A dear friend mother died last night. I have been blessed to of had 4 women in my life that was mother's to me.
My own mother- strong, independent. And raised her daughters the same.
Nightgame's mother- strong, loved her family, and told you like it was.
Elemental's mother- graceful, loving, great cook. Never a bad word spoken.
And now Vickie's mom, known since I was 7 years old. Caring, loving, soft spoken, people pleasing who's faith in God was so strong. And after years of failing health- she is with her loved ones, reaping the benefits of her faith. Today I believe in heaven as I can't see your soul being anywhere else.
Blessed be Mommy JoJo.
And now I truely know what it feels not having a mother.
I am so sorry. You are welcome to adopt my mother. She would adore you. Love, hugs, and prayers.
So sorry to hear. Blessings and prayers for all
Hail the Traveler
I am so sorry! You are absolutely in my thoughts as is your friend. *hugs*
So sorry for your loss. Heaven recieved another anothe new angel.
Not a true chat with Vodka till she says ' That would make a cute dildo."
Over a grinch snake...of all things.
What is more sucky then being up at 630am, giving brother shower? Putting makeup on at 6am...
My how the strong has fallen.. .
You take down your Fall decorations, take to storage, standing and seeing the 20 totes, 2 trees, 3 inflatables, and 8 wreaths of Fall and Halloween....you might have a problem.
As you load up the 6 totes, 3 wreaths, 2 trees to split between 2 homes.
342 days till Halloween.
Now let's get the Ho Ho Ho crap set up.
Good thing about this time of year? Snow.
And the lights. I like the lights...
Throwing things out of kitchen ref/ freezer. Then digging all things out of big upright deep freezer.....
How can I lose a pecan pie????????
And NO, it was not ate!
* looks toward brother, sister *
When your 10 a.m. meeting calls, says they are sick and will just do phone visit-- you just get it done, and off the phone before 9 a.m.
Bother's hip is hurting. At 70 years old, sure he is reacting to the cold weather that moved in over the weekend. But when he tells you it hurts, and grabs his butt cheek...thinking nerve.
Got a call into Dr. either way. Sure she will order MRI, testing since he has good insurance, and unable to tell you .
He about had a fit when his case manager told him and I that he needed to walk, keep active. The pout on his face, glare. :)
But first we will see about it not being his hip. Unknown medical history as he is adopted. Back when he was surrender as a newborn, they didn't keep medical history like they do now. So it's a shot in the dark. With him- hip replacement, or pulled muscle. He just can't tell you. And is always a level 10 pain.
Me? See him walking when he believes no one is watching on house cams....different then when being watched. Just saying....muscle relaxer, rest. But will wait and see what Dr. says.
Awww. Poor little guy. Bet he has some arthritis in that him. Prob give him meds for it. These Boyz can be really dramatic though. Poor you for real. Hope he feels better soon.
You may be right on the nerve. Sciatica. That is a horrible pain... I know because that's my day to day life. Hopefully he won't give you too much trouble with the walking thing and his doctor can sort out what's causing him pain and it all be good and no headache for the Ratty. :)
Also, hoping it is nothing that needs surgery. If it is sciatica, a TENS unit might help. It helps my mom a lot. I don't know how he'd react to something like that though. We got ours on Amazon for about $70 and it came with replacement pads, etc.
VR MOVIE NIGHT in 45 minutes! Movie this week, picked by FalsexCure is Apt Pupil.
Its a free movie. Some of us just use the VR Private Chat to talk about the movies, as we watch together. Tonight I fear a popcorn war will break out as its a deep thinker movie, and V and I get bored easy. Poor OldSoul and Estrange One is going to end up with popcorn hair.
Join us if you wish- before 9pm, as it goes private then.
Just throw popcorn at vodka
Love a good popcorn war!!
I am going to have to join soon. Can we watch Hallmark Christmas movies? LOL.
It has to be something we all can find online. :) Do join. This week to start the holiday season is Die Hard.
When you realize you are not one, but two films behind on the Final Destination movie series. And you get them free on streaming service.
Cold weekend, staying in....
Helllloooooo. Couch, pjs, popcorn time.
Simple things in life make me the happiest.
The simple things in life are awesome! Enjoy your pj's, popcorn, couch time! I will be a busy be so rest up for me as well. lol
Heard that, I love the simple, small things, they mean so much!!
It's the simple and small things that make the rest of it worthwhile.
When you send the "May I bite you" bite stamp and he answers with his own....
Silly, but cuteness overload.
Friday. Movie night for VR at 9:00 pm. If you wish to join- The Nun was picked by the one who turn it was to pick. :) Message me if you wish to join the chat as the movie plays.
So last night I had a dream. I was sitting on my porch, looking at the Fall decorations, the beautiful trees in my yard at the sun set. I was in my patio lounger, and I was in heaven with the cooler weather. I closed my eyes and just let a show of the decorations I had this year.
From the Valentine tree, the spring flowers, summer decorations, right into July 4th. Then Fall, Halloween, back to Fall. Thinking of the new ghost I had bought for next Halloween, the flocked tree I had for this Yule. Then I felt/ heard someone sit down in the chair beside me. I opened my eyes to see my mother. Her beautiful face, the gray hair. Her brown eyes. A reflection of me in 20 years time.
She pointed at the two small scarecrows- a boy and a girl, inflatables I had in the yard. She spoke to me, and it was wonderful to hear her voice. "I see you have continued with the tradition." and she smiled at me. Happy. And I don't remember what happen after that other then we sat, enjoyed our favorite time of the year together.
I know I love holidays, I love decorating for them. From bedding, to kitchen ware. Flowers on the porch, to lights strung on the same porches. But I got that from my mother. She was the same way. Even raising 5 kids, running three business, she always made time to bring the seasons, the holidays to us kids.
Seems I am the only one it stuck with, as I am the one who does the work of digging it out, placing, packing it up. But it feels wrong not to. It is how I keep her alive, I feel now. She is with me when I place that pumpkin on the porch. Or I change my bedspread for a quilt with flowers on it and pack up the snow flake one.
So I woke up, middle of the night as it seems my normal, and laid, thinking of her. Thanking her for all the fun, beauty she bought to me, and gave me simple joy at the simple things you can do to make your home a home.
It is wonderful you keep the tradition alive...I think our loved ones do stop by to visit and I'm sure your mom smiles when she sees that you decorate like she did...
I love this. I love that you were able to visit and talk with her. P.S. you will have to send me a picture of your Christmas/Yule/Winter bedspread/quilt. I need to strip my bed this weekend and get mine put on. It has cardinals on it. I want some candy cane striped sheets, but can't find any on Amazon that are a reasonable price and have a decent rating.
I'm so glad I am not the only one who does seasons bedding. :)
I made my own bite stamp. My first attempt got shot down. :(
What? It's the ears? The nose? lol
Awwwww it's so cute!
Awwwww I love it!
Yes, you can, anytime!! 🤣😉
Aww, it's to cute to bite anyone
Please, bite me!
With the last of the Halloween décor taking out of my home, off my porch- Halloween 2023 has ended. I sit here trying to remember last year. I know it involved my family, home made chili, and watching Ghost and Mr. Chicken. As we sat and waiting for the trick or treaters. We had 3 or 4 last year.
So this year- we kept our candy. The family at a nice meal I cooked for them, but come dark I was home, alone. Not that I minded that. I watched the Ghost and Mr. Chicken, and just chatted with False online, and others. No one came to get my candy, so I was all good. ;)
This morning it was cold outside. Imagine a older woman, plus size, in her long nightgown with a robe zip closed over it, bare foot in the yard, on her porches, pulling lights down. Hauling ceramic jackolaterns to her car trunk. When it came to taking the inflatable tree down- I gave the little ghosts pats on the heads, and pulled the plug. It was while I was trying to squeezer the air out of it that I hear the man's next door coming out of his home. He waves, I kind of flick my hand to him.
Laughing, her moves on to get in his car as his wife comes out, sees me, ask if I needed help. "I got it." "Loved the decorations this year." :) Nice for her to say. And super nice for them to put up with me in my nightgown most times I am outside. As they are renting the house that was my grandparents, to say they live right in my yard, would not be an exaggeration. I can walk 20 steps in be at the front door of the home.
Been dreaming of my family. The ones who have passed away. I woke up from a dream this morning, about a person I went to school with. I don't know why, we wasn't great friends. But I remember she took photos. She, in my dream, was at my father's funeral. My father was not a man who expressed himself a lot. I knew he loved me, proud of me. He would tell me that in many ways. Tell other people, just not me.
Anyway- she came up to me and told me she meet my father at my high school graduation. Which, in my dream, I never questioned. See- I am the youngest in the family. And when it came time for my high school graduation service- I did not have family there. Not a big deal. It was hot, being held inside, crowded. While I went to my sisters - it seemed they really did not want to sit thought mine. I really understood- as I would not of went to theirs either if not made to by my parents. Mom did offer, but I said no, I was good. Once it was over I had plans anyway with friends.
Dad? Dad was on the road. He said he would try to get in, but being a over the road trucker, you learned to 'see him when he came in'. So here I am, in the freaking hot gym, not enough seats for the crowd so many standing. I, being one of the last in the lineup, sat, and just looked at the crowd as they did not want us to be talking to each other. And I spotted him. My father. He had driven all night, got home to shower, and came to see me in that 2 minute walk up, shake hand, and walk back to my seat.
That was my Daddy. Strong, hard working, but he wasn't going to let me do this without showing up. He wasn't mad, he just wasn't not going to support me. We had already has the 'collage' talk. The 'what do you plan to do for work, collage?" The "We will support you, pay for those years, you just get a degree" talk. And I was the only one who said I had a job, working for the family business, I don't need a paper to do that." And besides- not really a collage type job. They pointed out I liked fashion, I like science, I liked this and that... but I pointed out I was not a good student. I was fine doing my job, and it was a good job, a job that paid out in the end.
I knew I was always able to go, years and years later, but I stayed and worked 35 plus years in that job. A good career, a good nest egg made. Fun days, hard days, stress, and joy. Same as anyone. Working with family had its blessing, and its drama. But I always knew it was what I had wanted to do, but toward the end when my father passed away. I lost all interest in it then.
But let's get back to the dream. So I recalled my dad being at the event, sitting alone on the hard benches, way up toward the top in the hottest part. She told me he asked her for a photo of me. From the yearbook. This is about the time I woke up, laying there in my dark room, thinking of this. When dad died he had photos of each of us kids in his wallet. Worn, torn edges. As kids. Mine was a young elementary photo. And one of my senior photos.
And I laid there, wondering how many times he showed them to people on his travels. "I have 4 girls and a boy..." as he pulled them out. Would he do that? Or did he just look at them sometimes, in all those days he was away from us? He had three of Mom too. Younger, mid age, older. It showed me, us, he loved us and kept us close at hand.. in his own way.
I asked in my ritual to have contact with my family over the next few weeks. To me, that dream was dad talking to me.
Anyway- time for some food, then I am going to be watching a movie later with a few VR folks. Movie night, in chat. Cowboys and Aliens. If you wish to join, message me. We start at 9:00 pm. You just need the standard movie, we just chat as we all watch the same movie.
Good bye Halloween 2023. Thank you for the fun, the spooky, and for giving me my contact to my father. I would love to have the same with my mother, sister, Aunt. And godmother who has been on my mind of late as well. I just need to be open to them, and let them come to me if they wish.
I agree, I think your father sent you that dream, he wanted you to know that he still loves you and is still proud of you. I am sure in the days to come you will hear from other family members.
We are so similar, I am always outside in my pj's!!!
I love this... I am glad you were able to have contact with him. I hope you are able to have contact with the others you want!
If I am not leaving my house... I am in my pj's and have zero shame over it. Why not be comfy every chance we get!!?
When my mom passed away I always got a sign she was near me and when I held her ashes that I wrapped up in a shawl I felt better and felt her hugging me. She still talks to me in certain ways and she tells me it is okay to be in pyj's when you feel like it.
Congrats to the winners of the Halloween Contest. You all did a great job, and we are talking winners by a point on most of them.
I was so happy with all the turn out. And I hope you all had fun with it. Next year we will do it again. :D
But let's try and not read the stories, poems just before bed next time. The nightmare machine was at full steam last night.. coffins, stew pots, clowns, reapers.
You guys are some creepy folks, I'll tell ya.
Congratulations to the winners and all the folks who participated, y'all are awesome!
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