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For Mayat...

Why do you think it is that certain members feel so comfortable and at home here?
Could it be the dark forklore, the open view on topics, or something else?
What are your thoughts on this?
Do you feel as comfortable on the site as others seem to?

Im comfortable here I have lots of internet friends. I love the fact that there is a multitude of subjects that are available to be openly spoken about.

yes, I agree- lol
I have met some lifelong friends here. But I also like to use it as an escape from my light world.
It feels like people are generally much more accepting here.

I think because the internet offers a certain anonymity we feel more comfortable talking about things we often wouldn't in person

Agree FateUnseen

on the net you know that there are others who share your same interests lifestyle etc that will not criticize you on them like you do with some members of family or friends employers etc or can't even talk to them about your interests etc cause they won't understand

so, to say that we feel more comfortable because it isn't face-to-face?
Like those who would fight immensely with someone online, but be too shy to do so in person?

yeah for some members they might feel to shy or intimated in fighting offline but online since they cant see the other person they might not feel intimated so will say things that they wouldnt if they were face to face

One thing that separate VR from others Site, is that we got Members Patrol, who are keeping the site a more protected from the garbage that exist in other places. If you belongs to one of these places, you probably had noticed that Pornography and bashing and bulling exist. There have been many members of those site, who have killed themselves after being harassed psychologically and morally. So, Yes, I feel comfortable here and I will be here for many years to come. By the way, I am not picking
in others site, I did included all, with the exception of VR!!

I find being here and candidly speaking with others in regards to any amount of topic or intellectual or spiritual pursuits, is much like coming home to sit down with friends and have a cup or two of coffee. Enjoying the conversation from every walk of life. We may not always agree with one another, but even then...I enjoy knowing people...

...I see you.

:)

no I don't think its "shy" as its that in normal life you see a certain set of people on a daily basis and for most people there isn't a choice about seeing those people however with the internet you can at anytime stop talking to someone you don't like.

I simply feel confortable because I can be both myself and anybody I want to be, its all up to me, and no one really cares, no offence intended but lets be honest :)

so its a place where I am free to be me when I want to be me.

Simple as that.

I suppose what makes me so comfortable here would be that the site is full of diversity- different opinions, paths and in some cases ways of life. They say variety is the spice of life, and of course such makes an online community such as this much more interesting.

Wow. Very good. No one has ever asked this question or pointed out this topic - for as long as I can remember - in public before.

So, comfort levels on The Rave.

For the life of me - I signed up long ago; I never changed my name - I made few friends - had heated arguments that was just plain bad before - and of course, enjoyed my time here.

I took a break from everything - even on here. So, I dropped down levels and my profile was under "animated suspension" BUT this year - or just recently, even, I'm back.

And regardless of the many things - so many wonderful new things - that have been added to the already wonderful website. It still is the thing for me - today.

A haven.

I am the same person here that I am in my offline life. I never could understand how people could be one thing on the net and a totally different person off.

If you don't like me here, I can guarantee that you will not like me in person.

I do enjoy the diversity here, people from just about every walk of life. People from all over the world are within speaking distance.

I am in Louisville, Kentucky and this city isn't anywhere near as diverse as they would like to boast. That is to say, racism and sexism is still alive and well here. You may not see it in public but, get the people here alone (one on one) and their true self will come out. It is truly sad.

Yet, this in no way changes the person I am offline. I will be myself at all times. Even if it were to cost me my life, so be it.

I make no apologies to anyone for who I am.

You are a rare individual then. I think for many people, speaking out on thier personal beliefs and base desires is akin to pulling the trigger on your own suicide, especially when living in a narrow-minded community or social set. Being open about who you are in real life comes with its own set of problems and many of us have enough problems to deal with already besides having to face not just adverse judgements of critically obtuse people but persecuting ostracism.

If you don't believe that has a great affect, all one has to do is look to the media regarding teens who kill themselves after being bullied and ostracized for being just a little different. The harrassment that follows such ridiculous prejudices can be demoralizing and destructive to individual personality and the bonds that tie to family and friends....much less to employers.

This site is a melting pot of diversity.

My experience here has been a good one. I feel comfortable here because this site is a place I can relax and discuss topics most will not and or would bash anywhere else. Most here are open minded enough to at least entertain thoughts unconventional to most in the work a day world.

I feel most at home here on VR as far as a web site goes, 99% of the users here are wonderful! I also come to know while still having many wonderful friends both in reality and online......I find I get treated much the same as if they would knew me in person.

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It is my opinion , as with any site , I believe some people feel that being "online" allows them the ability to say things to others they would not dare say to ones face for the fact that they more than likely would get a knuckle sandwich! Those types .....thank the maker.... and the policing here on VR are few and far between. Besides, that good 'ol magic delete button makes them all go away!

Oh, I totally agree. I have experienced being kicked to the curb for my beliefs and philosophy both in real life and on VR.

So for me, VR is really no different than what I have experienced in my offline life.

I just don't believe in compromising who I am and what I believe for anyone, here or anywhere else. I won't bow to anyone's beliefs or thoughts. Listening and accepting a person for who they are is one thing, that doesn't mean that you have to accept what they believe.

Typically, in my offline life, people don't want to hear about my beliefs and thoughts on a specific matter. Thus, I am quite vocal about not wanting to hear theirs.

If a person is willing to hear what I have to say, I will be willing to listen to them. The second the shouting and fighting begins, I walk away.

I think it invites, and caters to people with fantastical beliefs, they get to perpetuate those fantasies here. As Unseen metions with anonymity to boot.

It presents a stage to act aside from their mundane actual self.
It also presents them with fodder to add to and sharpen their character role.

By the way I am comfortable on VR. Because I like Goth, and the writing of such people are gems to me.

I'm myself offline and online, with the difference that online, in particular on VR I'm more comfortable, because there aren't the situations that happen in the real life, even though here you can be disliked because of who you are as well, because the people of here are people too.

However this is the site that I like its Forum the most and write more on my VR journal than in any other online journal I have.

Let's be honest, do you think that in the real life, we're really that free to expose ourselves? Would people accept others talking about vampires and other dark and paranormal things?

I don't think so and this is why I think people are more comfortable here, because we can talk openly about things that usually in the real life are feared or/and ridiculed.

I don't think it's not being ourselves; it's just being more open and free.

I have more offline friends than on VR. I have a sort of social life because I can go out every weekend if I choose to, yet many times I choose to stay online instead. I'm very open with my real life friends, I've known them much before VR even existed, yet I still don't feel 100% comfortable with them.

Yet the same type of people offline can be found here too. Being ridiculed and/or ignored can happen here too, (it happened to me) but the real life is a forced situation, online is an option.

Many people of the real life, would think we're crazy just because we're part of the DarkNetWork sites. In fact I know people who had to delete because of the real life people that found them on this site.

I have friends on here that will tell you I am not different online then I am offline. what you see and hear are what you get so to speak. I don't want to be anyone other than me. The times that I do want to be someone else I reserve that right for halloween where it belongs.

I like the fact that here on VR there is a certain comfort level knowing we are all here for essential the same reasons . Also, we have security knowing that in the comfort we discuss topics and bond over things the light world would not understand. There are all different levels of knowledge and topics here and we explore them all for the most part.

For most here, I beleive VR is a place where someone may face less stigma and persecution for expressing certain beleifs and attitudes.

Also the layout of the websites offers a certain something that makes the user feel free to come and go as they please, and feel welcome and at home as soon as they become a member.

for my stay here, i feel comfortable because of the people i have met on here. this is far most the best site i have ever run into and i want to thank cancer for this. also, the open talks in the forum help because it shows that people are accepting of others on here whether it be sexuailty, race, religion, or ethnic background, if somthing is bothering someone, we're all there to make them feel better and to make them feel at home. this is how a family is and this is how we are on here. this is y this is my home.

I like VR and am comfortable here because I can talk about the stuff I think about and there are those who will at least give it a look and hopefully, talk about the stuff they think about too.
Plus,I have online friendships here that I enjoy very much.

Firstly a big thank you to vampchica4...

when I first asked this question I had only been here for 2 days. I found the members on this site to be more helpful and welcoming than I have ever known anywhere before.

I have a lifestyle that has made me conform into something I hate for a long time and this site has reminded me of the diversity and power that I actually have within me.

I also agree with people who say that can be more free to their opinions when they are online and don't even think there is an argument against this.. unless you are so confident that nothing demotes you in which case you are either very very lucky or possibly ignorant???
I know from my own perspective that I hold my tongue sometimes for the sake of a tranquil life and that also sometimes I am not the best at holding my own.. Online it is so much easier.

So I am here, I love it and my comfort levels are high...

I hope this day see's you well..

~Mayat

I like it here! I can be myself! I am drawn to the dark i think as well.

This place is where I can make friends with people who are like myself, for birds of a feather flock together. I like the open-mind=ness, I can be myself. Plus the topics discussed aren't your ordinary run of the mill boring. It takes substance to keep my attention, and vr has certainly fulfilled my hunger for knowledge, not to be judged, and to just be myself with friends. I think that sums it up.
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I joined this site, having no real clue where it would lead to. After 2 days my eyes were open to some things I was too afraid to probe around offline to figure out or understand. Why? Because I would be quickly judged and life would only be that much more difficult.

VR has opened many different paths, given me options to help me choose which path to take and the diversity this site offers is something someone on the outside just wouldn't see. Though we come here for different reasons, I feel we are one huge family. W share common threads; we may have issues, we may feel different, and some of our lifestyles are out of the 'norm'. As a whole, we all fit.

I am honored to be a member and I am thankful for the friends I have made here, for the advice I have read and talked about with other members and for the support it's members to continue to offer.

VR is truly my home away from home and I thank each and everyone of you who have helped me. You know who you are. :)

I believe that the reason so many are comfortable here is because there is many people here that others and relate too. This is only my second day on here and I already feel like I have been here for years. Great conversations and people are all over this site. Even though this site is alot like Vampire Freaks..I feel that the people on VR is more friendly and are more willing to help those that are not sure as to how things work on this site. Do not get me wrong VF has its moments as well those when I had made my account on there over 10 years ago no one was really willing to help out therefore I had to figure everything out on my own. Upon joining VR last night several people inboxed me with if I needed help to let them know. I did reply to all of them and they all responded in a matter of minutes with the answers to the questions I had ask and it was very helpful.

It`s great to share some things you find out about old vampire literature and to see there are others who find it interesting. These days the only things popular about vampires seem to be the contemporary ones. The elegance of the old times vampire seems to be lost...

I feel comfortable here because there are like minded people here, and it is easier to talk to people who have the same interests as you, and with who you can share information with.

I agree with MisfitChick...it is so mush easier to make friends and meet people when you are in a community with those that think like you and have all or most of the same interests.

It is a themed social-networking site. Everyone here automatically has a common bond: Vampirism.
Plus, the site actuallly fosters a sense of community and encourages people to get o know one another.
The anonymity affords people the opportunity to indulge themselves in ways they may not be comfortable with in the outside world. It's not necessarily "acting differently or being ingenuine", but there is the freedom to learn and/or indulge one's self without feeling out of place or having to explain/defend it.
I also think that the way the site is designed fosters a community atmosphere and pushes those who are naturally introverted to express themselves and strectch their comfort zones personally.
Either way, it's muy bueno lol

Great topic.

I am comfortable here simply because I can be myself, which is not so easy in real life. And to be honest I can be completely open, relaxed and who I want to be.

I have met many great people from all walks of life that I know feel the same way about this site.

Yes....this is a great topic...

I think it's like anything that makes someone happy..it's a place that perhaps someone comes too that needs to remain anonymous...for work reasons, or family/friend reasons...and can not be truly themselves. Perhaps they can not open up and talk to someone for fear of being rejected, or judged. This site allows you to be you...there are many broken souls on this site that find comfort in the "red and black" walls...finds that home that they only wished was theirs.

im 76 percent comfortabel here, i enjoy the few friends i have made. i like the forums and enjoy reading many of the profiles

while there are a few trolls on this site, mostly its people that are more willing to just say what their thoughts are and discuss the nuances and save telling someone simply that they are wrong for if they attribute a quote to the wrong person, or their math doesnt add up.
lol
~W~

It's funny - since joining VR this past summer, I've actually found it much easier being myself out amongst the daywalkers. As a few others have also suggested, I think a lot of this new found self-confidence is a direct result of having people here who understand and appreciate this side of me.

its weird but i always feel at ease here on v.r i know why too because most of us have alot in common here

I love it here because no matter when I come online there is someone to talk to, seriously or just goof around. VR has gotten me through alot of tough times in my life, and the people I have met on here have become dear friends that I talk to daily

It also helps that the community is small...
It shows that we have near 20,000 members....
But only 1/2 of those people are active
Not to mention many people have multiple accounts...
So we probably have less than 10,000 unique users.

But though, that can be a benefit, it can also be a con....
With so many people knowing pretty much everyone...
Drama and rumers is pretty dominate....
So I do hope it grows a bit larger.

im quite content with the site being small...if 10000 is really small. i think that its a pretty large number myself.
still, its a small town that consists of people pulled together from similar interests.
pretty nice all in all.
~W~

im quite content with the site being small...if 10000 is really small. i think that its a pretty large number myself.
still, its a small town that consists of people pulled together from similar interests.
pretty nice all in all.
~W~

I agree with a lot of what is said above... and for me it's a mix of a lot of things

It's a place where I can openly and freely discuss my love of the dark and twisted things in this world without the constant "oh she's gone to the crazy dark place topics again" looks (I seriously hate those).

It's a place where I can meet new and interesting people from all over the world. I can chat about the differences and similarities in our cultures. Making friends from all over is one of the best parts :)

Not only do I get to meet and chat with awesome people, but I get to learn from them too. This place is a jackpot of knowledge! And not just about the dark and twisted things in the world. We've all had different life experiences and it can be really helpful to hear about how someone else handled a similar situation. It really is a great sounding board for advice.

And I think my personal favorite part is the inspiration and creativity that comes from here. Looking through the profiles and portfolios and seeing all of the amazing artwork. Reading the journals full of all the wonderful poetry and stories :)

It's just a good place to be

I have never had a comfort level I always want the next level.

LOL Radu! Cancer is gonna have to invent some new levels soon just for you.

Anyway, I kinda feel like that too. Its fun to get as many points as possible, rating, posting adding and all that. So, not only is there things to learn, interesting folk to meet and friends to be made, there's levels to be reached...

Its brilliant. I feel quite at home here :P

I feel totally at home here on VR. Like most of you have pointed out, it's a small community and with vampbox, public forums, and the alliances, this allows everyone to interact and get to know each other.

I'm the same person here as I am off line

I have searched a long time for an online community that has like-minded people just to talk, laugh and share experiences. And although I'm new here, I already have the feeling I found the place I was looking for. People on here are very friendly, helpful, mature and can talk about subjects that are really interesting. I find VR so attractive as a community because I doubt I would otherwise meet such great peolpe and have the chance to talk to them. The society I live in does not accept people that think outside the little box of prejudice and standards. As a result, the people who are different than the average "nobody but I think I am a somebody" have to consider that if they do not want to attract judgemental whispers behind their backs. Therefore I find VR my daily rescue from the ordinary, plain and just boring people that live in my society. I am different and I'm proud of it!
Thank you for all the wonderful individuals on here! Every single one of you is amazing! Keep on being yourself and rock the world in your own unique way!

Sincerely

DarkxSidexOfxThexMoon