That's a word that strikes home to many people. It's not a word to take lightly or to joke about. People don't realize how painful suicide is for the friends and family of the victims. Though you may not think of the person as a victim, but they are. They are victims of pain that can not be overcome. They are victims of abuse or bullies. They are victims of their own thoughts.
To Write Love On Her Arms is a non-profit organization seeking help in preventing Suicides, Addiction, and Self-bodily harm. I support TWLOHA due to 2 victims:
My aunt was a victim of Attempted Suicide. She ate almost 2 bottles of pills. My mother had talked to her about 30 minutes before she passed out. Nothing seemed to be wrong and that's the worse situation. Not knowing there is an issue. She was on a ventilator for over a week. It was the WORST thing I have ever went through.
The second was my classmate Devin. I had talked to him 2 weeks before he took his own life. I didn't see a change in him, I thought he was the same. He wasn't. He had talked to a few of his friends and mentioned suicide but nobody ever thought he was serious. Sadly he was. He told one of his friends right before he did what he did that he was going to commit suicide, she was 5 minutes to late. His grandfather heard his grandson die but could not walk out the door to see what he had done.
Suicide is a painful way out of pain. If someone tells you that they are thinking of suicide, do not brush it off as talk, talk to them about what's going on. Do not hesitate because you may save their life.
Also, don't joke around about suicide or death because there are people out there who deal with it EVERYDAY of their life.
Self-mutilation is another serious matter. Cutting and burning ones-self is not an ATTENTION GRABBER (though some people do do it for that reason). Most people cut themselves because it is the only release they can get.
I was once a victim of self-mutilation. It was also an addiction. If I was in pain, I'd cut. If I was bored, I'd cut. If I was crying, I'd cut harder. I had one friend who payed attention to what was going on. He is the only reason that I do not have more scars than I do. He helped me stop and I thank God for him EVERY SINGLE DAY.
We can help prevent suicides and self-mutilation. We can lend an ear and a voice to those who need us. We can be a shoulder to cry on. We can be the arms that surround someone in pain.
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I am a cutter. I have attempted suicide in my past. I've hit the bottom and am still trying to pick myself back up. I thank you for this page Kristen because it shows me a different side to things. Self mutilation isn't always done for attention. Although sadly some do. I cut when I'm bored or in pain. When I feel like I have no one in my life I turn to my knife or razor blade. I lost my best friend in the world to suicide. There is a memorial page for him in the coven Poets, Lovers and Madmen. I was to late to save him and I live with that everyday of my life. Suicide is serious. Its not something even joke about if you are bored or whatever. Take your friends serious if they say it. Its not always a cry for attention. Its a cry for help. Thank you again Kristen. *hugs*
This Takes me back to when i first started cutting and burning.
I burned every time I'd sleep with a guy thinking they liked me and all's i was to them was a HUGE JOKE! so I'd sit outside crying wondering why no one loved me so i'd burn and cut till i felt no pain. I even got a lot of piercings for pain relief . I still feel alone but i know that all's i was doing was hurting myself . cause when i did get a b/f and he caught me burning and cutting he called me a weirdo and left me..
Of course Marci. I joined TWLOHA to help prevent people from committing suicide because of not only the precious life lost but of also the people they leave behind. Self-mutilation is a serious cry for help. And I'm sorry for the passing of your friend. I can only imagine how hard it is for you. *hugs*
Alesana I'm sorry hun. But I'm glad to know that you no longer do it and the reason behind why. :)
I am glad you no longer cut it scares me i have a 16yrold and she always says shes gonna but so far she hasnt.
Have you told her the pain that it causes?? That it does more harm than good??
I started cutting when I was 14, and I'm 19 now and it's been on and off. There have been a few close calls when I almost bled to death, but I still did it. I also tried to overdose on pills and commit suicide in various ways, but luckily the pills didn't get to me and there were people that saved me from the edge who I still thank to this day.
Nikki I know it's a struggle everyday but your life is worth living. The family that loves you would miss you tremendously, the friends that are there to listen to your pain would grieve for you. Cutting is only harming yourself more. Though you grow stronger, you still have those scars to remind of the pain that you went through, and yes they are something to remember but your life is way to precious to ever consider suicide.
I am also a recovering cutter. Its something that I deal with everyday. I started cutting when I was 11 or 12 years old. Anytime I was hurting emotionally or was mad I would pick up a razor and just cut. What's even more pathetic is I ALWAYS have a razor with me,,for that just in case I need it..I haven't cut myself in about 5 years but it's always lingering there in the back of my mind..This is a nice page by the way
I still unfortunately give into the temptation of self harm. I wish I didn't. There are times when it feels like I have nothing else. I know I have friends who would willingly sit with me and help me through but its not the relief that seeing that blood drip. *sigh* I have a man in my life now that has quickly become my best friend. He has made me promise to stop and so far I have kept that promise. The thought of letting him down hurts me so I will keep it to the best of my ability and hope he understands if I slip. Thank you again Kristen.
It is not taken serious because there are people out there who say publicly (mostly on-line) they're going to kill themselves and aren't serious. They do it for attention. Because of these, there are people who ask for help, yet they don't get heard. How to recognize a serious one from an attention seeker? It's difficult to tell and that's the problem.
LaMuerta: I know how you feel. I have kept myself cut free for 5 years now, but I still carry a knife with me in my purse everywhere I go, not only for protection, but to remind me that there was a time when it was my release. It's hard to look at it sometimes when I'm in pain, but I remember how far I have come since that last cut.
DarkxMistress: I hope you not only keep your promise to your friend but also to me that whenever you need to let go of a burden you will come to me and I will do my best to help you resolve it.
deathnitegrl: You are absolutely right, it is VERY difficult to tell the difference from the attention seekers and the ones who really need help. I guess we just have to lend our ears and our voice to each one to keep the ones who really need our help from harming themselves. Though some make a joke about it, I will still lend my ears and voice to them just to save a life, not matter if they are serious or not.
i just wanted to say i support this with my whole heart i myself suffer from severe depression an have abandonment issues... i know what its like an i wish for nobody to have to go through wat i have..
You are a great person for starting this page, FatalAttraction. Much honor to you.
You are a great person and I love your page, I understand about the suicide I tried to myself when I was 13 So I know
Came back to read the comments and have to add: I was suicidal too, but I never cut. I did the mistake to confess my feelings to the wrong people and they misjudged and bullied me. They called me emo/goth, cutter and attention seeker. Another thing I can't stand is the judgmental attitude towards suicides and self cutters. I know an ex self cutter who wasn't 'dark' and I am an example of an ex suicidal without being a cutter. Another thing is, saying people with suicide feelings are weak. Having suicide feelings is the worst side effect of depression, which is a chemical imbalance, but some people think they know it all, but the people who commented here showed they have deep feelings and guts.
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