Bullying has become a big issue in the news and in schools in the past few years. Many teenagers have been victims of bullies to the point where suicide was their way out.
Bullies don't understand how much power they hold over someone, but they can hold NONE if people take a stand.
Everybody has been a victim of bullying at one point in their life. It doesn't have to be physical harassment. It can be sexual, verbal, cyber, or silent. You're probably wondering what I mean by silent harassment correct??
Silent harassment is when a group of people ignore another person to the point where that person feels neglected, unwanted, and unworthy. Ignoring a person just because you find it funny is WRONG. It can lead to attempted or successful suicides.
Verbal harassment is when a person tells another person to their face that they are ugly, fat, stupid, etc. There's a saying that says, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me". In reality, words can cut deeper than a knife. Verbal harassment is one of the top most abusive harassments that bullies use. The saying, "If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all" needs to be practiced more.
Physical harassment/bullying is just as it says, PHYSICAL. That's when, obviously, someone either hits, kicks, slaps, pushes, or trips another person. Bullies find it funny, but it's not. It hurts physically and emotionally. You can break a person's bone. Stop with the abuse.
Sexual harassment is when a person (male or female) makes rude degrading comments about someone such as "I want to rip your clothes off" or the simple words "I want you". These make people feel uncomfortable. Especially in the work place. Co-workers are the worse for sexual harassment. Instead of telling a person they are sexy or hot, we need to learn to use the words "Pretty", "Beautiful", "Gorgeous", "Handsome", "Attractive", and "Cute" (yes I know that applies to younger boys).
One of the WORLD'S worst type of bullying is CYBER! That's right....people bully other's over the internet. They think just because they aren't telling them in person that it's not considered bullying. It is!!! Those people that you slam on the internet can sit there and re-read what you wrote OVER AND OVER again until they are sick. So stop!
People don't understand how bad bullying is or they say, "you are over-reacting" NO THEY ARE NOT! They are acting as they should.
I have personally been a victim of bullying, but instead of letting it get to me, I brushed it off and realized that the bullies were jealous of something I had. Or they just thrived on putting others in pain due to their own insecurities.
Bullying will ALWAYS be an issue. There will always be victims. I believe that it will never stop. But we can take a stand in stopping ourselves from becoming bullies by these few simple suggestions:
1. Instead of saying something negative about a person, say something nice.
2. Instead of retaliating on someone just because they did you wrong, ignore it.
3. If & when someone says something negative about you, simply either 1. Walk away or 2. Say thank you with a smile.
We don't have to worry about what those who don't like us have to say about us because there are people out there that find us beautiful, smart, funny, and worthy. Just because a few disagree doesn't mean they are right....they are WRONG!
And if you have been a victim of bullying, don't be afraid to talk about it. It's how people cope. And if someone comes to you and tells you that they were bullied, don't think of them as a liar because they more than likely were bullied.
jus wanted to say way to go hun im glad sombody is taking a stand there are to many people getting bullied, lets make a stand to put and end to it
Stopping bullying is one of my "passions" . I despise bullies with everything in me.
Most bullies have a totally lack of respect for themselves or have a bad experiences which they think most be bigger and tougher then the other guy. These people can be helped and befriended.
But there are those bullies who are just plain mean and enjoy it..these are the truly dangerous ones. These are ones that must be singled out and put in their place.
The real trick is to tell the difference between the two. one deserves our compassion..the other..a sound ass kicking.
This is the best page I have read in the members pages. Thank you FatalAttraction for speaking up for the minority. The bullies should be stopped.
Thank you MOONLITDREAM. I will always stand up!!!
You are simply amazing Kristen. I am passionate about this as well. The bullying on this site is horrible and needs to be stopped. To many people are two faced and not at all what or who they say they are.
I'm glad you stand with me Marci.
They say it's over reacting because they don't know how serious it is, especially on-line, they say it's just a site/chat, whatever, but the harm is the same.
This is awesum. I am a member of my community that is very active in Rachel's challenge and so far its amazing the message brought to the students of our schools. Thank you for tbis page. So many need to see this:) *
Good page Bullying really is a serious problem.
I wish it worked that way. I really do but this is a society problem. We live in a world full of watchers and they all love drama. Every single one of us, even if we watch just so that we can argue the wrongs we are still active participants in the perpetuation of the lies and hurts that can be inflicted.
Everyone is guilty. My son suffered bullies from 2nd grade until around the 8th grade. Suffered and yet persevered because I encouraged a strong sense of self worth.
He has been bullied for everything from crying in class when the class pet died to religious differences. In every case that adults were made aware of they either approved of or instigated and encouraged the bullying. This is not my opinion, this is a fact.
In September of 2011 a classmate of my children put a gun in her mouth and pulled the trigger. The school instituted early education of the Stamp out Bullies program, the bullying continued until us parents encouraged our bullied kids to stand up for themselves.
I really do feel that this page was well written and thought out. I just thought as a parent of a bullied kid I might have some valuable insight on turning the bullying from a negative to a positive. I have been run through the wringer by shrinks who thought they knew my kid, teachers who judged and belittled him and administrators who perpetuated the torment.
It is not always as easy as telling an authority figure or turning the other cheek.
I know that children are the worse victims in bullying and it is unfair and dangerous for any child to experience, but there are also a lot of people who bully adults too, which can be just as detrimental. I love this page and stop by often just to read the newer comments, thank you Kristen for adding this page.
moonkissed: I want the bullied kids to understand that they are strong enough to survive the bullying. That in the end, it doesn't matter what those people thought of them because tehy will turn out better in life.
ShaitanNous: Thank you very much :)
My son found peers and mentors here on VR during the worst of it. The coven he was in disbanded and he doesn't do much online anymore but he is very active in school when it comes to being there for others, even if he is just sitting next to them reading while they cry. Sometimes saying something to reassure them is as bad as saying nothing. So far the main thing that I object to is the notion of exclusion. There are many ways to reject a person and one of them is to make them feel that their feelings toward another person are just invalid. Sometimes in life, we meet people who for some reason we just don't care for. Being forced to socially interact with them is a form of punishment and harassment in itself. When I was a child I was told that if I didn't get along with someone else stay away from them. Don't look at, talk to or about them.
i found this in the cyberbullying laws and thought i would copy and paste it here :
Cyberbullying has subsequently been defined as "when the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person". Other researchers use similar language to describe the phenomenon.
Cyberbullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender, but it may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech), ganging up on victims by making them the subject of ridicule in forums, and posting false statements as fact aimed at humiliation.
Research had demonstrated a number of serious consequences of cyberbullying victimization. For example, victims have lower self-esteem, increased suicidal ideation, and a variety of emotional responses, retaliating, being scared, frustrated, angry, and depressed.
One of the most damaging effects is that a vi
another well done page, :)
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