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with few other teachers, we had to met a psycholog yesterday, in order he teaches us some psychology...
1 thing he said makes me think since:
"noone is truely listening, it's more like constant speach stealing. one listens just to what interress him, so he can (not reply but) speak..."
it sounds so sad, but so real!

it sounds.... like.... deep...

sad but true...I do find myself doing just that at times. I hear what I want to hear then sometimes bad things happen due to the fact I didn't hear everything

     Everyone's self-centered I guess. Associating with the people who understands you, so you wont be rejected. As my guidance counselor said, "Ypur making your emotional barriers to save yourself from being hurt..."

     Why the hell not? Do you like to be vunerable to society? Do you want them to pick on you? Hmm... that was another emotional barrier of mine.

     Your real problem is you wanted to be accepted by everyone. Craving for communication, affection, appreciation... 'the interaction' as they say and perhaps love...

     I solved this dilemma by creating alter egos, A Hypocrite For The World, and yes for that time I was pleased, because I had countless people with me. I didn't mind if some of them were fake friends who wanted to profit with our supposed friendship. What was important to me was the acception I got from them... my peers as I call them. But as any happiness it didn't last... 6 years only... Well it was fun while it lasted, right?

     Don't misunderstand me, I'm not advising you to do what I did, though if you are tempted to imitate what I have done, who am I to stop you. My true advice is be yourself, what a cliche isn't it?

     If you think that there is something incomplete within you, be independent and find those your missing pieces by yourself. No one can really help or assist you in your problem, except you.

Sorry, but Im afriad Im going to have to quote 'Fight Club';

"When people think your dying, they really listen, instead of just waiting for their turn to speak."

Excellent Echo ...

Depends on who's doing the talking and what's being spoken about. I think that people have sleective hearing. They listen to only what they think is important or pertains to them. And if they have an oppinion then they certainly have no problem speaking it without thinking of how it will be taken, or how it will effect other people. But then again that's why it's called an oppinion. And that's why we as humans have the given right to listen to it or choose to walk away.

Damn type-o's *selective*

Its sad but true.

Thats true..to sad isnt it...sometimes i find myself doing this when im not in the mood to listen to some people and dont like on me...
guess sometimes we dont wanna hear so we talk instead..
next time i have to remember this Fight Club Quote wich is great and wise..

This is sad but it's very true. I've found myself doing this quite a bit when i don't want to listen to this person. Next time I notice myself doing this I'll just think of that quote from Fight Club.

I simply call it:

Selective Hearing

I practice it daily.. else people will wear me down to nothingness.

I think some people listen better than others. I have been told I am a very good listener.I very rarely tune anyone out, because I try to think-what if some one did that to me? I'd be angry. I think everyone needs to listen alot more than we do.

I wouldnt try to listen to everything. you catch a lot of crap in your ears then. It's not always who is listening, it's who is talking.
Maybe if we used words less and made things less cheap, no more constantly talking about the same things the unimportant things, explaining things. Maybe if when we spoke we said something worthwhile it would be easier for others to listen. If what someone says to me matters I listen and never forget.

now that u mention it i do find myself "in my own mind" when i dont want to hear something, and then i hear only what i want to hear, and then wait until i think im supposed to talk

on trying to be creative.....
there really are only so many things that can be thought.........
a finite number
and after that it is just variations on the theme...

the true question here should be does originality still exist
?

an interressingquestion too daermon,
but i just wanted to hear what people have to say about the psychologist's view of one's listening...
and according to the post coming it seems to be right!

and that fight club quote didn't hit me when i saw the movie, but now i feel it as a strong line!

selective hearing is something I think we learn early on in life. Kids are notarious with the selective hearing. I think a lot of it could also be that we tend to rattle on and on and should get to the point. I am really bad about this. Guilty. I can get on a topic and just rattle on. After awhile people tend to lose interest and let their mind wander. I am also guilty of this from time to time. I think I am one of the better listeners, however.

Oh I really like your point of wiev, so I dont have much more to say.

very interesting.. i know i have that whole selective hearing thing going on from time to time.. it makes me wonder what i'm really missing out on when i don't tune in

People only hear what they wanna, instead of whats really being said...

i do only hear what i want like in school if i dont want to hear the teacher i just turn them off. it is sad but so so true

I don't like to listen to generalizations either. They don't really help any one listen. Especially when you continue to insult people no matter how hard they try.