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Why is it that friends usually ending up being enemys?

In my opinion, if they become your enemy, they were never truly your friend to begin with.

thats not a true friend then...I have very few friends most are people I know...I can count one one hand how many true friends I have..true friends will be there thick and thin..others are out for there needs thats why they become that way..

you're lucky if you even have one true friend.

I have to agree with the above posts. True friends are very hard to come by, and a LOT of people I once considered friends have become enemies of mine. The one true friend I have that has refused to let me push him away and has done everything in his power to keep me safe is my best friend DarkLight So I am very lucky to have that one true friend.

Ive been betrayed many times... once by the best friend I had ever had. One person got me through that. One person helped me whenever I was upset and is still by my side today. By losing someone, it opened my eyes to the fact that the most important person to me had been there all along.

I agree with TD!!

if someone you trust breaks that trust could you trust them again?
same thing if they were your friend and have now become your enemy .. they obviously werent your friend in the first place! Choose wiser next tyme!

i dotn know just happens its hard to find a true friend. i have lost all my friend basicaly.

i've had a "friend" betray me before, but maybe it's just the way that person was. i am lucky to have one true friend who is there for me always

friendship is about lot of things and one of them is compromise. when two strong headed friends get together its difficult to go down the same path. the ship can only have one captain. and when the other one refuses to listen, things get ugly. cud be a stranger , a friend or even ur blood relative. its also taking people for granted. we we are close to sumone we take a lot for granted. we have to learn not to.
remember 'the ppl we love the most, hurt us the most'
but u dont have to be enemies after that....

People change in time. People not only grow apart, but sometimes they move on and you stay still, or vice versa. It is hard to have many truly close friends. It's nice to have taht one or two people who you can fully confide in. But there are advantages to having many firends as well. When you have a problem or situation you want advice on, it's nice to have more then one oppinion to hear. Sometimes only hearing one may take you down a wrong path. Sometimes one friend will steer you down a path to distruction and another will help you back. I have had only four truly close friends in my life two I have not spoken with in years, they moved on, and two I still speak to. But I cheerish each ad every friend and person I come in contact with, good or bad. I learn from the bad experiances.

a true friend wud stick by u through any situation, i do wonder sometimes if there is such a thing as a true friend, after time to think i wud have to say yes there is.

Friends are secretly your enemies apparently.

I also think that most people don't appreciate the people around them very much or they would see that they do have more friends, who are very trust worthy and reliable.

Cos they know too much about you usually! Keep your secrets to youself it solves problems.

I also agree friends who become enemies aren't really your friend in the first place guard yourself until you know a person well. I have 2 or 3 enemies and it's usually the case we were once friends I find that most were false and usually feeding from my energies to appear cooler or whatever not that i feel I'm anything special.

once i become u'r friend it would take alot
for me to become u'r enemy. i'll be u'r friend forever dear!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Over the years I have many people I USE to call a friends. I think you just out grow each other and like everyone is saying if they really were you best friend you would not have this problem.

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT YOU ARE MY BEST ENEMY/FRIEND!!!!!!

.....Ugh...
Any way, I agree with the people above, if they become your enemy maybe they weren't really your friends to begin with. Also, I've learned that the ones you hurt are the ones you love the most.

if anyone i thought was my friend became an enemy, to me they were never really a friend, cuz i believe friends are true, and forever...kinda sounds corny but that's what i think.

It's definately hard to be friends but if you find the right people it can be forever

Morrigon makes a good point I have a subconscious thing where I push people away if they get too close (I try not to these days).

I have never had an enimies that where once friends, infact i don't have any enimies.. Some people are very deft when it comes to chosing friends and such... i'm well learned and chose my friends like i would a lover.. It's all about trust... Trust s the foundations in any relationship.. without this.. everything will crumble..

i believe that those two words dont go together. no one is TRUE to my understanding. we are but mere humans who all have faults. you, yourself is your only true friend. unless you have a split personality then im not sure..lol... friends come and go your whole life. if you do happen to still have the same friend you consder to be true then you are 1 out of a million. cherish the friends you have now for you never know when they'll be gone. that is just my opinion.

Agree with Dhampir trust is essential to any relationship I have many friends I've had for lifetimes but there were a few who turned out to be bad for me who I picked up at a time when my judgment was clouded.

yes i really now exactly how ya feel bloodykisses24 cause i feel your pain with you and the whole friends bit its very confusing
but ya know i found my best friend and ya know would that is and believe it or not i never tought i would find one like the

to my wife " I LOVE YOU "

its a way of life, but remember whatever hapeens was ment to be

lol ummmm maby u do what i do offend pplz without relizing

I think theres nothing to argue about! Everyone has the truth in something.

I partially agree with Morrigon that you hurt people you love. Be it just because you want them to realize what fools they are making of themselves in some situations. Especially when you have the feeling that they're not telling you when you behave like a complete jackass.

All of my friendships over the years have grown apart or simply cut off. The more disturbing for me is my current situation in which I have build up friendships over the last year or two, which have the potential to last a very long time. Not all of them of course but some.

I also believe that if your friends have become a normality to you, than it's much easier to hurt them. If you are at the point where you want to keep them close, you do everything not to hurt them, but as soon as you are friends you push them, maybe because you have lost the fear of loosing them. At least thats how I sometimes behave.

Yet, no matter how much I annoy them, or they me, if it comes down to the important matters, I stick with them and vice versa.

And here I thought i was the only one who had friends that did people wrong. I had one really great friend for many years, but we grew apart and I accepted that we grew in different directions. But then as I watched her throw away her friends like trash, I began to wonder if I was next. She only called when she wanted something (money, help with rides or cars, etc.), forgetting birthdays and never having the time for me year after year. It happens to the best of us. I still have one or two really great friends that I can count on for anything and they on me.

in a way, they were never really ur friends to begin with if they became ur enemy.

maybe if u considered them good friends, u opened up to them, told them things that u wud tell no one else, and now that they are ur enemy they might use that information to hurt u, i know from experience how this can happen.

Well, that's sad but usually true...
And the fact that destroy you the most is that they never were your friends...

i think its becuase they had something agaist u to start....you though they ware ur friend but they always had this thing they hated about you....and to tell the truth i do it to people soemtimes

people have a reason for everything they do you just may not know it yet and when you find out it is ushally too late and then all of a sudden you have an enemy you thought was a friend....

Don't be a pessimist.

Friends dont usually end up being enemies, just some of them dont quite fit the mould that you force eachother into.

I've been here before, as most people have; when I look back I see that when you get that close to people you form a certain way of being that you cannot reverse once you have initiated it.

The bond of a real friendship is close, often too close for it to withstand itself.