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Well it is mother's day
yet my beloved child is gone from me so i am no longer a mother?

Holidays like today drive me near over the edge with all the media hype and advertising cant turn on a tv or radio without hearing.

So please tell me how do you get through those holidays that bring you so close to snapping......

I am rather experienced in having crappy holidays so i usually go in my room turn on the music i have on the computer that way i wont have any stupid comercial. then i'd endulge in somethin i like doing like drawing or something to pass the time. Like during christmass i aviod going out because i see all the happy fucking families while mines a broken one where no one gives a shit. so yeah.. i just tune out everyone and everything by using music and occupying myself

Mine is pretty much the same. Snapping may not be the right word, exactly. Being bombarded with commercials, just to sell stuff is 'annoying' to be polite. I understand not having the child WITH you, but it doesn't mean you are not a mother. Whatever you touch to nourish, take care of, or help you are mothering. It has taken me a long time to come to grips with this.
I take comfort in knowing that the years I was with my son, I had given him a firm foundation to become the young man he is today. I can do no other than step back and hope it is enough.
I'm sure there are men out there who feel the same during fathers day, this is more common than the moms though. *shrug. Misery loves company.
Do the best you can every day. One day someone may ask you for help wondering how do you get through this particular problem, then you can help. That is what I strive for. One day I'm going to make a difference in ONE persons life.

Isn't that what being a mother is really all about? Screw the commercials. They are just trying to get by like everyone else.

Just my two cents.
Yes Christmas is bad too. That's why we create new traditions for ourselves. Hey, they have to come from somewhere?

Of course you are still a mother. That is a type of bond that will never be broken. On painful days, get away from media souces. As the others have said, focus on something else. Spend some time on yourself. And if you ever need someone to talk to, you have a huge family here, me included.

yeah like they all said just do something not envolving the media like listening to music or drawing yeah good luck

hey and loook at it this way if you're int the us. in about 3 to 2 more hours this infernal day is over :). so hope you didn't let it drain ya too much. and you're are like my mother ur the first one to bite me on here. and see i remebered so yeah :)

Booze and valium. Not healthy but then neither is suicide.

eeee... I go to the movies 5 times in a row

no money for movies So Gothic It Hurts

You are so right Deity .. anyone who's lost a loved one finds it hard at any given holiday to celebrate .. makes it hard to be joyous when you are remembering the fun and good times you had that person with you. All you can do is think of the positive memories and carry them with you to lift you out of a downward spiral, people need to learn how not to dwell on the bad. And Yes I know bad, but I have learned how to think of the good days and let them over ride the bad ones.

Here in Oregon, theyre using holidays to sell scratchcards, its annoying, but sometimes its nice to learn about a special day of the year.

Mothers day is always going to worry me now. My grandma on my mothers side just passed away not too long ago... so my mom was flipping out of and on all day. It's hard to deal with. We got through it alright though. Mom just wanted to rest and everything... not have a bunch of people at the house. So that's what she did.

No Mslefaye!
You still Are a mother and always will....
but I can imagine honey how it reminds you....
*hugs Kat*

I know the feeling,I remember spending valentine's days alone cause I was single and those couples used to make me nostalgic and used to make me sick,xmas holidays,spent most of them all alone,birthdays I never had a party and most of the time I don't receive any presents,and yes even mother's days used to make me sad.One reason is because I wanted to be a mother when I was younger and had the chance but things went in another way.Another reason is because I never had a good relationship with my mum.Anyway you're still a mother,this is just another holiday excuse for business.None of the holidays I meantioned have really the spiritual value,nowadays they're only for material gain so don't be sad you're still a mum and that's what counts,no matter what the situation is.I know it's hard but remember you're not alone:)

*big hugs* from deathnitegrl

Kat, my dear, once a mother, always a mother. No matter what.
Love ya, hun. xo~

Just try to have fun, but don't go over the edge. And if you have a kid you are always a mother.. . . no matter what. Keep that in mind, and sit tight for the moment being, it sounds like you are having it rough but things will turn around.

most all holidays drive me insane, cuz holidays usually are about family. I have like the shittiest family and we can never just sit down get along and be like kinda normal for a day. On TV like all the holidays families being all happy n family like (which my family will never be), so i just go in my dark room smoke some herbals (which are usually good on the holidays) and play videogames like hardcore! There's always a concert too around a holiday so i take my anger out in the moshpits too...lol and that's hpw i make thru the holidays

Well I don't have family anymore staying plugged in isnt going to be an option for next day that I can tell will be a problem.
June 28th not a holiday for most but is the day my baby was born.
Just going to try and stay busy....

mews thank you all I am saving this thread as it progresses so please don't close it Admins its more than just mothers day its all those important dates that are bothersome....

Sorry you live that pain :(

Usually (fo almost every holiday) I lock myself in my room and dont really talk to anyone I just stay in there in my own little world where nothign can go wrong. If I find that its too hard to find peace there I just leave and go do stuff with my friends, usually breaking stuff. I try to stay away from people during holidays, Theyre always way too happy/cheerful and that makes me want to kill.

its never easy when my girls were growing, me and there mother went through the big d...she kept them away from me alot, we were back and fourth in court untill i got custody of them.theres just no real way to deal with the pain when you are kept from your children,i feel for you i know its hard..you just have to keep the faith and remember the good times to get you through

most holidays are boring and most we dont have to go to school so im mostly just by my self alone or just bored and being bothered by my brother, that might be the only reason y i like school, because i can get away from my brother, he is annoying most of the times, but nest year he'll be in highschool too, anyway i dont really like valentines day because of all the happy couples around me, makes me sick sometimes

I cannot imagine what it would be like to be without my sons. I can only tell you that I have had many a holiday without my mom now since 1993 and it was rough at first. I know this may sound silly, but I would write her letters whenever I missed her so bad that it hurt. It is what got me through the first few christmases and mother's day. I know that her being dead is not the same as someone keeping your child from you, but it is the closest thing I could relate to.

yeah just one or two sleeping pills and just sleep through the day.

I work in holydays... so it sucks...

Eat Ice cream...drench it in melted chocolate and warm caramel sauce..add a few marshmallows and eat ..eat it until you can't physically force any more in ...give yourself a break of around 5 mins then eat more...and more...and MORE!!!.... then wash down with gallons of Coca Cola...(mixed with vodka ~winks~)....you will be on the most major suger high and slightly drunk so all you will want to do is laugh your arse off.....do this until the clock strikes midnight then try and go back to real life.....you will look forward to the holiday times after that ...I know I do.....LOL

this past mother's day i made their gifts. I wrote my mom and grandmother a seperate poem, they both loved and i decorated it with photos and stuck it in a picture frame. It was more personal and meant more to them.

I dislike established holidays, specifically and especially Christmass. Usually I watch Christmas Vacation, and then load up the car and spend the ween hiking around Southern Utah - I excell at escapism.

If I'm not able to spend a Holiday with my kids, I try to keep busy with work and not think about it.