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if you go out with some one an dyou break u d o yuo believe it posibble to stil be friends after wards without it tearing oyu apart

From my past experience in life I find it hard to rekindle a friendship once you have been lovers. I am not saying it can not be done just that it has not happened many time with me. I dated my sister’s best friend when I was younger and after 14 years we just started to speak but yet I can not call us friends.

I think you can maybe talk once in a while but I it would be too embarassing to look them in the eyes and talk to them the way you once did. Besides what would your current sig. other think if he/she found you at an ex's house?

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i am still verry good friends with one of my exes i think it is a shame to fall out and loose touch with someone you odviosly once caired for so much. and reall what is the difference between dating someone and being very good friends? i have slept with friends and not slept with ppl i was going out with. when it comes down to it if u like someone for who they are you should keep in contact otherwise we would all be very alone!!

I don't think it's a good idea to be friends unless both parties are completly over the relationship. If one or the other is still in love and wants to make it work, it's too hurtful.... It's different for everyone. I'm not friends with any of my ex's.....

hey man , i miss u a lot! my friend.. so i guess it will kind of work but there will alwys be that distance you know like when udon't want to get close to one person but thee will always be momories... so i am gonna go with no.. u can be friends like "hi" amd "Bye" friends but good ass friends.... i don't think so....
i think it depends too.. i'm confused i am just gonna shut up....

thank alll of oyu for posting i finally gto AN IDEAon one an i guess its ok

I htink DarkAdmin had a point about hese sorts of thigns, but my story is entirely different.

In my second year of college, my English class merged together with another. None of us knew eachother, but I ended up sitting next to a guy (from the other class) called Martin.

We chatted, and got on really well. After two weeks of friendship we took the next step and became a couple.

Unfortunately the relationship didnt work out, and was only short term. For a while things where awkward, but then we became very close, and I can honestly that he is my truest and finest friend.

When others have betrayed me, Martin has stayed. When I have needed help or guidance, I knew where to go.

I dont think that its the fact that a person is your 'ex', but the way that things become after the 'awkward' period.

My feeligns for Martin are stronger than they ever where when we where together, but this is a different type of feeling. We can honestly say that we love eachother, adn will always be there for eachother as friends.

I think that us splitting up, but retaining a friendship, is the best decision that I ever made, and maybe even saved my life.

Dont let relationships ruin your friendship, afterall, its just an extenison of the same thing.

umm i think that i matters how bad the brakeup was if you two broke it off clean then ya but if it was a messy brakeup then i dont think that it would be posibal like if u found him with ur sister then chanse are no but if both thought that it was a good idea than i think that i would be ok. the biggest part would be if he still liked u then u might be giving him false hope but hey its up to u

Definitely possible. Just have to keep your wits about you. I'm friends with a dear old ex right now. It is possible to talk about the past, as long as your feet are planted in reality.

It depends.It depends on the persons and situations.As for my personal expirience I am friends with very few of my exes.I don't talk anymore with my last ex bf cause he hurt me very much,others am ok with them.Once I discussed this thing with my friends,all of them said that they prefare to remain friends with the person that hurt them or didn't want them rather than not seeing them.I disagree cause everytime I see that person,it would remind me about the pain that did to me,and that would make me hate the person,in the mean time I would remember the beautiful times I spent with him and that would bring me a lot of nostalgy and i would suffer more.Most ppl don't date their friends cause they think it would ruin the relationship.I've dated friends and not always we remained friends cause it brought me a sort of embaressment after the relationship.Again it depends. With other exes it ended up really bad,cause they said rumors about me.I don't know why certain guys make their ex's life hell after the break up, after all they were the ones who broke up with me!So like I said before, it depends. I prefare not staying friends with that person if it hurt me more or at least I would be friends with him if he was at least worth his friendship.

Yes, I believe it is possible..like Bevva said you just have to keep you're wits about you and not give into any old emotions or desires. If you do, then the "relationship" part is still not over.

I want to add: I know some ppl who remain friends with their exes and then sleep with each other, ok I want to judge no one, but why some ppl do things that will make them suffer more?

it's possible...my ex tore out my heart but we're still friends. there's not point in keeping a grudge or having hatred for them, it gets nothing done, and get you nowhere....but that's just how i see it.

It's according to the person that you where with sometimes it is'nt possible... I mean you have to look at the way you were together in the relationship if you fought all the time then what will happen when you become friends or if you are not over that person and they start dateing others then you will be upset
( not speaking for myself by the way).. You really dont want all that kind of drama in your life again think about why you left that person and how they made you feel when you were with them.. Do you want to continue feeling that way either it be good or bad??? I know I would'nt why torture yourself???

it's possible, but will be ackward for a while

I Know with me anyways it is posable and we are still pretty close.

I do somewhat to me it depends how bad the breakup was and for what reason like most of my ex's i don't talk to them.

I want to put another response ok am being boring but this subject interested me a lot.
I want to ask what's really a frienship after a break up.Some ppl think that being friends with your ex means :showing your new gf/bf to her/him to get him/her jealous.Use her as a sexual object by convincing her you still love her then tell her the exscuse that you're not ready for commitment.Mentioning the past to make the person angry or sad.Talk to the ex to make someone jealous.And maybe other.
I didn't speak(type) for myself there but I've heard stories and seen situations like these and was disgusted.Again I ask why still ppl like to get used and suffer:(

At least there are people who really know the meaning of friendship.

Depends on the situation.
I believe that it's possible to be friends with an Ex...because I am friends with many exes...but there are different classes.

I can be friends with ex-boyfriends/lovers who I was either never really in love with, or in situations where the love wore off far before the relationship ended.

Ie. I'm friends with guys that I messed around with, but never had any real deep feelings for.
And I'm friends with guys that I used to feel very strongly about...but then the relationship got twisted such that by the time we officially said "ok, we're breaking up"...we really had no romantic feelings about eachother at all.

Exes that I can not be friends with are ones where there are still unresolved emotional issues. Generally situations where the relationship ended just with someone sort of disappearing...Unfortunately I have quite a few of those...where one of us, for one reason or another, just sort of ceased to stay in contact. I remember an ex boyfriend who did that to me...we had a class together the following semester...I was seeing someone else already, but I would sit in the back of the room and stare at the back of his head and fantasize about talking to him again...but I couldnt do it because I knew I couldnt trust him to get back together with him, and I knew that there was no way I'd be happy to just be friends with him because the way we stopped seeing eachother left me still WANTING him.

btw, I also know what you're saying about staying in touch with exes just for the power...I used to do that actually. not visciously...but at one point I was trying to get into the idea of dating one guy exclusively, but I didnt quite trust him...so I stayed in touch with a few of the guys I knew when I was 'playing the field' ...not still sleeping with them, or even flirting with them...but I knew that I wasn't staying in touch with them for their friendship...I was keeping them around as back-ups so that If my boyfriend flaked out on me, I could get over it real fast.
It's a dirty trick and it will definitely fuck up your relationship, I only did it that one time...now I make an effort, if I do get into an exclusive relationship, to make sure that I'm not keeping anyone on the side...even in my mind. I mean...if i'm going to be doing that, I'd may as well just not bother with the boyfriend.

It really depends hun, on what type of person you and she is and on what type of break up it was. If it was one that hurt her then of course I ighly doubt she want to be friends but if it was mutal and there was no longer feelings between you to other then friend ship then your fine.

It really only matters is how the relationship ends you know?
Ask yourself if you were to see her with another would you be jealous? Hurt? If so then it is better not to be friends. Or to wait on being friends till you know for a fact its over (your feelings.). ^^ Any more questions can be asked if youll PM me. ^^

in my life i have never been able to be friends with my ex's but i know that it is possible to have a friendship with an ex for my friends have shown me time and time again it just depends on what you want and how you feel

I think it depends on the people.

Some people can't bear to be friends with them because it hurts too much.

But some can just live on and be friends. It just depends. :D

I never talk to my ex's that how I keep up being loyal to the person how I have a relationship with.. well, that's crap...
my ex cheated on me so I sent her straight to hell, she isn't wellcome in heaven anymore, I hope father doesn't find out....

i haven't stayed friends with any of my ex's. i pretty much leave what was there exactly where it ended; except for when i keep going back and forth to my
ex-girlfirend for sex-- damn i wasn't supposed to write that! but anyway, i did happen to stay friends with a guy friend of mine (let's call him "brian") that i was in love with for 5 years. he knew how i felt about him, but he didn't feel the same way. it took a while for me to get over him, but i did and now our friendship is even better than before.

Rarely, I have only been able to stay friends with two lovers. My son's father and this guy now in the marines. I was friends with both of them before it got crazy and we all managed to stay friends. But I never dated both at the same time! I dated "nava" in high school in 1998. And "krispy" in college in 2000.