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When on the look for your next victim of love, does it matter what they look like?

this might bring up the question whether you choose who you fall in love with

It might but i dont think you choose to fall in love. I think it just happens.

for people its 50/50 half of them do and the other half dont. sure looks are great but i like the personality better and more..

I dont think so cacuse if you know them from the inside for who they really are then why should looks come between you and the love you can share with that person.... Now I know they help but they also may cause a lil heartbreak in the future..... Always follow your heart if it says go with what you feel do it dont hesitate you never know what you may miss out on.... If it means going and jumping into not knowing if it will work or not you never know that could be your soul mate for life....

Of course it matters... but its different for each person; although in personal experience I dont think I could say one thing or another. Love and looks being mutually exclusive is something to be questioned; for example, my boyfriend is lovely... and he's cute as well :-) if he had the personality of a broken dishwasher then I dont think Id be that keen...

*feels like a working dishwasher*

i can take you for a tumble, but only if we get a little hot along the way

ok ok in all seriousness, looks aren't everything, if looks were everything none of us would be in love... we'd all be in lust. and lust basically just leads to pain of sorts.

I don't feel looks matter. if you can't close your eyes and see the inner person of whom you love you don't deserve to be in love in the first place. Love is beautiful, and so are the people you choose to love.

At the end of the day to me, looks are just a bonus. If someone has a heart of gold, makes you laugh and is great to be around, i'm sure thats better than someone who had the personallity of a bulldogs ass but looks great.

Beauty threads irritate me.

Of course looks matter. Anyone who says they don't are not being true to themselves.

Comparing beauty and personality is like comparing shoe size and education level. One has absolutely nothing to do with the other, but each is a part of the total make up of the person.

If looks didn't matter movies, television, and other forms of visual media would be VASTLY different in composition. There is a reason these outlets are flooded with attractive people - it's what normal people like to look at... Male or Female.

Amen to that! I'm glad you said that ... but it is nice to have the whole package. But when people say they can get past looks if the personality is there, thats bull. Can you love someone who physically repulses you? nope.

thats very true but do u plan on lookin the same when ur 90 like i have found my true love and u know what i can honestly say i really don't give a shit what she looks like even though i know what she does look like i really don't care

When you first met her there was something that you found attractive right? or else you probaly wouldn't feel the same... now that you're in love it doesn't matter...

it matters alittle... i mean if ur not somewhat physically attracted to someone whats the point? u have to look at that person all the time.. but its not on my priority list... Plus the beauty can come from within... not from the outside.

I just think ppl should love you no matter what anything could happen to you.... Hell you could look like a super model then the next day you could have a bad wreck and mess your face up and the person who loves you or suppose to love you would stand by you and still think your drop dead gorgous.. Beauty is only skin deep...

well yeah, for those who are new, i am a-sexual so i think that explains my opinon. not to say i don't wish for love, only no one is particularly good looking so i don't care.

never judge a book by its cover so no it dont matter

I am sure that you can`t chouse who you fall in love with, but you wont fall in love with someone that you are not atracted to, is it the look or the thing inside, doesn`t matter,something has to draw your atention.
I dont look for something particular, I look for something that I will like, something that makes that person diferent,sometimes it is not a good thing at all, just something that will make me want to get to know that person.

I must agree with Cancer...but I am amazed as to something that hasn't been mentioned yet...What Cancer said is true...but...there is a saying that is very old

"Beauty is in the Mind of the Beholder"

...like me for example I like girls that are not standard "hot" and look decent without make up or just decent I don't like blonde bombshells...give me a nice brunette anyday...lol.(but im not really picky though)..Now there are other guys out there that don't mind a woman who wears enough make up to stop an anti-tank round and has bleach blonde hair as long as she looks hot to them...to me thats not hot. Nothing wrong with it...its just not my preference.

another thing is physical appearence can tell you a lot bout someone and can serve as more a preference. A girl can have a hot body, but you look at her and she has a ton make up on...in all the wrong ways...and matted un-taking care of hair...she doesn't look like she takes care of herself...and can relfect on how her personality is...this isn't always true but on some you can definnetaly tell.

But to me in the end..it is all more of a preference...sure I wouldn't mind a long haired good looking brunette...but if she is sweet kind and takes care of her self..it won't really matter.

But this is all just my opinion and i love to ramble on..lol

love sux big time .....regardless of how the person looks .....grrrrrr....lol

i agree with both sides if the person looks like the crypt keeper but has a heart of gold im sorry aint having it but i might not find the same type of person attractive as the next so its more to each their own type of deal. but after u meet the person and if the love grows that person will be the most beautiful person that u will ever know..

There is somethign so sexy about everyone if you think about it. Everyone has there own little way about them thats makes them so unique.

Quite simply: no. Looks have no matter.

Finally someone who agrees.

Who's kidding whom? We all have a certain "look" that attracts us...of course looks matter...or we'd all look like Keith Richards (Rolling Stones guitar player for all you kids who can't remember life before Manson...lmao)

hey now dear be nice lol but yeah cancer does have a point

lol you always have a comment befitting of your name Sunshine

i'm with cancer on this one.....
yes looks do matter....first impressions being what they are.....
and the first impression begins with a look....not a phrase or a comment...but a look
if a person is unattractive to you physically...then you must work that much harder for things to work in a relationship.....it can work...but it's harder....and we are an inherently lazy species

it just happens.. cant control it

we have all been taught that looks matter,even though its really a small part,of who a person really is. so yes cancer is right,it matters only due to how we where raised....

arch angel anubis (sry if i spelled it wrong) has a point. a lot of it is perception. see, what attracted me to my ex was they way he acted...not to mention his hair and eyes. i didnt care what the rest of him looked like, his style..the way he smells..his eyes and hair...plus he had a lip ring.. so yea looks definitly played a role in hooking up with him, after we were together though i discovered what he was like on the inside, and i was totally smitten.. however, my friends didnt find him very attractive. though they didnt care because i was happy and they have a "to each his own" mentality.

dont get me wrong though, i believe whole-heartedly in the whole beauty is in the eye if the beholder. and beauty is only skin deep. however, who can honestly say that they have never judged someone by appearences?

Everyone looks at the outside looks before the inside. I do think that love is when you know the inside person and thats whos you fall in love with.

screw that... First its personality then looks. But I do put both into alot of consideration and I take my time before I make my decision . I dont fall in love, love is just a word people use to validate themselves

i don't care how great someones personality, you could never get intimate with them, hence be in a loving relationship with them if they happened to be repulsive looking..

Does it matter?

That's just it, everyone has their own idea of what turns them on and what doesn't. But I have to agree with Cancer and the others here, to some degree LOOKS do/will matter.

Say you’re talking to someone online that you never see a real picture of them, yet you can talk to them for a very long time, think you know them inside and out, think you are attracted to them in what ever way. Then you meet them, and the first thing you are thinking is "So this is what you look like."

YOU DO NOT LOVE SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL, THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM.

looks do matter yes, but people see the beauty through their own eyes, they cant be told what is beautiful they just know because they see beauty where perhaps others do not.

in short, beauty is in the eye of the beholder

hmmm i was thinking that same thing "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" which is true.

looks do matter but for me its not all about looks its a mixture of looks and personality but yeah i have to agree with cancer of course looks matter

everything matters, of course, that is definitely true.
but i believe some things matter more than others. some people prefer intelligence, personality more than beauty...others conform, others dont and want more...

its like a percentage thing.
for example:
50%brains
20%beauty
30%personality

i dont know something like that....

in the end it all adds up, its all part of the "puzzle"

just some parts count more than others, its basically personal preference.

Wow! This is gettin kinda heated.

I'm sorry DarknessBound, but I can't look at it mathematically.

There are certain physical and intellectual attributes that will always be deal-breakers... No matter how many of my other ideals that person may fulfill.

Wait! Look at the next victim of love??? How can u choose it?
ok...I agree that it is not so important, but I think, that I couldnt fall in love into someone,who is disgusting or nonsymphatetic or whatever...

people hardest react on visual basis, so you woudn't even try to get close with a person that doesen't attracts you physically

looks are only a plus when u fall in love. i fell in love and his looks to me are only a plus in our relationship. He is so beautiful in my eyes but someone else may not agree. Beauty as they say is only skin deep. Look at how they react and how they love you.

I love you my Dark Knight. Come home safe.

Of course looks matter ....you wouldn't want to bump uglies with a Minger now would ya ??? ...ROFLMAO

There are different levels of beauty and personality helps you decide which one of the beautiful people you want to be with.....

Charisma, sex appeal (which isn't always looks), someone witty with a brilliant sense of humour..... brains being able to have opinions and discuss them and the world around them....the ability to make you feel safe in the knowledge that you aren't gonna be making all of the decisions and fixing everything yourself all of the time. Compassion and Empathy. Common sense..nothing worse than a brainbox who can't even boil an egg...(before you say anything i have known clever people who can't boil an egg ...lol).

Someone able to convey their emotions and thoughts without constantly shouting or crying about everything...LOL...Honesty ...(tell me the truth even if it hurts me ..unless of course i ask you if my bum looks big in this little black dress..LOL)

Lack of weird disgusting habits ..i won't name any cos well ewww!!! LMAO

Anyway my point is ...is that the person one would choose to fall for..... not that i can believe that people choose to fall in love or lust with someone ...but anyway they would have to possess all of the above qualities....and then some ....*sits wondering exactly why she is single* am i too picky dya think??? ..nah don't answer that...LOL

Did i rant then?? come on now be honest ...or did i just say exactly what everyone else has said??? ....you have to remember i never sleep ...cos i am always here ....*giggles*

Yes at first for me it does... but it's the personality that keeps me. If I can't have a converstation with the person I don't care how hot they are.... i wouldn't be able to stay.

Yeah its kinda stupid have a convo with someone who you have no feelings for what so ever. Means you end up chattin about the weather.

well my boyfriend is butt ugly
and i love him to bits
i wouldn't have it any other way

its really beautiful on the inside.
true i wasn't attracted to him at first
and it wasn't love at first sight... how shallow would that be?

but it grew when i got to know him
and its been a blessing for me

:o)

I do not think love knows any barriers, nor do I think that love makes any assessments of character, style or beauty. It is an all encompassing and embracing hug of each others Soul, with no prejudices.

well i must say cancer is pretty much on with his comments...
You search for someone that is compatible with your wants and needs...
They may not always be as beautiful to others as you percieve them to be... but many factors contribute to the overall feeling you may have for that person...
Looks aren't everything ... but then again neither is personality, or brains, etc...
Everything combined if it mixes well then you have found someone possible that you can get along with and want to spend your time with...

Well that's my 2 cents... :P

It doesn't matter to me whether the guy is cute or not for me to fall in love with him. As long as he has a great personality and makes me laugh than that's all i need.

well i just got over my broken heart so im defiently not lookin for love it can come to me...and when they come they better have long hair lol.

Define *Beauty*
Define *Intelligence*
Your definition or society's?

I think you also need to look at it from the other angle too ... how many people have fallin for someone who so does not think of themselves as being anything? Intellgent, sexy, funny, beautiful .. and so on, and that only makes you fall for them even more, makes you think or see them as even more beautiful, funny, sexy, and intellgent?

lol ok my big thing is eyes .. they haveta have awesome eyes or I wont even talk to them ...then comes personality!!! looks isnt a big deal obviously .. have you SEEN SOME of my Ex's sheeeeesh even I now wonder wtf was I thinking!!
estetically pleasing to me is peoples eyes *shrugs* no clue why!

Nicnivian, I totally agree with you. I LOVE eyes, and they are what really attract me to someone. I have this idea that people have a space between their eyes and their 'soul', and it depends what thats like too. SOemtimes you look at peoples eyes and can see theres a sort of 'mist' between their eyes expressions and their real emotions. I hate that.

I dont knwo if that makes sence, but Im always going on about it to Gorey (he has lovely eyes, bless him.)

eyes are nice you can tell alot about a person by there eyes. our eyes are windows/doors to our souls. you can let someone in and shut someone out...

it shouldn't because looks fade away eventually. and most of the time whats inside the person stays there.
but because of the way the world is (judgemental) most people judge by looks which is wrong
people should go for personality not looks

I believe looks are first attracts you to someone but then you fall in love with who they are. So I guess looks do matter.

looks only matter if your closed minded

you could find the most beautiful person in the world and they could be the most stupid person you could every meet would u stay with them just because their beautiful?

i love eyes!

looks shouldn't matter but these days looking good is a must. the guy i like(look in profolio) is not that cute looking but he sure can make me laugh and make me feel better about myself

how does victim and love even go together?

if you arent seduced by the mind whats the point ?

Old age cures beauty amoung other things like car wrecks and the like

The mind keeps going until oldtimers LOL yes OLD times when you are too old to want to see things other than the past

beauty is nice bonus if there otherwise i do not care

but then i am the ugly troll monster

I agree with Cancer. I also find that when you love someone and especially when you fall in love... that person's looks become increasingly appealing.

not to me all it matters is that i like their personality

it's a plus if they can make me laugh

hmmm
perhaps better thought out
its how they look smoking a cigarette after some fun
always helps atleast

looks should never matter what realy matters is if you can be your self and enjoy just bein with them not needing anything else just to be with them is like a dream that is what matters

yes it matters. not as much as personality but i could never fall in love wid a troll... :S

wow look look shallow people looks cant matter what is gonna happen to them when they get old its goin to sag and get wrinkly so yeah think ahead

yeah maybe it will sag and get wrinkly but so will yours :P theres a difference between it sagging and going wrinkly later on in life than being saggy an wrinkly to begin with!

Looks do matter just not as much as people think. Mostly the person has to have a great personality.....

I agree with almost all of you especially with cancer.Yes for me looks do matter but not as much as personality.If I have to look for a person to love,as a first impression, I have to like their looks.Especially their eyes.Then I have to get to know them better.Thing is,most of the time a lot of men who were handsome turned out to be assholes and unattractive men turned out to be nice.Maybe am too picky or they were just facts,maybe that's one of the reasons am single most of the time.But hey I can't help it!To talk with someone for friends I wouldn't mind the looks,but if I want to be happy in a relationship I have to like the person physically.C'on let's be honest,if you meet a person who physically is like the hunchback of Nothredame(guess I spelled it wrong)but has the best personality in the world, who would date him? Maybe a person like that would be easily loved but who would do intimate things with him?Don't get me wrong I didn't want to be rude!

I forgot to add, yes in the future the other person gets wringly and old,but who cares at that age?

some people choose to look outward then inward, some choose the other way. Even if someone didnt look too appealing when u met them, after getting to know them, they become more attractive to you, despite their first appearance.

I think for anyone there has to be a look factor

brad pitt all covered in mud. not a good empression to some, but still probably sexy covered in mud. lmao

wingless angel i really agree about what you said last.lol @ bradpitt! i would still fin d him sexy but I wouldn't go near him haha :P

I dont find him attractive, because he is designed to be that way... albeit he is a great actor, but when someone is sold for their looks, I cant find it attractive. However, I find imaginative, complex people with intelligence impossible to resist...

Hey now whats wrong with us Trolls Amethyst?
Yes I am the ugly troll monster and personally don't give much of a damn what people look like. It's the thoughts I fall for not the looks...

finaly some1 with a brain

man women really go for that mud thing,.... Im gonna cover myself in mud then go out on the town

Attraction always starts with the eyes. Then you have to get past that and look for what else intrigues you. No matter what anyone tells you this society is based on the looks of your face and body. Every society has their standards and tries to fit it onto others. No matter where you go.

no, looks dont matter to me at all... if someone is a good person , then who am i to judge someone bc of the way they look. i dont judge people because i dont want someone to judge me.. if someone could love me as i love them, then i woudnt need anything else... i could miss out on some really great people if i based it on looks alone.. again, thats just my opinion

I have found that looks do matter, but only to a point. It is that "ah-hah" moment. I knew someone online for a long time. We were getting along quite well and decided to meet. When we did, I was not attracted to him at all. But, he had come 1200 miles to meet me, so I took a breath and gave it a chance. One day, I was walking up the stairs and turned back and looked at him. Suddenly, my brain went "Oh, there you are". I was smitten, and we spent a great year together. We are still friends, and I learned a great lesson, that looks don't matter. It is what is on the inside of a person that makes you fall in love with them.

No matter waht anybody says, Looks do matter to a certain extent.. Why else would you wamt to go talk to someone or vice versus. Apparently you were attracted to some physical apperance that made them worthy to talk to. But as far a falling in love, looks will only get you so far, their needs to be more than what meets the eye.....

mslefaye i'll say it once and leave it at this: you're not the troll you think you are.

i look for beauty in many places, not the conventional kinds of beauty... that gets boring. yes it's important to me what someone looks like just as it's important to me what i myself look like. appearance is part of the whole package. sure thoughts and personality are very important but very often you'll find,if you look closely enough, that part of the thoughts and personality of a person are actually manifested in their looks and how they choose to present themselves. this said, no i don't judge people by their looks, i just analyse. after all, that which to me is beautiful may not be as equally beautiful to most people anyway, as i've had ample opportunities to notice.

well i dont know about you guys but i feel anybody is worthy to talk to and no i dont look at how they look when i speak to them. That's just being very shallow and i wouldn't want someone to talk with me just because they thought i was pretty. I have a lot more to me than just my looks, and i don't care for shallow people.

Depends on the person. Everyone has their points of view on who is hot and who is not.

nope just got to love me for who i am not for who u want me to be

good point dampir

dhampir* my bad