"The only thing keeping the human population lower than what it could be in the U.S. is the requirement for Child Support".....LOL!
So the word Flirt is defined as behaving in a way that shows a sexual attraction for someone, but is not meant to be taken "seriously".
When I'm single, I flirt with almost every female I think is worthy of my attention and who seems to have the same sense of humor. However, when I'm in an intimate relationship, I only flirt with the female I'm in an intimate relationship with although I may still tell sexual jokes or drop sexual innuendos with my other female friends to make them laugh because we are all adults and have the same pervy sense of humor. That's why we're friends!!!
So when a female friend shows signs of jealousy in the way I joke around with another female friends and I've given her no legitimate reason to feel that she and I are anything more than just friends, then that is not only awkward, but rather annoying.
Even if there is a mutual attraction among friends, you are BOTH in each other's "Friend Zone" until "mutually" agreed to be pulled out. Period! Never assume anything! Personally, if I want to be more than just friends with one of my female friends, I have no shyness in just asking her if I could be more than just a friend and my Pharaoh size Ego can withstand a simple 'thanks, but let's just remain friends', because I'll always think 'Her Loss' because I'm totally AWESOME! Furthermore, I still get to keep a person in my life I feel is a good friend to have.
However, if my failed attempt or her failed attempt to escape the Friend Zone result in her friendship changing to the point where we can't joke around as we use to, that's when we must part our separate ways. I mean yeah it was rejection and rejection hurts, but some people allow it to inflict damage to their psychological well-being that goes way beyond mere temporarily emotional pain.
I feel rejection shouldn't be taken so personal. Sometimes people are protecting you and the friendship more so than just themselves because they see something that maybe you don't see or just refuse to out of your desire to be in a intimate relationship.
Unless you're being rejected by someone you are already in an intimate relationship with, which is on a whole other level, then take a little time to recover and continue to be the amazing "friend" that person chose you to be, you chose to be to that person and they chose to be to you.
I know, I know...easier said than done, but I Believe In You! ^_^
Most men know when a relationship with a woman won't last forever, but if the sex is good he might stretch it out for a few more weeks longer than he should. However if the sandwiches she fix for him are good, he'd stretch it out two maybe three months! LOL!
Even though I've provided a long list of hobbies I enjoy whenever I want to and for however long I want to, some people still feel the desire to give me suggestions as to how I can spend my Retirement Time....as if being Awesome ALL Day, EVERY Day isn't exhausting enough! O.o
I could never understand why you guys can't piss into the toilet with the seat remaining down...like that big gaping hole isn't big enough to pee through?
What a bunch of misdirected tards.
...no aim whatsoever.
It's a man thing...We don't expect you to understand...Just put the damn seat back up when you're done!!! LOL!
Some people have the ability to utilize the wisdom gained from the wrong choices made by another in their past to better perfect their own future. However, there are those that must make the same wrong choices made by another in their past hoping for a different outcome because that's the only way they can truly learn.
Reasons Some Women Will Choose To Be With A Guy And Go As Far As To Marry Him Even Though She's Not Passionately In-Love With Him While Hoping His Love For Her Will Blind Him To That Fact.....
He's a 'Nice' guy.
He promises to be faithful and not cheat.
He communicates well allowing her to really get to know him. If she ask about his past, he tells her what she wishes to know not having anything to hide.
He's experimental sexually and seems to have high stamina.
He believes in marriage.
He supposedly of the same faith as she is.
Seems to have similar childhood background.
Seems to have similar interests.
Seems to want to be friends & lovers.
Seems to want to be married.
Feels a sense of security being with him.
Seems to be close to his family.
Ways Some Women Will Deceive A Guy Just To Marry Him Knowing She's Going To Bring The Drama Once Married...
Have sex with him even though she wants to wait until marriage, but won't tell him that and will go as far as being the first initiator.
Pretend to match his high libido knowing her libido is much lower.
Refuse to say anything if she feels the relationship is moving too fast due to his actions.
Agree to go along with almost everything he wants with little push back.
Agree to a Long Distance Relationship when she really doesn't want to be in one, but won't tell him that.
See things mostly his way even though she doesn't truly agree.
Pretend to accept him as he is when she wishes she could change something about him, but never tells him that.
Pretend she accepts his past when actually she doesn't.
Pretend to be the type of person he wants in his life all along fearing once he brags to the wrong person about how wonderful she is, that person will out her as not really being that person. Usually a jealous family member or friend will out her very quick.
If your partner has issues with the following:
Making You & The Relationship Priority #1
They need SERIOUS help! These are all RED FLAGS...
Some Guys Beliefs #1: Female beauty comes with a curse. The more beauty she was blessed with, the more crazy she was cursed with.
I have a few Batshit Crazy people on VR. They just gotta be. I mean as attractive as they are. Damn!
Disclaimer: I may or may not agree with the above statement.
So someone said they didn't think they could handle retirement because they need someone to tell them what to do so they could do a great job and get praised for a job well done. So I said....Ummm, ok. Good luck with all that.
TOP 5 FOREIGN PLACES I WANT TO VISIT BEFORE I ASCEND...
Bora Bora, Tahiti
I have no doubt that I chose the wrong women "for me" in my past, but over the years I've had the opportunity to truly examine my life, my needs, my wants and have questioned my on desire to share it with a woman by my side in an intimate relationship status.
Sure, there are two (2) major benefits that would enhance my life by having a woman by my side.
(2) Convenient Sex
But at what sacrifice? Sacrifice is the act of giving up something that I want to keep especially in order to get or do something else or to help someone else. So there are two (2) things I feel I would be sacrificing having a woman by my side yet again.
(1) The Illusion of Freedom
Does my heart still beat without an intimate Companion & Intercourse? Yes!
Do my bills still get paid? Yes!
Do I feel free to do what I want, when I want and for how long I want? Yes!
Do I feel Serenity? Yes!
So the question is this, is Companionship & Convenient Sex worth giving up or reducing the Illusion of Freedom & the feeling of Serenity?
To this I have yet to come up with an answer.
Wow! This week has been a busy week...umm, ok, I can't even type that with a straight face. LOL! This week has been like every week since mid-2011...AWESOME! So today I join some close friends in celebrating their birthdays. It's always enjoyable to be around family!
So my four marriages lasted as follows: 3 yrs, 3 yrs, 6 yrs and 2 yrs. My fault was that I didn't take the time to really get to know them prior to marrying them since I moved around a lot while in the military and had no desire to be in a Long Distance Relationship so I always hoped for the best, but prepared for the worst. Also, I start out spoiling them, but if I'm not spoiled in return, that all stops. Furthermore, I don't allow anyone to walk all over me, mistreat me, take me for granted nor do I tolerate continues drama that leads to violence or cheating.
So I get the question how did the one that lasted for 6 yrs last twice as long as the first two and three times as long as the last one? Well we talked a lot about everything including our expectations and deal breakers. So before we married, everything was on the table, at least I thought so. Although she broke one of two major expectations of mine within the first month of marriage, I did continue to see her at least trying to keep her promise which was clearly known to be one of the bases for me agreeing to marry her. However, in the end she realized she shouldn't have made a promises she couldn't keep. She also released me from my vows by engaging in one of only two deal breakers.
So the follow-on question is what happened to cause the last marriage to end sooner than all of them? The answer to that is she released me from my vows once she realized that I was not going to be bringing in as much money in Retirement as she was use to. Also, she admitted that if she wasn't in it to love me the way I wanted to be loved and that she was never going to be able to do so since the mental illness she chose to cope with without medication and counseling prevented her from doing so, then she shouldn't be in it. Besides, it seems the relationship was built on what I can do for her.
Most figure since I am the common denominator in all four marriages that maybe I too was at fault. Well duhhh, I said my fault was marrying women I didn't take time to get to know better. However, I was always up front with them as to who they were getting. I wanted to be married for two major reasons, (1) Life time companionship with my Best Friend and (2) Having lots of sex. They also knew I only have two deal breakers, (1) No Cheating/Emotional Affairs and (2) No Physical Abuse.
The lessons I've learned are as follows:
1. Spend at least a year getting to know the person and not by way of a Long Distance Relationship if at all possible. If there is something they wish they could change about me or there is something I wish I could change about them, end it or there must be some type of acceptance on everyone's part about the other. It should not be accept now and hope to change that person later only to be bitter if they don't change later.
2. Talk about everything up front and look for actions that would raise red flags that what they say is not in keeping with their actions. Remember that the top 5 Reasons for problems in an intimate relationship are (1) Sex, (2) Money, (3) Kids, (4) Family and (5) Friends.
3. There is such a thing as marrying someone who is too young to be married.
4. Just because one agrees to be a child's step-parent doesn't guarantee that the other will remain loyal and faithful out of gratitude.
5. If their priority isn't wanting to spend time with you as proven by their actions, then they're not into you all that much.
6. If they have no passion for you, they're not 'In Love' with you.
7. If they claim to have a BFF of the opposite sex and is holding on to little keep sakes until they meet again, they haven't let go of the past and probably is marrying you as a Plan B since for some reason they can't be with the one they truly love. If you don't become their 'new' BFF, then there will be problems. If you hear them say "Well I've known them longer than you"....Red Flag! If things aren't going so well and they wish to spend alone time with their opposite sex BFF....Red Flag!
8. If they have a twin and all they can talk about is relocating to be near their twin and for you it's not possible....Red Flag!
9. If they NEED you more so than WANT you, then they more than likely have an ulterior motive for being with you other than you being you.
10. People will deceive, lie, betray and hurt as long as it will benefit them in some way. So trust their ACTIONS more so than their WORDS.
I remember having a choice between going to a job where I would be paid to spend all day on a computer utilizing programs to make someone else rich or spend however much time I chose to be on a computer signed into sites of my choice for pure entertainment, pleasure, and education and still cover my bills monthly without working. Yeah, pardon me, but there is a Youtube video I want to watch now. Because I'm RETIRED! ^_^
It's good to chat with those who want to be in your life or you theirs and ask the hard questions up front because sometimes based on their answers or yours it could save all a lot of time.
So there was some sort of Verizon outage today that prevented internet, phone service and cable.
My Pagan Meetup get together was great. Delicious food. Couldn't even eat it all. They have some cool events coming up...too bad they are so far away! *sighs*
No they are not.. nor are they born to hate.. they are conditioned through nurture in their environment and experience..
We can all learn from children. My mom once told me a story that has stuck with me my whole life. In the 5th grade she had this friend and they were BFF's. They ate lunch together, during class breaks they always hung out, talking about stuff girls talk about. One day she was sitting in math class and the school secretary came over the speaker and said her name to come to the Principles office. Well she thought she was in BIG trouble. She said that was the longest walk of her life because she could not think of a thing she did wrong. She went to the office, and the Principle called her in. He told her to sit in a chair and he pulled a chair around to face her. Then he leaned over, took her hand in his which now at this point she thought surly someone in her family had died... and said 'I know your not white, your an Indian, but even nice Indian girls hang out with *he used the N word here*. He then told her he would hate to call her parents to tell them she has been hanging out with a *N*. You see her BBF was a Afro-American. They had talked about doing sleep overs... just normal things little girls talk about. Yes the principle of the school did this! My mom said she was crushed because Bonnie was her BEST friend. She went home and told her mom/ my grandmother and they pulled my mother out of that school back to the Rezz school. My mom got to remain friends with Bonnie whom when I was born became my Godmother. And they did have sleep overs and are BFF's friends to this day. This is a true story.
One can learn great things from one's mistakes when one isn't busy denying them. One can learn great things from one's poor choices as well. Knowing the difference between a mistake and a poor choice is knowledge, the lessons learned from both is wisdom.
Waterfall and Spa back in operations without having to purchase any new major parts...Sweet! :D
I ♥ My Body Modification Of Tattoos & Soon A Left Ear Piercing.....
Wondering should I get my left ear pierced....I know I wouldn't get both ears pierced, but the one seems to be cool.
Her having my type of Personality, Face Dimples & Long Hair is Mandatory...Tattoos are Optional, but defiantly an added bonus...I don't mind being single. I'll wait. ^_^
There was a FB challenge to post what one would tell their younger self if they could send a message back in time, but the message could only consist of two words. I thought very hard and just couldn't come up with anything I liked. The only NEGATIVE issues I've had in my life came from my poor choice of intimate partners. So of course my first thought was "Never Marry"....But I don't think that would have worked out for me. I'm a loyal, faithful, monogamous, long-term commitment type of person even if the women I've chosen was found not to be. Then I thought to write "Not (insert name)", but if having not met those specific individuals in my past and having being exposed to their type of drama I would not know what NOT to accept now and why. So basically my past made me who I am now and I not only love my Life, but I love Me!
I was going to say, "think twice" but then again without knowing specifically what it is one is to consider and reconsider carefully that might not be good advice either. Going through life second guessing oneself is no way to live. I think you have it absolutely correct in saying our past and the choices we made make us who we are today. No mistakes, everything happens for a reason.
I rarely go on Facebook, but this post did make me think on the topic...I can say that I'd tell myself not to get into a long-term relationship with Pep...what a waste of precious time and emotions.
^^^ But could you say all that in just two words?
Words spoken by people that made me go WTF?
1. Always keep a person on the side when you're in a relationship just in case.
2. Be cautious of two much PDA between siblings.
3. Eating your scabs would contribute to a faster healing process of future open wounds.
4. Words speak louder than actions.
Hmmm, that's the same number of ex-wives I've had.
You will never truly know what's going on in a person's life by only looking at the pictures they post online. Pictures are just a snap shot in time. It may only show you what the person WANTS you to believe so don't put too much stock in them. Some people's life give a whole new meaning to the term 'Smile For The Camera'....
When I'm single my brain from time to time flashes back to moments in time spent with people from my past relationships. I can't stop it. It's not like I can wipe them clean from my memory. interestingly enough no matter which moment is played in my head, it is always accompanied by the ending of the relationship at the end and why it ended. I never mistaken these flashbacks for missing them. I take them more as warnings to never allow them to return nor allow more of the same in my future.
There are two (2) reasons why I would not MISS someone or something that I've spent a large amount of time exposed to. (1) They/It left me NOTHING to miss. (2) I had my fill and don't care to look back on the past when I'm busy enjoying the present.
It's challenging to find things in common with others when others are trying so hard not to show who they really are out of fear of being judged and of course then there are those who will deceive you now only to have the truth be revealed later.
Well I was told that I had more than 30 tattoos. That tattoos broken up as tribal stripes on my arm in which I was counting as 1 each, I should count as individual tattoos. Therefore, if I counted my tattoos that way, I'm up to 81 individual tattoos.
20 Right Arm
15 Left Arm
4 Left Leg
4 Right Leg
Is it true two of the hardest things for a female to deal with are (1) not being pursued by anyone and (2) not being able to conceive?
I don't know about #1 but #2 most definitely. It was hard for me to hear that I couldn't have children. I was told this at 18 and again at 24 and 25. Then at the age of 26, I was in a head on collision, hit by a drunk driver. Whatever happened in that accident, I conceived 2 months afterward.
I had to have a knee replacement because of that accident but that happened after Briana was born
For me personally, no on both.
Hmmm not sure if they are the hardest.. but.. to be honest if I did not have those 2 things already I am sure it would bother me in some respect..
#1, if someone feels less of a person or unwanted/unattractive because someone is not pursuing them, then there are many more personal issues going with that person that need to be in check. #2, I took that news as fate for a reason...
number one blah... but the number 2... yes it is hard, the hardest thing to deal with for me, I lost that gift that wonderful gift of being able to conceive... it was the most devasting news I was given... to llose this greatest gift.
To me no to both. number1: have been single for 10 years and don't feel sad about it. number2: I'd feel relieved honestly, because I do not want children. Not every woman wants children, but society tends to think that because the majority do, then all women want children, and if a woman doesn't want any, she's called abnormal, insane etc...well it's my life, and I want to dedicate it only for me. I don't need a partner nor children to feel happy, I love my own company and I adore my freedom. Society can kiss my ass.
So I have to invest in getting the pool ready for the Summer Season....My waterfall and spa pumps hadn't been working as they should so I called a pool equipment service man to take a look at it. Don't you just hate when a repair person comes over to look at a problem and the thing works? Well the water fall came right on, but we could tell the pump still wasn't filling up as it should and the spa pump isn't filling up as it should. He thinks the problem is just worn rubber seals or I need a better pump lid so that shouldn't be too painful on my pocket part wise, but you know it's the labor that always gets ya! He'll be like "I placed a new rubber seal around the lid. The seal is $5, but labor is $250"....LOL! My heater also needs a new digital display unit and I have to get some aesthetic type work done around the pool that I've been looking to do. I just have to budget it out and save up for that. I love my pool/spa/waterfall setup.
Michael Blackson is too funny.....He said he can't fight but he can press charges like a muthaf***er! ROTFLMAO!!!!
I see my life as playing a number of roles.
I've done my best at being the best in each role I've played. I may not have met someone's expectation of the role I played in their life, but then again they may have not met my expectation of the role they played in mine. However, the bottom line has always been, if I can't love someone the way they want/need me to or they can't love me the way I want/need them to, then I'll love them the way I want/can from a distance or just not play a role in their life at all whether by blood or not. But no one is worth me hating them if we can't work things out when all I have to choose is not to play a role in their life at all.
Some may say I lack the ability to feel. No true! I feel pain just like anyone else. Sometimes more so than others, however, it's how one handles pain that sets one apart from others.
Food on tray, drink made and movie about to start. Whoever said Retirement is boring didn't know how to enjoy life...
My night's entertainment is set.....
Time to get ready to leave for Meditation Class. ^_^
Isn't the itching phase of tattoo annoying? LOL! Still can't wait until this Thursday for my 31st tattoo.
While listening to the thunderstorm outside I really felt at peace with...well...everything!
As I took a warm shower I began to think how content I am with my life at this moment in time. All the things I've been through, all the choices I've made even the wrong ones made me who I am today and contributed to placing me where I am at this stage of my life. Although no longer living alone since my son moved in with me, I realize that when I lived alone there was ZERO drama. I don't cause myself drama. My son doesn't even cause me drama. Only when I live with a female whose purpose will always be two fold, (1) Be my companion as we both pursued our own dreams and the dreams we have of a life together and (2) Satisfy my physical desires, is my life introduced to drama. But I blame my poor choice in women. I've always and will always resolve any issues with drama and placed my life back on the path of Serenity. Sacrifices must and will be made.
In my life I will forever pursue Serenity, Love, Sex, Magick & Happiness!
My life may be great right now, but with the right woman for me, that is in the pursuit of the same things I am, it can always be enhanced! ^_^