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I really need a few opinions on this subject. I have started to fall for a guy and he knows who he is. But we don't live near eachother and our only way of talking is over the phone(only on weekends) and on the computer while I am at my mothers. A few thoughts on whether I am a complete idiot or just in love would be nice. Thank you!

Long distance relationships aren't my favorite but, they can and do work. No, you are not an idiot... if you were half the people on the net would be one as well! :P

Just keep in touch and see what happens!

Have fun hun!

From personal experience, they suck, but that doesn't mean it can't work. If you're willing to try I say go for it.

Well....

My opinion used to be that I HATED long distance. But low and behold here I am in one. -giggles-

They can be hard at times but, when you know in your heart that the person is the one you will do anything. Miles can be nothing or can be everything. It all depends on how you feel.

I am in one right now. I know the person I am with is the one I want to be with. I know that in time We shall be together 100%. Love is can and is worth waiting for. If its ment to be it will work. If your willing to do everything in your power then it shall be.

I wish you well. I hope it works out for you.

pretty much what the above said.

However i must say that a good friend of mine met a not as good friend of mine about 2 years ago. she lived in florida then. but now lives in scotland. the male friend of mine is now up there and they are still together today (although it has been a bit rocky lately :( but they've ben going strong)

i basically wanted to post an example of how it can work

Anything is possible. If you both want it bad enough it will work. Good luck to you both, hope everything works out.

Hm.. What to say about this one.. Long distance does work, most of my relationships were mostly long distance. They do work though, you just have to have the love and patience for it.

follow your gut instint

Yes it could work. If you're both in love then there's no problem at all!!! I say go for it dear! ;-)

I had a long distance relationship once, and it didn't work... but that asn't because it was logn ditance, it was mainly because we just didn't get on well enough to cope with not being in eachothers pockets everyday.

If its working then its working. Just see how things go... you dont want to go and take life seriously now, do you? :-P

I live a few miles away from my boyfriend and my family has a seriuos schedule problem. Last minute changes, always on the run and always never having spare time, so I dont get to see him much. I just talk to him every night. I love him anyways because he makes me laugh and we are so close, itslike being in the same room with each other.
So if your heart says it will work than it will work. The heart always gets what the heart always wants.

i've tried a long distance relationship before...it didnt work out for me for different reasons, but if you two are happy te way you are then you really dont need advice from others.....but thats just my thought

You're definately not an idiot.
I've been in one, off and on, for about four and a half years. I live in Florida, they live in Pennsylvania. It can be hard, but it's worth it once when you can be together.

there is a saying in Serbia that could be literally translated like: Far away from eyes make you far away from heart!

Yep, you're both idiots (no offense intended) if your idea is that that relationship could last long distanced.

I used to think that anything was possible, but now I'm not so sure.....
Only you know how you feel about this guy, is it strong enough to last?

thank you and no offense was taken by any of it.

it could work its really hard im in one right now. just keepi going with what u feel is right

I forgot to add that it could last if you both work on getting closer.

rarely work.....

well ,like most i agree most of the time they dont work.. my opinion its all about trust.. if this guy cares about you , he should prove it to you..words can only go so far... just dont put too much of your heart into it until your head and heart agree at the same time... good luck sweety

Communication and trust are vital components in all relationships. Long distance relationships need extra doses of these. Best wishes to you and your loved one ♥

A long distance relationship is a bit harder than a regular one, but with effort, it can definitely work. What you need to ask yourself is, is it worth it? If it is, go for it!

You could be in love. I was a few times with long distance relationships. =)
They all ended in disaster though. But most of my relationships do that anyway, lol. I've had friends that had long distance work out for them. ^_^

If you are meant to be together nothing will stop you guys from gettin it on

You are not a complete idiot yet but a Long Distance Relationship it's a really stupid thing to do I mean guy are inconstant and if they get a chance to fuck someone they wont stop......hell they even do it when you're living with them so my advice to you would be either make him move or you move

i've been in a long distance relationship for 9+ months now.....they are a lot of hard work.....and as Deity said....communication is an absolute must....as it really is all you have till you are physically closer.....
but for the now I am quite thrilled and happy to be with Alassiel....
there have been a few rocky spots....
but trust and communication are the key...

I thank you and will try to use the good advice that has been given

...i met my SO almost 11 years ago...online. we are still together. we talked via internet and phone for a year. we got together and that was all she wrote.

...i have 2 pieces of advice: 1.) take your time the first 6-12 months or so. get to know this person online first really well. take it one day at a time and see what happens. if this person is just out to mess with you, after a few months they will lose interest and you won't be out anything but a few hours of your life. 2.) if after this time period, you are BOTH STILL are crazy head-over-heels about each other, then meet. but only in a safe place and make sure you let everyone who loves and cares about you know exactly where you are going and whi you are going to be with. after that, it's like falling in love twice with the same person. :)

...above all: be careful. :)

long distance relationships are tough. You never get to see the person. My opinion is, if you want to make it work, try it. ^_^

from experience i know. they don't work. because you've got tempation all over the place right there WHERE YOU LIVE. and it's hard to even tell if they're being faithful to you or even honest about who they really are.

you know what..... me and my girl have been together for a long time.... and she lives in norway and i live here in the usa and things between her and me work most excellently.... and we made a rule that we werent aloud to have sex with anybody but were aloud to do the rest of the stuff..... and since that i havent hardly wanted to hangout with any other girls.... plus i know what she sacrifices for me and that helps alot.... you just have to be really open to eachother.... it all will work in the end....

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i would say they can work if you want it to bad enough go for it and good luck

your not an idoit to fall in love, and long distance reelationships can work if you put in the effort

Even in Malta there's that saying but I don't think it is because of the distance,I think it all depends on the persons.

My parents had a long distance relationship and are still together for 25 years now.

As for me I was in one and didn't work but it was my fault cause I am not happy in a long distance relationship, so all I can tell you is if you are both strong enough you can do it.So good luck:)

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

I've been in one, in fact working on get out of it for several reasons, but I think the key in any relationship, more so in long distance relationships .. is TRUTH and TRUST. After all it is not easy to "verify" what you are being told by the person you are seeing/dating. You have to trust that what they tell you is the truth. First and foremost, never lie, it not only leads to more and bigger lies, but in time you will eventually get yourself caught up and if the person is smart enough they will catch on; or upon meeting, you/they will see the truth for themselves. And as difficult as it seems, you must trust them, if you find that you aren't trusting them almost whole heartedly; even though I believe there is a saying only believe like 50% of what you hear; or what you are told then the relationship will not last. Eventually you or the person you're involved with will begin to suspect and/or accuse you/them of doing things that you/they aren't doing. LDR's can work, but only to the extent of the amount of yourself that you put into the relationship. Take the time to get to know one another, if it's meant to be, when the time is right you two will be together.

Its up to you and him to make it work dear.
If your love is strong it will work.....you will find a way to make it work......
Follow your heart it will make the decision for you. *hugs and kisses cheek*

I must say...I was in one not so long ago...and it involved me travelling alot...

First thing I would say is that I detsroyed it because of my mind thinking in terms of paranoia and trust was absent...Dont let paranois control you...As it has been pointed out trust takes time but must be there for it to work...

And definately communication...Just go with your heart...