populations, and improving sleep quality. In the psychological domain, forgiveness has been shown to diminish the experience of stress and inner conflict while simultaneously restoring positive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

The problem for many of us is that sometimes we can choose to forgive another, but still in our heart of hearts, the anger or resentment lingers. However, it is in fact possible to forgive and truly let go of past disappointments, hurts, or blatant acts of abuse. Although at times this may seem implausible, forgiveness is a teachable and learnable skill that can dramatically improve with practice over time.

Harvard researcher and physician George Vaillant describes forgiveness as one of the eight positive emotions that keep us connected with our deepest selves and with others. He considers these positive emotions to be key ingredients that bind us together in our humanity and they include love, hope, joy, compassion, faith, awe, and gratitude. Whether you have a spiritual bent or not, the research supports the notion that developing stronger positive emotions supports us in leading healthier, happier, and more connected lives. When we forgive and develop these other positive emotions we become less encumbered by the scars of the past.

The question remains: How do we give up a grudge and forgive someone who has hurt, disappointed, or betrayed us? Fred Luskin talks about the way we develop our grievance story in his book Forgive For Good. Your grievance story is the one you tell over and over to yourself, and possibly to others, about the way you were maltreated and the way you became the victimized. Luskin teaches us to cast our story in such a way that we become a survivor of difficult times, or — better yet — the hero of our story.

The following strategy model for learning forgiveness is derived from an amalgam of work by several researchers and my own work as a psychologist:

1. Inquire deeply about the root of your anger or grudge. Look at the situation honestly, without embellishing or rearranging the details. Pay attention to how this anger is holding you back and keeping you hostage in your own day-to-day existence.

2. Review your grievance story and reengineer that story so you see yourself in a more empowered way. Perhaps you chose to disengage or limit your time spent with a friend or family member that has consistently been hurtful to you. Perhaps you left a toxic partner. You had the fortitude to leave a bad situation. You were indeed the survivor and hero in your own story. Look at the strengths that you developed as a result of this situation. Being hurt or compromised can be your invitation to a transformative new path and a more fulfilling life.

3. Develop your capacity for empathy and compassion for yourself for landing in a painful situation. Blaming yourself for not seeing the signs sooner doesn’t help, and slows down the process of making change. Also, in my professional experience, usually abusers have been abused themselves, and they are operating at a deficit. Without accepting their hostile behaviors, try to understand the pain and suffering that he or she must be enduring. You can understand and forgive without accepting bad or abusive behavior.

4. Create new associations with your old story of neglect or abuse. Perhaps you can practice a ritual that signifies the end of things as they were and say goodbye to the past as you once experienced it. Welcome the good, the support, and the love that you now invite into your life. Light a candle, for example, to symbolize the brightness of the moment and the days ahead, or gather some friend to celebrate the end of an era and the beginning of a new phase of life.

Remember that you cannot control others, but you can control your own choices. As you continue to reshape your grievance story — becoming the hero of that story, developing empathy, and compassion for the abuser and celebrating your strengths — you will undoubtedly begin to notice a shift in your consciousness. Your feelings of anger and sadness are likely to quiet down and your self-esteem is likely to blossom, as will your relationships.

For more by Randy Kamen Gredinger, Ed.D., click here.

For more on forgiveness, click here.
Follow Dr. Randy Kamen on Twitter:


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00:10 Mar 24 2018
Times Read: 452


People who gaslight typically use the following techniques:  

1. They tell blatant lies.

You know it's an outright lie. Yet they are telling you this lie with a straight face. Why are they so blatant? Because they're setting up a precedent. Once they tell you a huge lie, you're not sure if anything they say is true. Keeping you unsteady and off-kilter is the goal. 

2. They deny they ever said something, even though you have proof. 

You know they said they would do something; you know you heard it. But they out and out deny it. It makes you start questioning your reality—maybe they never said that thing. And the more they do this, the more you question your reality and start accepting theirs. 

3. They use what is near and dear to you as ammunition. 

They know how important your kids are to you, and they know how important your identity is to you. So those may be one of the first things they attack. If you have kids, they tell you that you should not have had those children. They will tell you'd be a worthy person if only you didn't have a long list of negative traits. They attack the foundation of your being. 

4. They wear you down over time.

This is one of the insidious things about gaslighting—it is done gradually, over time. A lie here, a lie there, a snide comment every so often...and then it starts ramping up. Even the brightest, most self-aware people can be sucked into gaslighting—it is that effective. It's the "frog in the frying pan" analogy: The heat is turned up slowly, so the frog never realizes what's happening to it. 


5. Their actions do not match their words.

When dealing with a person or entity that gaslights, look at what they are doing rather than what they are saying. What they are saying means nothing; it is just talk. What they are doing is the issue. 

6. They throw in positive reinforcement to confuse you. 

This person or entity that is cutting you down, telling you that you don't have value, is now praising you for something you did. This adds an additional sense of uneasiness. You think, "Well maybe they aren't so bad." Yes, they are. This is a calculated attempt to keep you off-kilter—and again, to question your reality. Also look at what you were praised for; it is probably something that served the gaslighter. 

7. They know confusion weakens people. 

Gaslighters know that people like having a sense of stability and normalcy. Their goal is to uproot this and make you constantly question everything. And humans' natural tendency is to look to the person or entity that will help you feel more stable—and that happens to be the gaslighter.  

8. They project.

They are a drug user or a cheater, yet they are constantly accusing you of that. This is done so often that you start trying to defend yourself, and are distracted from the gaslighter's own behavior. 

9. They try to align people against you.


Gaslighters are masters at manipulating and finding the people they know will stand by them no matter what—and they use these people against you. They will make comments such as, "This person knows that you're not right," or "This person knows you're useless too." Keep in mind it does not mean that these people actually said these things. A gaslighter is a constant liar. When the gaslighter uses this tactic it makes you feel like you don't know who to trust or turn to—and that leads you right back to the gaslighter. And that's exactly what they want: Isolation gives them more control.  



10. They tell you or others that you are crazy.

This is one of the most effective tools of the gaslighter, because it's dismissive. The gaslighter knows if they question your sanity, people will not believe you when you tell them the gaslighter is abusive or out-of-control. It's a master technique.  

11. They tell you everyone else is a liar.

By telling you that everyone else (your family, the media) is a liar, it again makes you question your reality. You've never known someone with the audacity to do this, so they must be telling the truth, right? No. It's a manipulation technique. It makes people turn to the gaslighter for the "correct" information—which isn't correct information at all.

The more you are aware of these techniques, the quicker you can identify them and avoid falling into the gaslighter's trap.  

Follow-up article: Are Gaslighters Aware of What They Do? 

Copyright 2017 Sarkis 


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Emotional abuse

23:54 Mar 23 2018
Times Read: 464


Nine examples of emotional abuse

1. Constant criticism or attempts to manipulate and control

2. Shaming and blaming with hostile sarcasm or outright verbal assault

3. The use of shaming and belittling language

4. Verbal abuse — name-calling 

5. Withholding affection

6. Punishment and threats of punishment

7. Refusal to accept her part in the dynamic

8. Mind games, such as gaslighting, when it comes to accepting personal responsibility for her own happiness

9. Refusing to communicate at all

10. Isolating him from supportive friends and family


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Bullying

15:58 Mar 21 2018
Times Read: 478


The following suggestions come from leading authorities on the subject of bullying.

1. Be Confident.

PT blogger Amy Cooper Hakim tells us, “Bullies lose their power if you don’t cower. Deep down, they doubt they deserve your respect. They admire you for speaking with self-assurance and confidence. So when they bombard, don’t counterpunch. Rather, win them over with your strong, firm, courteous demeanor.” 

2. Stay Connected.

PT blogger Signe Whitson writes, “Bullies operate by making their victims feel alone and powerless. Children reclaim their power when they make and maintain connections with faithful friends and supportive adults.”

3. Use Simple, Unemotional Language.

Whitson also writes that an assertive, but unemotional response lets a bully “know that the victim does not intend to be victimized. It does not seek forgiveness, but does not pose a challenge either.” (Because a challenge gives a bully the attention and sense of power she or he is seeking.)

4. Set Limits.

Chrissy Scivicque writes, “The trick is to remain polite and professional while still setting your limits firmly. Don't let the bully get under your skin—that's what he wants. Practice your response so you're prepared the next time something happens and you can respond swiftly without getting emotional. Keep it simple and straightforward, for example: ‘I don't think your tone is appropriate.’"

Source: GaudiLab/Shutterstock

5. Act quickly and consistently.

Whitson further tells us, “The longer a bully has power over a victim, the stronger the hold becomes. Oftentimes, bullying begins in a relatively mild form—name calling, teasing, or minor physical aggression. After the bully has tested the waters and confirmed that a victim is not going to tell an adult and stand up for his rights, the aggression worsens.”

6. Strike while the iron is cold.

Sometimes all you have to do with a bully is wait a little while. Rather than exchanging hostilities, step back so that you are not responding in the heat of the moment and meeting them on their own level. Cool heads find solutions more easily than hot ones. Besides, if you step back, they may do the dirty work for you. Rikki Rogers writes that, in the case of a bully using social media for negative purposes, “Never interfere with an enemy while he’s in the process of destroying himself. This is exactly what your bully is doing: marking herself with a big red flag. We may live in a world fully inundated with social media, but all truly professional organizations (and people) understand that this is not the mature way of acting in the workplace. So just ignore it. If your bully keeps it up, you won’t be worrying about her for long.” 

So what can you do about the bully in your life?

Every one of these suggestions might not work for you, but don't give up hope if you try something and nothing happens right away. You have to keep at it, and stay consistent. You might also try combining several of the suggestions. That’s what Susan’s family did. Her daughter called her dad and her brother and asked if they could get together to talk. It took work, but they both eventually agreed. She asked if they could approach Susan with a very specific request. “It will only work if we all stand together, and if we stand firm,” she said. “We also will have to stay completely calm about it, and we’ll have to expect to fail the first few attempts. But maybe we could get together afterward to talk and take care of ourselves?”

Her dad was worried that they were ganging up on Susan, but his daughter said, “I don’t want to spend the rest of my life not talking to Mom. But I can’t reconnect to her on my own.”

The single thing they decided to focus on? That Susan not call them mean names when she spoke to them. “It’s hurtful and demeaning,” said the daughter when they finally had the family gathering. “Yeah,” said her brother. “I don’t know if you really do think I’m a stupid idiot, but it sounds like you do. So that’s how I act.”

Susan was angry, resentful, and unkind during the first get-together. She hurled insults at all of them, and wrote them nasty emails when the meeting was over. But they persevered, and after several attempts, she finally agreed to the one request. “I don’t want to hurt anyone,” she said tearfully. “But I’ll need you to remind me. Can you do it nicely?”

Susan did not stop being a bully after this one “intervention," but her family members' self-esteem flourished as a result. Her daughter began to have more contact with the family and to get some support from other extended family connections. With similar support, her son went into therapyand eventually back to work. And her husband found that he, too, was able to have a better relationship with Susan when he refused to accept her nastiness as inevitable and unchangeable.

* All identifying information, including names, have been changed to protect privacy. 

Copyright @fdbarth 2017


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Gossiping

04:54 Mar 21 2018
Times Read: 515


It’s been said, knowledge is power. Unfortunately, many people like to spread damaging information or intimate details about others, whether true or not. This is what is called gossip. It used to be that people called gossip, dishing the dirt. Whatever it’s called, people use gossip to hurt people, in order to feel good about themselves, and to feel like they have power over others.

If you know something juicy someone did over the weekend, it’s easy to feel like you have to tell others. We especially like it when we hear something that makes someone look bad. Celebrity bloggers and gossip magazines make millions of dollars off of this unfortunate reality. I’m sure you’ve encountered gossip. Some people seem to thrive on it.



It’s time for you to decide you don’t want to have any part of it.

The most dangerous part about gossip is that it steals another person’s reputation. A reputation is very fragile. When you gossip, you are helping to destroy something extremely valuable. An anonymous blogger wrote: After telling my best friend, it leaked that I tried [cutting] once. Everyone thought I was even more of a freak.

If you think it’s time for you to decide you don’t want to have any part of gossip, here are some tips on how to do it

1) Make a commitment you’re not going to gossip.
Even though the temptation to gossip is powerful, you will always win when you choose not to use it. And really, with all gossip, there’s no way of knowing for sure what is true or not. Paul wrote: I admit that I love spreading rumors. It’s all about telling lies about someone you don’t like. It usually works. That’s the problem, it does work, almost every time.



The most dangerous part about gossip is that it steals another person’s reputation.

2) Don’t listen to others when they gossip
Gossip grows an audience. You simply being there listening to it adds to its appeal. If someone starts to tell you something gossipy, say, I’m sorry, but I don’t feel comfortable talking about this person when they’re not here to defend themselves.Not only will you break the gossip chain, but you also will gain the trust of other people, as someone who won’t spread rumors.



With all gossip, there’s no way of knowing what is truth or lies.

3) Don’t judge people based on gossip.
If you should hear gossip about someone you don’t know, you have two choices: allow the gossip to determine what you believe, or let your own personal experience determine what you think. The first time you have an experience with someone that is contrary to the gossip you’ve heard, you’ll be a lot more careful about spreading or believing gossip the next time you hear it.

Katy wrote: My best friend is someone who people used to say really bad things about. But once I got to know her, I learned the truth about her. I’m so glad I gave her a chance.

4) Think before you speak.
Before you repeat something you’ve heard about another person, think: does this really do any good for me to spread this information? Or am I just trying to be in the know?Is the information even true? Could I be hurting someone by telling this, even if it’s true? If the person you are talking to is not part of the problem, or part of the solution, there’s no need to tell them anything.



Don’t associate with people who find such great joy in belittling others.

5) Stay away from people who gossip to youthey will gossip about you. Don’t associate with people who find such great joy in belittling others. Be very careful about what you choose to tell these people. If it’s a close friend, you might consider saying how you want to stop spreading gossip, and that you’d really like her help.

There’s an old saying, stick and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.That’s not true. Being gossiped about can be extremely painful. If you don’t want it done to you, don’t do it to others. In the end, it never pays to gossip.

Next week, I’m going to write about what you can do to rebuild a bad reputationdestroyed by gossip, and then I’ll follow that up with ways you can protect your reputation. What have you done to repair a bad reputation? Please tell me your story. I look forward to hearing from you.


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Excommunication

04:49 Mar 21 2018
Times Read: 520


Excommunication is an institutional act of religious censure used to deprive, suspend, or limit membership in a religious community or to restrict certain rights within it, in particular receiving of the sacraments


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In regardless to VampieRevenger

23:58 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 566


The user vampieRevenger
Is a emotional vampire, that feeds off people's drama.
I personally do not like this women.
Her nasty attitude got her kicked out of a lot houses and groups.
No one can be excommunicated from vampyre community, unless of imprisonment, murder or rape.
The person they are talking about, is not excommunicated from the vampyre community, she left the house because of personal issues with a member there. She told everyone in the group, she wanted to be ronin.
She doesn't even have a criminal record.
Now, if she was excommunicated for a serious crime, she would be in prison not on ovc, donating to nova. The New Orleans Vampire Assoication.
For the record, this is in the past.
Everyone makes mistakes.


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Lithilian
Lithilian
00:06 Mar 20 2018

Yeah, I made a journal about it. Even fake bs.. its still wrong to threaten anyone with fake harm. Just to feed off the negative energy. Pray she never tries to feed off me.. because *shakes head* she wouldnt be able to withstand it. Its stupid. She brought in names that are not the same person.





PrincessMradu
PrincessMradu
00:11 Mar 20 2018

That is true





 

Against law

07:41 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 599


Under Penal Code 401 PC, it is a felony  to help or encourage someone to commit suicide.
If you tell someone go hang yourself it's a felony.


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Do something

02:02 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 618


Those who do nothing while witnessing injustice and wrong-doing do worse than those who commit acts of injustice. The privileged have a responsibility to do what they know is right.
Martin Luther king Jr.


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Verbal assault

01:55 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 624


What is verbal assault?

Verbal assault between co-workers, between managers and employees, or even from clients or suppliers, is defined as excessive anger in a person who insults or verbally abuses another. 
Verbal assault can be overt or subtle: It is or can comprise the following:

Relationship between aggressor and victim Abuse of power Attack on a person’s integrity and security Work environment deterioration Job in jeopardy What are the various forms of verbal assault?

The main forms of verbal assault in the workplace are: verbal abuse, abusive phone calls and abusive e-mails.


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Threatening

01:25 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 634


Section 4A makes it an offence to use threatening, abusive or insulting language with the intention of causing someone else harassment, alarm or distress.


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Stand against injustice, cyberbullying, harrasment, threats hate

00:56 Mar 19 2018
Times Read: 639


Say No! To threats, cyberbullying, harrasment, no more, no more people being hurt.
Say No! To threats, cyberbullying, harrasment, no more. No more people being hurt.
No more no more..
People die from.cyberbullying and harrasment.


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It's true

23:47 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 681


Yes, there is someone on here, won't mention a name that has all the characteristic of Ted Bundy. 
He is not Maro, the writer, masterofMaddness. So, leave them alone. I will not allow this guy to put blame on them for his mistake.
Just be safe, use block button, carry pepper spray in your purse. Take self defense class.


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Ted Bundy

22:52 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 698


In 1975, Ted Bundy went to prison for sexual harassment. Was released on good behavior..
Ted Bundy friends stood up for him, his a great guy etc. He never did anything to me.
Come on ladies, it's silly remarks, boys will be boys.
It won't be funny, when your sister, mother daughter is dead or verbal, mentally emotionally or physically abused.
Please take sexual remarks etc seriously. Report it...

Yes, there is someone on here, won't mention name that has all the characteristic of Ted Bundy. He has threaten ( which is against the law) and yes it has been proven. He has sexually harassed women in vr, other social sites and real life. He has a criminal record.
Be careful on here, block if you suspect a dangerous person. Get a tazer or pepper spray and carry it in your purse. Online is fun but carry dangerous predatories on here.
Be safe


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Ted Bundy

21:43 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 712


When Ted Bundy decided to defend himself in court, he used strategies has changing the subject, twist words and threatening or humiliating the innocent .
He also tried to make himself look good. It is true that He was a boy scouts leader, and helped with charities. So he used this in court. He even had friends say how wonderful he was.
A lot people like him will also will make jokes and lighten the situation.


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The guilty

21:09 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 727


Guilty people try to change the subject, twist words and try to threaten or humiliate the innocent.
A lot of times there arguments don't make since. They try to make themselves look good has well.
They even try to justify their action by turning it into a joke or making it seem like it's not a big deal.
A famous serial killer by the name of Ted Bundy, used this strategies to try to prove he was innocent.


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Justify one's action

20:53 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 731


External self-justification refers to the use of external excuses to justify one's actions. The excuses can be a displacement of personal responsibility, lack of self-control or social pressures. External self-justification aims to diminish one's responsibility for a behavior and is usually elicited by moral dissonance. For example, the smoker might say that he only smokes socially and because other people expect him to.


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Report harassment

20:05 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 740


Reporting Harassment to the Police

Before filing a police report for harassment, gather all the evidence of the harassing behavior you can, including print outs of emails, text messages and social media messages and hard copies of your phone records. Ask any witnesses of the harassing behavior if they are willing to be interviewed by the police and if so, create a list of witness names, addresses and phone numbers. The more proof of harassment you have, the more likely the police will take your complaint seriously. Contact your local police or sheriff's department. If you feel the matter is an emergency, call 911. When the officer arrives at your home, he will ask several questions to verify your harassment claim, and take the evidence you have gathered.

After Reporting Harassment

What happens when you file a police report for harassment? First, your local police or sheriff's department will investigate the matter. They will look at the evidence you have provided, ask witnesses to verify your claims and interview the person who has been harassing you. If this does not stop the harassment, you may be able to file a court complaint. Contact your local court clerk's office and ask for the forms you need to make your complaint (you may be able to get these online). Depending on the circumstances, the court may create a protection order or a restraining order to give you limited protection from the harasser.


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Criminal harassment

19:54 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 747


Harassment" refers to a broad number of behaviors that are subject to both criminal punishment and civil liability. On the criminal side, states have a wide variety of criminal laws forbidding harassment in many forms, including general harassment crimes as well as specific forms of harassment, such as stalking and cyberstalking.


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Harassment

19:21 Mar 18 2018
Times Read: 757


Definition and Examples of Harassment

The standard definition for harassment is unwanted conduct on the grounds of race, gender, sexual orientation etc. which has the purpose or effect of either violating the claimant's dignity, or creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for them.


Bullying

Bullying may be characterised as offensive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behaviour, an abuse or misuse of power through means intended to undermine, humiliate, denigrate or injure the recipient.  Examples of bullying could be:

abuse of power or authorityverbal, written and/or physical intimidation e.g. threats, derisory remarkspersistent unjustified criticismpublic humiliationthe setting of impossible deadlines or intolerable workload burdenshaving responsibilities or decision-making powers withdrawn without good reason or explanationunwarranted exclusions

Vigorous speech and comment, academic debate and legitimate management of the performance of staff or students can be distinguished from bullying behaviour.  However care should be taken to ensure that neither staff nor students are made to feel intimidated. 

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Sexual Harassment

Sexual harassment may be homosexual or heterosexual. It may be defined as any form of unwanted verbal, non-verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature that creates an intimidating, hostile, degrading or offensive environment. It may include:

physical contactinvasion of personal spacesuggestive remarks or soundsunwanted comments on dress and appearancejokes of a sexual naturedisplay of sexually offensive materialinappropriate downloading of pornographic or sexually exploitive and degrading material by computerverbal threats

It is important to remember that sexual harassment can occur of women by men, men by women, and also between members of the same sex. It can also refer to unwanted conduct that is related to the sex of the other person.

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Racial Harassment

Racial harassment is any behaviour, deliberate or otherwise pertaining to race, colour, nationality - including citizenship, or ethnic or national origins, which is directed at an individual or group and which is found to be offensive or objectionable to recipients and which creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive environment. Such behaviour may include:

derogatory name callinginsults and racist jokesdisplay of racially offensive material and abusive languageexclusion from normal workplace conversation or activitiesunfair allocation of workverbal threatsphysical attackincitement of others to commit any such acts

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Harassment on Grounds of Sexual Orientation

This act of harassment is any behaviour deliberate or otherwise, pertaining to sexual orientation. Homophobia is a term used to describe hatred and rejection of gays, lesbians and homosexuality. It may be directed against individuals or groups of people who are, or are thought to be lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered and is behaviour which can be defined as unwanted conduct violating a person’s dignity, or creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment. Examples may include:

offensive jokesridiculeverbal threatsderogatory commentsintrusive questioning about a person's domestic circumstancesinnuendogossipphysical attackunfair allocation of workexclusion from normal work place / class conversation or activitiesincitement of others to commit any such acts

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Harassment on Grounds of Religion

Religious Harassment is any behaviour deliberate or otherwise, pertaining to religion, religious belief or other similar philosophical belief and it is behaviour which can be defined as unwanted conduct violating a person's dignity, or creating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment.  Examples can include:

offensive jokesridiculedisplay of offensive material

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Political Harassment, or Harassment on the Grounds of Trade Union Membership

Political harassment, or harassment on the grounds of trade union membership can include:

offensive jokesridiculedisplay of offensive material

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Harassment on the Grounds of Disability

Harassment may be based on the fact that a person has a physical or mental impairment, learning difficulty or disfigurement. This can include:

offensive or patronising languageoffensive or patronising action or behaviourjokes or inappropriate commentsquestions which cause offence to the individual or group of individuals concerneddisplay of offensive material

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Harassment on the Grounds of Age

Ageism can affect anybody regardless of how old they are. Harassment on the grounds of age may include:

assumptions regarding the individual's inability to learnoffensive remarksexclusion on the basis of age


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Threats

11:12 Mar 16 2018
Times Read: 788


threats are a gross misdemeanor. Illegal threats include threats to do bodily harm, threaten to destroy property, or threats to do anything “which is maliciously intended to substantially harm the person threatened or another with respect to his or her physical or mental health or safety.


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Effects of verbal abuse

11:07 Mar 16 2018
Times Read: 792


Those effects of verbal abuse illustrate symptoms similar to depression, anxiety and low self-esteem. The chicken and the egg question does not apply when it comes to domestic violence and abuse. The abuse comes first. Then the mentally healthy victim succumbs to insecurity and mental disorders. If the abuse victim-to-be is mentally unwell when meeting the abuser, the abuse will worsen the mental illness or create new illnesses.

Your best defense against abuse is to take care of yourself physically and mentally and be aware of the signs of an abuser.

*If you’re a man and want to explain how males feel differently as compared to Ms. Evans’s list, please comment.

*Both women and men could be abusers or victims, so please do not take my pronoun choices as an implication that one gender abuses and the other is victimized.


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Mental and verbal harassment

11:01 Mar 16 2018
Times Read: 795


Mental and verbal harassment in the workplace refers to demeaning comments that are directed in a sexual manner, such as whistling, or to bully a person, including giving a person a derogatory name, according to TheHarassmentLaw.com.


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Emotional abuse or any abuse is against the law

17:22 Mar 14 2018
Times Read: 817


One definition of emotional abuse is: "any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, infantilization, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth."1

Emotional abuse is also known as psychological abuse or as "chronic verbal aggression" by researchers. People who suffer from emotional abuse tend to have very low self-esteem, show personality changes (such as becoming withdrawn) and may even become depressed, anxious or suicidal.

Emotional Abuse Signs and Symptoms

Emotional abuse symptoms vary but can invade any part of a person's life. Signs of emotional abuse include:

Yelling or swearing (read about: Emotional Bullying)Name calling or insults; mockingThreats and intimidationIgnoring or excluding Isolating Humiliating Denial of the abuse and blaming of the victim

Emotional abuse, like other types of abuse, tends to take the form of a cycle.2 In a relationship, this cycle starts when one partner emotionally abuses the other, typically to show dominance. The abuser then feels guilt, but not about what he (or she) has done, but more over the consequences of his actions. The abuser then makes up excuses for his own behavior to avoid taking responsibility over what has happened. The abuser then resumes "normal" behavior as if the abuse never happened and may, in fact, be extra charming, apologetic and giving – making the abused party believe that the abuser is sorry. The abuser then begins to fantasize about abusing his partner again and sets up a situation in which more emotional abuse can take place.

More information on: Dynamics of Emotional Abuse in Relationships.

Examples of Emotional Abuse

In some countries emotional abuse is defined and the following examples of emotional abuse are given by Justice Canada:

Threats of violence or abandonment Intentionally frighteningMaking an individual fear that they will not receive the food or care they need Lying Failing to check allegations of abuse against themMaking derogative or slanderous statements about an individual to others Socially isolating an individual, failing to let them have visitors Withholding important information Demeaning an individual because of the language they speak Intentionally misinterpreting traditional practices Repeatedly raising the issue of death Telling an individual that they are too much trouble Ignoring or excessively criticizing Being over-familiar and disrespectful Unreasonably ordering an individual around; treating an individual like a servant or child
Verbal abuse, any abuse is against the law..


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Verbal assault and humiliation is against the law

10:58 Mar 14 2018
Times Read: 844


Section 264.1 of the Criminal Code defines the crime and the punishment for uttering threats. If you threaten anyone with death or “bodily harm,” you can get up to five years in prison. If you threaten to harm anyone's property or animal, you can get up to two years in prison.Nov 15, 2009
Verbal assault  usually involves threatening physical violence on someone, although sometimes yelling or aggressively using words to offend or attack someone can constituteverbal assault. The threats must be something the assailant is capable of carrying out, and which cause fear of imminent danger to the victim.

What is considered Abusive Language?

When the court is determining if the abuse sustained is enough for allocating compensation to injury, it is important to understand what is considered abusive language. The words uttered matter in these proceedings. When subjected to this type of abuse, verbal threats are tantamount to the potential for assault. The person affected may feel like he or she is in danger of being harmed. Other words that humiliate the subject are determined as offensive. Racial and sexual slurs have been considered as grounds for a claim. Other statements of a scandalous concern have been included as well.

Evidence, Responsibility and Legal Recourse

When one party has been the subject of verbal abuse, he or she is usually the only party that sustains psychological or emotional damage in the ordeal. However, when both parties have been equally abusive, there may be no claim for either. Usually, only one person is permitted to sue the other. Evidence, however, does strengthen the case when it is provided as a visual for the jury or judge. An illness or physical manifestation of the injuries shows those involved how the victim has suffered and why a claim for compensation is necessary.

When seeking to resolve the claim for verbal abuse cases, it is best to obtain a lawyer for assistance. The elements that must be proven could be difficult without legal representation. Additionally, if other complications arise, the lawyer may have the knowledge necessary to ensure a smoother experience. This legal professional may improve the odds of a successful outcome.

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Trust quote

16:04 Mar 13 2018
Times Read: 856


Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother fcker's reflection.

Lady Gaga


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Emotional blackmail

19:20 Mar 12 2018
Times Read: 871


Emotional blackmail and FOG (Fear, obligation or guilt), terms coined by psychotherapist Susan Forward, are about controlling people in relationships and the theory that fear, obligation and guilt ("FOG") are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and the person being controlled.


Blackmail is punishable by a fine, imprisonment, or both.” So, simply put, blackmail is a threat to harm someone (physically or emotionally) if they do not do something the blackmailer wants. ... Blackmail and extortion are crimes, and it is their obligation to enforce the law.


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Poison dart frog

21:16 Mar 11 2018
Times Read: 894


The smallest of creatures are the most dangerous.
For example, Poison dart frogs can kill you.
Don't judge a book by its cover.


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What is harassment

06:24 Mar 11 2018
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Harassment occurs when you engage in unwanted behaviour which is related to a relevant protected characteristic and which has the purpose or effect of:

violating a student’s dignity orcreating an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for the student.The word ‘unwanted’ means ‘unwelcome’ or ‘uninvited’. It is not necessary for the student to say that they object to the behaviour for it to be unwanted.

In this context ‘related to’ has a broad meaning and includes situations where the student who is on the receiving end of the unwanted behaviour does not have the protected characteristic himself or herself, provided there is a connection between the behaviour and a protected characteristic. This would also include situations where the student is associated with someone who has a protected characteristic or is wrongly perceived as having a particular protected characteristic.

For example:

A college tutor makes racist remarks about the local Gypsy and Traveller site stating that it should be shut down as the ‘gypos’ were causing problems in the community. A pupil from a Traveller background is in the class and finds the tutor’s behaviour degrading and offensive. This would be harassment related to the protected characteristic of race.


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Handle jealous people

07:03 Mar 10 2018
Times Read: 922


How to Handle Haters and Jealous People

When someone feels inferior or slighted, they often express their feelings in the form of jealousy or hate. These feelings can cause uncomfortable situations and make you feel bad for your success. Confronting haters and jealous people head on and utilizing different strategies to help them overcome their jealousy will help you culture positive relationships.

Avoid taking it personally. Know that when a person is jealous of you, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Be confident in yourself. Don’t allow a jealous person to affect your confidence or to create self doubt. Keep doing what you're doing, and don't allow others to stop you.Focus on people that support you.Remind yourself that they're jealous because you are doing something 


Ignore the jealous and hateful comments. Although it’s hard to do, ignoring mean comments from jealous people tells them you are not going to validate their feelings.

Address haters in your daily life head on. When ignoring someone is not an option, approaching the situation directly may help release the jealous tension. Have a conversation to confront them about their behavior."I want to have a positive working relationship; what can I do to help promote that environment?""While I appreciate your constructive criticisms, I feel that you sometimes come across a little harsh."


Set boundaries. Don’t feel like you have to continue to listen to a jealous person vent to you all the time. Set boundaries to distance yourself from the person. Make a mental time limit for how long you will engage with a negative person, then politely excuse yourself from the conversation.[4]Give yourself 1 minute when you talk to them, then walk away saying "I need to go check something."Keep track of negative comments, and after 3, end the conversation.

Let the person know that you don't appreciate the negativity. While you don't want to be rude and upset the person further, making them aware of how they are making you feel may cause them to change their behavior."I feel uncomfortable with the way you speak to me.""Your approach when we talk makes me feel bad. Can we change our interactions to be more positive?


Find the specific source of the person’s jealousy. Most jealousy comes from fears; the fear of being disrespected or not being loved can be powerful influences. Find out what fear is fueling the jealousy to gain perspective on where they are coming from. The jealousy can stem from a variety of sources: Physical objects Personal relationships Professional positions Social status.


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False Accusation

10:47 Mar 09 2018
Times Read: 948


false accusations?

Secure the services of a qualified and experienced criminal defense attorney as soon as possible. ..
.Realize the importance of false accusations. ...
Prepare for the costs of your defense. ..
.Document your case. ..
.Educate yourself. ...
Compile a list of possible witnesses.
Know your rights.


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How to spy

10:22 Mar 07 2018
Times Read: 954


How to spy on someone.
Like I said, there are different methods you can use and we will look at each of them individually. The reason why it’s called spying is that you want to find out what someone is doing without them knowing and you want to do it without getting caught.

Before you pick out your gear and start surveilling, know that it’s a federal offense. You can go to jail for it. This is because you will be infringing on the other person’s right to privacy and chances are that if you are caught spying on our other half, it’s going to do more harm than good.

How to spy on someone without them knowing

If you decide that you do not need a PI, then you must master the basics of spying. Whatever location you choose for your spying, be it the mall or at home, you have to act casual and be cool. No ridiculous disguises, nervousness, carrying colorful equipment or drawing attention to yourself. No!

Act casual by staying relaxed. Avoid fidgeting too much and keep eyes ahead. Nervousness will be the first thing people notice and the trick is not to get noticed.
Act cool like you are waiting for someone or wrapped in your own thoughts. No loitering, constantly looking up and down or searching. This will be too obvious.
If they spot you, pretend it’s no big deal. Say hi to them or nod in acknowledgment. Running off will alert them to your tricks.
If they catch, have an excuse ready. Although the trick is not to get caught, sometimes things happen and you should have to have a likely story to give. For example, “I lost an earring,” if crouched down on the floor spying. If out in public, you could say, you came to get your phone fixed. Best to keep the story boring and normal and avoid indulging in a deep story.
Blend in with the crowd or surroundings during your spying mission. Make yourself inconspicuous by picking clothes that fit your environment. You could also do what everyone else is doing. For example, if you’ve followed them to a bookstore, act like you are searching for a book too.
Pick good shoes with rubber soles. They should be quiet and light in case you need to run. Make sure you test them out before going on this mission and practice walking without making a sound.
Carry a notebook or recorder and jot down everything that happens. The tiny things that may not make sense at the moment may fill a huge part of he puzzle when looked at later.
For inspiration and to get clues from experts, watch spy movies like James Bond or read novels like the Bourne Trilogy. Do some practice spy work before the real thing. This will help you know your strengths and weaknesses. If you get caught, then you know what to do the real thing to avoid getting caught. You can get a partner to help you discover information you may not get on your own. Look for one you can trust though, in case they blow your cover.


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avoid charity scams

23:51 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 963


How to avoid charity scams


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free criminal background check

20:34 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 972


How to do a free criminal background check on someone


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How to recognize fake accounts on facebook

19:42 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 975


How To Recognize Fake Accounts on Facebook


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cat

19:18 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 978


Une femme qui prétend détester une personne nommée Cat. Est vraiment chat elle-même. Tout le monde dit que le chat est responsable de tout le drame, mais c'est vraiment un enfant dégoûtant. Son enfant est vraiment lié au travail de la police en réalité, c'est un retraité marié sans vie. Qui utilise de nombreux profils pour harceler les femmes sexuelles ici.


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Des personnes

19:06 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 980


Vous essayez de trouver des personnes qui ont des problèmes d'estime de soi ou qui ont été maltraitées afin de pouvoir les escroquer. Dites-leur qu'ils sont spéciaux. Puis lancez-les si vous ne pouvez pas les faire chanter. S'ils ont de l'argent, vous trouvez une raison stupide de les excommunier. Vous n'êtes pas de vrais vampires. Vous êtes des poseurs qui utilisent le projet d'unité pour devenir riche. Utiliser les femmes pour votre agenda personnel.


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Les fous

09:42 Mar 06 2018
Times Read: 993


les fous et les faux gens prennent le contrôle de cet endroit. se rapportant à être des gens qu'ils ne sont pas. Je me demande pourquoi

Vous essayez de trouver des personnes qui ont des problèmes d'estime de soi ou qui ont été maltraitées afin de pouvoir les escroquer. Dites-leur qu'ils sont spéciaux. Puis lancez-les si vous ne pouvez pas les faire chanter. S'ils ont de l'argent, vous trouvez une raison stupide de les excommunier. Vous n'êtes pas de vrais vampires. Vous êtes des poseurs qui utilisent le projet d'unité pour devenir riche. Utiliser les femmes pour votre agenda personnel.


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Best of John Sterlings boopers

18:44 Mar 05 2018
Times Read: 1,004


Best of John sterlings boopers.


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John Sterling American sportscaster

12:31 Mar 05 2018
Times Read: 1,031


John Sterling (born John Sloss;[1] July 4, 1938[2])[3] is an American sportscaster best known as the radio play-by-play announcer of Major League Baseball's New York Yankees. He has announced every Yankees game since 1989.

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