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Have you ever regretted how you were born? Think careful. I'm not asking if you've ever regretted being born, just how you were born. Were you born with a birth defect? Did you inherit some negative trait from your family? Were you born and grew up to be beautiful just to be hounded by sex deprived me all the time or born not so beautiful and spent so much time longing to find someone who could love you for whats inside?

The world is a harsh place. I know this better than others. I have my own demons I fight. I regret how I was born because how I was born has hurt so many people. Temper, my inability to totally Master my emotions. I've always been tall for a girl and more masculine. Just my genetic's, but I've always felt I looked pretty. No, my issue has been mental and I seem to destroy anything good thing that comes my way.

I have come to realize that there are those that prefer the darkness and shadows of solitude. They like their life private and have little need for companionship beyond their own little circle of friends.
Me? I miss my Court and House. I miss serving as a Priestess and healer for those that needed me. I miss having a strong partner by my side to help hold me up when my own strength fails. I move along to be sure. I have no choice, but deep in my heart I know what I desire.

I'm a fighter, a lover, a Priestess of the Light and Shadow all at once. I right wrongs and triumph over evil one day then actually cause the wrongs another. People tell me to embrace all of myself or I shall never know peace. How can you do that when one part of you goes against everything you believe in? When it throws spurs in your beautiful dreams?

Have you ever regretted how you were born? Have you ever wondered why this path has been chosen for you? Have you ever fought so long and so hard that once in a great while, even the embrace of death seems welcome?

May the Shadows protect you and the light fill you,

Priestess Karei na Gealai Samhain

I used to.

But not anymore. I've grown as a person.

No,I never have regretted being born.

And I have never shied away from things I have had to face,or lessons Ive had to learn.
I hope you dont regret being born either.

Interesting question.

I can not say I regret the traits I was born with, for even the worst of them has helped Me along the journey that is My life and created the person that faces Me in the mirror every day.

I don't believe anyone should really regret what they were born with because I feel it is given for a reason, that person has to be taught a certain something, if you understand my meaning. For example I find I am a very impatient person by nature and feel that. I must overcome this defect as well as other faults which lye within.

This is tricky.

I do regret some of the traits I have. For example, my complete social ineptitude. And my inability to stick with something for more than a few months at a time.

I never regret being born though. Times can be tough and there are loads of hurdles we all need to jump over, but I've had loads of great experiences too. And I'm still young. Many more to come:)

I do regret how I was born. I regret some of the things that came along with the birth...like horrible eyesight, and being exposed to malaria. I was a sickly child.
While my health isn't great now, it's good enough for me to enjoy life for the most part.

very interesting question.

i was always a loner. In my life alone i have experienced things that a kid should not go through. in essence, I got dealt a fucked up hand and have a fucked up life. however......


I have made do with what I have and take opportunities that i see will eventually help in the future. I have grown as a person and know that I will always grow as a person at different points in my life.

If regret were to be on the mind, then it would lead to a very depressing life, would it not?

No can't say I have. I love who I was, who I am now, and who I will be.

Regret means to feel self disappointment or sorrow in reflection of a distinctive choice you've made.

You can regret not going to collage, lying to a loved one, drinking and driving, you can regret just about anything but being born or how you were born.
The course of actions and set of circumstances which led to your life is not a process you ever had control over.

I can't regret.

well, one i didnt choose to be born....to my knowledge.

and no one should ever regret somthing, cause at some point, thats what you wanted.

regrets...about life maybe but never have I regretted being born in the first place

NO I HAVE NEVER REGRETTED BEING BORN..THERE IS A PURPOSE FOR EVERYTHING..

I don't regret being actually born, but some of the traits and genetic bits and pieces have left me dissatisfied. Those traits make me who I am though, so it's all good. Well, almost all of it.
Damnit, mum and your bad metabolism. >:(

Yea, I do regret the way I was born. Something went wrong, she couldn't have and they had less then 5 minutes to save us both. The doctor in his haste yanked me out by my right shoulder and messed it up so bad it couldn't heal right. I know it could have been a lot worse but once its' all said and done he really didn't do me any favors.

Nope, I don't remember it. So how could I possible regret it?

I have never had any regrets. I feel blessed with all that I have and know it is my choice to mold my future as I choose. I alone control all that is in my world. Life is not perfect, nor do I want it to be. Change is the only constant.

I regret and would change yesterday

Some of my physical traits I do not enjoy...wouldnt say regret entirely. Sure things would be easier if I didnt have major allergic reactions to just about everything under the sun, or didnt have hypoglycemia.

But we learn to adapt. Adapt or die, is my theory.

Sure being born into my family wasnt always easy, still isnt, and there are devious things I wish never happened that have been to blame for alot of my issues but they are mine. Without them what would I be? Where would I be?

The fact is you can't change any of it.
It is ingrained within your being. You dont have to accept it but it will never go away.

Isnt it more productive to deal with our current issues/defects/wounds instead of searching for new ones in the past?

born into a world that didn't treat single women well, I was born a bastard: in an area, where the catholic church and barnardoes shipped many children to Australia... telling their folks they'd died, or vice vera.

no, I have no regrets.

"Subject: Have you ever regretted how you were born? "

I think the real reply here would have to question the parents if they regret it. I wasn't born a bastard or anything, I was born to a mother who loved having a copy of herself. I know, I'm not exact, nor do I plan to be but that's the beauty of it. To be loved, even if you have a small family. I can't speak for my father though, because I was born to kick a$$. ]:)

Regret how I was born? Epileptic....Molested...Abused...and Used....hmm..well...I was born Dead...so at least Life Happened and I've come a long way irregardless...sometimes the deck you're handed isn't so great...certainly not one for winning but it's not what you hold in the hand that leads to the prize in Life...but the Poker Face you develop along the way.

It's not about what is handed to you when you were born but what you put out there after you've come into the world...ready or not.

I did a long time ago. But since then I believe I was born who and how I am for a good reason. I love how I was born now. Wouldn't change it for the w.orld

I don't regret being born...I hope you don't either.

I was a premature only 5 lbs......but I grew up strong , tall, and healthy!

No , no regrets!

Yep. all the time. I was nice and comfy where I was. And then the LARGE forceps came and got me. Not too happy about that. "But it is - what it is."

Proved to me that life is not perfect. Including birth. It's all about the experience of life. Hard lesson to learn. Harder lesson to remember.

I have my moments....lots of them in fact. hereditary disorders and diseases looming in my future and all of that jazz

i did. and sometimes i still do. but life is still life no matter how stupid it is at times and no matter how hard it hits me most of the times, i just cant bring myself to regret being born in this cruel place. i suffer post traumatic stuffs due to immense verbal and physical abuse from my father whom i loathe. but well we gotta live our lives...

yes i do regretted how i was born sometimes.
sometimes i wish i was neve born.

I have. It is not a good place to be emotionaly. Worked through the worst of it. Conselling really helped.

If I hadn't been such a large kid knowing what I do now, I'd have preferred a water birth

Yes because I'm an angry, introverted insecure person. I have difficulty to communicate with others and I don't know what to do.

Well that could be because of your parents. How did they treat you in life? I had a step-mother Dorothy who was a monster.

i used to because i wasnt wanted...but i dont think on that much anymore

We can't control how we were born. We can only comment after the fact in adolescence or adulthood. And i think we should use that knowledge to make better choice when we decide to have children

My parents were never encouraging so no wonder.

It's sad we can't choose out parents. *S* Then again I guess we'd all want rich parents. *L* That's where I might have gone, given the choice.

~nope~not one bit~feeling sorry for oneself is a useless action~we're here, make the best of it~

I consider myself very lucky. I am very healthy generally, blessed with a fair appearance, and have a pretty good bio family. We aren't rich but much better off than most.

Not complaining although it would have been nice to be born in a rich family

I can't say I regret how I was born, but some of the choices I have made in my life when I was younger oh yeah! Many regrets but then if my path in life had been in different I really couldn't say if I would want it changed, though I may have some sorrows, the joy in my life do to my regrets out weighs all regrets. One of my dearest friends use to tell me with age comes regret with regret comes wisdom of who you truly are to yourself and those around you.

i do sometimes regret the issues i was born with definate nurture and nature issues but predisposed based on family history none the less

It's normal to have desired to be born differently especially when you see the social conditions of certain groups in the world.

i think all of us have felt that way at one time or another. several hours ago i had something spoken to me which brought up thoughts and feelings that the other was unaware of.

i have lived with this emotional baggage and often have thought why? yet, i deal with it better than when i was younger.

the thing to remember is, how you were born is not who you REALLY are.

regret being born no never
regret who my ex mother is yes cause I hated hearing when she was sober how much I ruined her life and wishes was never born
now she is out of my life as my mom and just grandma to my son
in 98 my son wanted nothing to do with her after hearing her tell him how I should never have been born and neither should he have been born if it was up to her
along with other shit she did and said to him to make him walk away and not wanting her in his life

Hell no!!!! I love my life. Is fun and interesting and give me the opportunity to read question like this one. LOL. Why should I regret being born? Now, if life was miserable, let say: poor, homeless, cold, no affection, and finally: alone, then, may be should be a little regret.

Risque, one of my mothers, Dorothy was a monster. I am happy she's dead and gone. When I look back I wish my dad had made a better choice

This is an interesting question and one that I have a hard time answering.

sometimes I truly resent my life and I often wonder why i'm here at all. Yeah i can say that I regret how I was brought up. There were some good things that came out of the mess i was raised in but i cant fully say that i'm better because of it.

I dont know how to anwswer this question really. But I guess no matter how we were brought into this world and with whatever traits we have, we're simply just here because we are, thats how life works and we should just do what we can with what we have and who we are.

Nope. My birth went well from what I've been told. I was on time and my mom was in no more pain than what is usual.

There's really no point in regretting genetics or circumstances that one cannot change.
As for regretting the fat that you do not take the initiative to improve upon the aspects of yourself you find distasteful - it's your own god damned fault for not doing anything about it. Stop being emo and do something about it.
Regret, much like guilt, is one of those things we waste our time on. We allow those feelings to hold us back as individuals and spend time dwelling in the past. This creates new regrets and further guilt because we miss out on new opportunities and in the end we find ourselves stagnate in solitude.

PriestessxKarei - there is a vast difference between knowledge/wisdom and belief. You are currently unable to come to terms with who you are, and therefor are incapable of achieving true enlightenment because you are restricted by your 'beliefs.' While I find faith to be a positive and a good thing, a persons' beliefs tend to get in the way of their advancement. When that situation occurs your beliefs stop being a positive thing and become a negative influence on your life because it holds you back. You personally have arrived at the point that many individuals do when they quest for enlightenment, you realize that your beliefs (whatever they are) are in conflict with your nature. Much like the vows of celibacy inflicted up on Nuns & Priests in Catholism, you find that while what you believe has the best of intentions the confines of it's laws are against the core of human nature.

Remember folks you have no control over birth circumstances so just make it the best way you can

in the past i lived in regret of how i was born. I love my life today and everything that happens in it. Being born with a chromosomal anomaly that appeared from nowhere has certainly made life hard and for a long time i resented it... i couldn't run with the other kids, i couldn't play sport, i got teased alot as i walked only on my toes (in hindsight i probably should have done ballet lol) but i guess as i have gotten older and acceptance has kicked in i dont regret it now, as others have stated, it made me who i am today... and i am definitely stronger for it

still no....I have had some really bad shit (really BAD) happen to me, but you know what? I have had so much fun in my life that I couldn't be happier. So I'm getting old...I'll just enjoy whats left! I'm not so happy with the affects of gravity, lol, but so what?! I can't dwell on negative stuff because life really is too short. This life is precious, so be happy! Plus you'll get more wrinkles if you frown! :)

I've never seemed to regret how I was born.
Honestly in my opinion I really don't see the point in regretting the gift of life or any aspects that occurred in my life.

Everything that happened, happened for a reason which then made me into the person I am today.

;D

I wouldn't call it regret per se. But I'm extremely pissed off that I am how I am sometimes. I cannot live without some sort of sadness about something or other. I just get too bored.

Wow tough question! But yeah in a sense i have regretted the way i was born for the simple fact my parents married young (mom was 17 dad was 19) and when i was first born the two loved eachother but by the time i was three the love was no more. They divorced in 1993 i was devastated. Its like why was i brought into this life only to be heartbroken and sad before i even hit preschool? Of course years have gone by since then and i have grown as a person and have forgotten the past and looked forward to the future.

There are a lot of things I regret in my life but how I was born isn't one of them. I wish I was a little easier on my mom when I was a baby though.