Someone said something to me recently that resonated as a past lesson that went unlearned:
Wanting affection and reassurance in a relationship doesn't make you needy, it makes you human. These are fundamental principles of a relationship.
Funny how often I have seen people make their significant others feel bad for this very want. Failure to understand your partner's needs, while demanding they meet your own is a very selfish way to go about trying to have a relationship.
Or, more accurately, not trying. Trying would indicate a want to understand and not be selfish.
But, I digress.
I see on my social media friends accomplishing great things - and thanking god for it.
People receiving generous gifts from partnering business associates that can help them in their own business - and thanking god for it.
Faith bullshit aside, when are we going to learn to appreciate ourselves for what we accomplish? When will we learn to appreciate a fellow human being for being generous and supportive? Why do all good things come from god, but when the bad things happen, god had nothing to do with it - oh, but he's going to help you through!
Do the faithful have any clue or concept of the double-standard this is?
Why is this seemingly only apparent to the people who can get past blind faith and see it for what it is?
If this is "god's divine plan" well, baby, god apparently like fucking people over just as much as he helps. That means you're his fucking tinker-toy and he isn't giving or taking out of love - he just likes playing with his toys.
We were made in his image? How often do people feel the same about their toys after they're old and they've played with them for a while, compared to when they were new?
You're in a box at god's garage sale at this point. What do you think you're worth?
It's a tragic view point that the blind will never want to acknowledge.
and "playing with words" comes in when you use the "in god's image argument" which I have use quite a few times, only to be told the words we use mean only what we want them to mean, not the truth of what they represent. :: shrugs:: Those who are afraid of the truth will always manipulate themselves around a fact.
As for worth... you can be made to fell less by how another will use you like you don't matter, like you are there for THEM and what affects you is of no consequence. But you are worth what you make yourself to be worth, and what you are happy that is within yourself without explanation nor reason. Your actions say who you are... and you and only you are in command of what those actions mean in value when they reflect you.
Are we gods toys? maybe... but he can't ignore how we take that and live on.
It hurts a mother fucking whole lot... but we live.
My life is bizarre. Daily.
The way people want me in their lives is beyond me.
Like the vendor rep that needed to discuss her player of a boyfriend (kind of) that I used to work with that she knew had a serious girl friend, but she wanted a relationship with him anyway and then cried to me that she didn't know what to do about the whole situation.
Or the guy who just asked me through FB if I could shoot a music video for his band, and then when I asked, "What is your budget for this?" he immediately stopped talking.
What? You thought I would produce a fucking music video out of the kindness of my heart, or just to say, "Look what I did!"
Really people? Learn how the world works.
I had a client bitch at me for billing her for telephone calls placed after business hours, on weekends and on holidays. I said "did I spend time talking to you? Did I answer your questions?" She said "yes." I then said "my time is valuable and, yes, I bill for it." She paid and has not called me outside of regular work hours. But, I think people always think they are going to get something for nothing. I wonder if they try to bargain with the power company?
Yeah, I have someone now that wants to sue me over taking photos of their food truck in a public place and I won't just give them the photos.
People are ridiculous.
When you're being assaulted, and you strike back, that isn't an anger management issue. That is a, why are you hitting me in the first place, issue.
Let's get it straight.
I've often said, we tend to accuse others for what we see and dislike most in ourselves.
That came to light in a big way yesterday.
It's a shame to discover such hypocrisy and dishonesty....
The answer to your question is, yes.
And that, is that.