We as empathic beings might always find ourselves picking up other people's problems and emotions. If they are sad, We are sad. If they are happy, we are happy. If they are in pain, we are too. Many times separating our emotions from theirs can be difficult and really confusing. It can indeed make living life rather challenging. However, don't despair, as we all have the ability to choose to experience the emotions of others or not.
We naturally fluctuate our energetic vibrations to match those around us. Everyone does this to one degree or another. If someone is sad, angry, hurt, or happy we have a tendancy to match our energy to theirs so we can feel what they might be feeling. Much of the time, we do this automatically in an attempt to experience and take away that person's pain. But we do not need to feel another's pain in order to ease it.It is very important to remember that.
So how can you stop yourself from matching the emotions of those around you? You do this by keeping in mind the mechanism of entrainment. Entrainment is the tendency for two vibrating bodies to lock into phase and vibrate in harmony.This is natural, all humans tend to do this and it is found in almost everything. From the sounds of crickets chirping in unison to the tick of the clock.
Have you ever been around someone who was in a really good mood and you found yourself beginning to feel good too? Or how about when you are around someone who was really sad or mad. You start to feel the same way.
This is a result of entrainment, which results in empathy.
The soloution to keep from constantly feeling another's emotion is to keep your frequency higher than those around you. And in doing so, your frequency will not drop down to match the frequency of their sadness, anger, pain or frustration, but will cause them to match yours. The result?They will begin to feel better. So how can you keep your energies high? There are several techniques to help you do this, and I will cover them in another article.
They say that misery loves company, but it isn't very nice to have a room full of miserable people. Nor is it very helpful.
Take it upon yourself to be a beacon.... a shining light during the storm.
This will truely help raise that person's spirits as opposed to making you feel sad or mad by lowering yours.