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most people say they want to die..but what do u feel like when someone thats u love a lot and would do anything for dies?

i feel lost and helpless with alot of sleepless nights

I will be very sad. I hardly have ppl that I love, so I take it very hard.

same here but i have a lot of people i love but i still get very sad :(

well... to be honest its not something i can say i go through everyday obviously, but i went through it twice once with my father and once with my grandma. thing is, true at that point it really does hit hard that you're never gonna see that person again, and maybe you'd think that life's unfair and so on and so forth, thing is, every1's gna die alone anyway and at the end, no matter how much you loved the person, you're gonna have to move on and get on with life anyway. as harsh as it is to believe, they'd probably do the same if you were the one dead anyway.

yeah it would be hard i dont have a lot that i love but the ones i do i love so much god that would be so hard

Amethyst that is true i feel that way too

I lost my best friend to a car accident. These times are never easy, the wounds left behind by someone you cared for take a long time to heal if they ever do. The best way to remember those we lost, are to think of the great times we had with that person. For they are never truly gone from us, as long as we remember them.

use i lost my uncle a year ago and we ware close and i talk to my aunt about the good times and it helps a little bit but i still have some dreams that make me cry and sleepless nights but it does get a little better

Of course you think (or can think) we're all gonna die anyway, even though you feel sad. But I personally couldn't - even though I know how short life can be.
My friends are all below thirty, so that would make me extremely sad because they would have had so much time before them. My grandma's not gonna live so much longer I think (even though I hope different). Don't know how I'm gonna feel then, becasue I never lost somebody before.
One of my friends once told that she wanted to die and I have felt a lot of times the same way. The only thing that kept me from actually doing it, were my friends. Or to be precise, the reaction and the feelings of them, which I would have provocted. I couldn't do that to them.

well honestly it might just be that i dont have anyone i could really love so much as to be completely and utterly devastated at losing... seems like life's only full of letdowns as far as that area is concerned... what i do know is whether i love the deceased or not, fuck it they're probably better off anyway. might as well get on with it.

i have lost alot of peopleom my life that i love and a few time i have wanted die to but then i think of how much hard it would be to loose two then jsut one

I have lost so many people. When I lost a close friend of mine, I cried for days. But then, one night, I had a dream about him. We were sitting in a beautiful garden having tea. We talked about the good times and we laughed a lot. When I woke up, I felt better, like the darkness was lifting. I still miss the people I have lost, and still find myself talking to them. It is with hope that wherever they are, they can hear me. And I visit them in my dreams. And every time I remember them, I smile, even if it is a sad memory. For I am blessed just to have known them, even for a moment.

thats true Amethyst....they have less pain

when i dream about the 3 people i lost this last year its msotly about there death and it upsets me more..the onkly thing that keeps me moveing is the good times and somepoeople i can talk to about it

I just lost a few family members and lately all that has made me feel better is taking a long walk...

ok i will try that

I believe the deceased are better off, if they lived in pain (physical or psychological), because I do not belive i an afterlife. But the thought of nothingness can be scary at times. If I think about the good times I have with my friends and of the feeling of being together with them, I think it's scary to not feel anything ever again. Yet if your in pain, that's a very comforting thought.

true true sickbag

well, what I will say may sound a bit too heartless, but that's how I see it and act in that manner. I started to be boring with repeating that sentence of mine that people just can't face loss which is the main reason why we are sad when we lose someone in any way. Everything that was born must die, tree, animal, planet why humans should be different? When someone very close to me died i got down for about two days and then I asked myself what am I changing with dragging myself down? I realized that I must continue to live on normally! Most common question after somebody you liked dies is: what will I do now without him? well, do everything that you did before only without that person.

theres away to look at it but ur teel me ur goanna walk up to soem one that is deal with grief and teel them to get over it will to let u known its not easy and if u did hat to me i would slpa u

hmmmm this sounds familiar...
I grew up in a high suicide rate area....so this is something I have experienced a lot....at first I felt hurt that they never came to me for help.....then angry....what right did they have to do this to the rest of us....then eventually I felt acceptance...there is nothing to be done about it but moving on.....
I try to cheer up one person I see who needs it every single day..just the act of cheering them up will usually pulll me out of all but the deepest bad moods..

I hate it when people say "get over it"!!! You will never get over it, it will always be a part of you. You will learn to handle it, deal with it. I lost a good friend when he was young-25. He was stabbed to death and died in my arms. Lucky me though, I have a connection with ghosts. He is still with me to help me. I think everyone has to grieve in their own way, and it may take years to get a handle on. but if you find grief or depression overcoming you, ask for help. Friends, family, even a counselor if it comes to that. But I will tell you-the pain will pass. One day, you will be able to look on it without it destroying you.

I feel the same way sometimes

You take the good you take the bad you put them together then you have the facts of life..... so then after that you just push forward the ones you love would never want you to give up.....

i'd never lost anyone important until my grandad one year ago

i went through a lot of things that made me think about death, i do not fear it, i live each day like it comes closer, but i don't fear it because i know it HAS to come closer.

when my grandad died, i didn't shed one tear, i had a pretty neutral look on my face. Some people probably thought i didn't care. But to be honest, i've talked myself into dealing with it. so it's easier because of the way i used to think.

I'd rather not lose people i care about, but it can't be helped, and when it can't be helped and there's nothing you can do. you just gotta accept it. and i've taught myself just to accept it.

it was very hard getting over my mother death,it took alot of deep thought and time..its very hard to loose love ones..

I had a dear friend kill them self... that was 7 years ago or so and i can finaliy talk about it with out getting to upset... but not one day goes buy that i dont think about them and what could have been... its hard and i dont think i can ever trueily get over it

i haven't lost anyone that close to me yet, but this one time my mom left a suicide note leaving everything to me and i thought she eas dead. SO i guess i've felt the pain for about 2 days...then she came home =) but death is natural and i tell everyone whos lost one, remember, love, never forgert, and move one slowly.

damn my spelling again! grrr...

i have win people tell me that to VampyOne

sorry the above says i HATE*** it WHEN*** people say that to.......i need to wake up before i start typing wow

My dad died when I was 12 by suicide, honestly I felt cheated. No one was there to help me grow up. If I lost one of my best friends I would be pretty distraught for a while,... my family lost a close friend about a year and a half ago, and I would think, "I wonder what they are doing right now,".... then I had the realization that they aren't there anymore. That kind of sucks

yeah i think i would feel the same if i lost a close friend or another family member

I do nothing except cry when my family members die. When my grandad died 2 years ago i spent most of the morning running round the house, felt like i was searching for him. Like he was behind a door and i just could not find that door no matter how hard i tried.

Walking helps, so does writing, pouring your heart onto a page and then burnig it, or throwing it away. Thinking about it, or trying to forget it never works. Avoiding awkward situations always makes things worse.

MY best friend of 16 years died last May...It's still a hard thing to deal with. Sometimes I feel very lost, sometimes I feel a lot of animosity towards the person that killed him, other times I feel this genuine outpouring of creativity....It's just a weird rollercoaster of emotions.

But, still...I'd give anything to have him back so I could feel that elusive emotion again: happiness.

When my friend killed them self at first i was so mad at them... i hated them for it then after awhile i hated my self for hateing them and not being able to keep them alive when i found them like that... i know i shouldnt blame myself but if only i got there sooner i could have kept them alive... WeLL i know i did all i could to keep them alive but still its hard not to think i could have done more...

yes Echo i have had people say i want to kill myself i hate this world

when i lose someone close to me it alwyas makes me feel like it should have been me and not them. i dont feel like i have a purpose in life but yes Ellie u r my twin and im pretty sure u new this

lilo ur a crazy girl but i love ya

and when the feelings have stopped?