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How many of you refer yourself as "the black sheep"? What makes you feel this way and how does it effect your own perception of others and/or family life? Do you blame others for feeling this way or do you actually try to help them better understand your viewpoint?

I am the black sheep of my family... I became a vegatarian, i am not leaching off of anyone, and unlike everyone else, I am trying to get out of this family of messed up people.
And yes... they are messed up...
Last family reunion, there was 8 deaths... and 5 people got pregnant... and no one thinks that something is wrong.

Whoa, afullmetalwar, whatever I say will sound small next to that, but I get that some people live by different rules and have different logic. I'm the only one who left home to travel far, far away. That sets me apart. I'm also the only one who hasn't committed adultery, at least not w/o permission.

I am the black sheep of the family.

I am not close with my family because when I say something they have to say something against me, it was always like this since I was little.

Things got worse when my brother was born, because he is a boy, and they wanted a boy not a girl.

I became a teenager and things got worse again for many reasons.

I became 17 and started to like the Gothic subculture and things got worse again because I was considered a rebel.

I had trouble finding a job so things got worse again while my brother was the promising child because he was in school.

Now he's the one looking for work and I never hear my parents tell him: 'you don't find a job because you're good at nothing,' like they did with me.

Also every time I say I regret a decision they tell me: ''it's your fault, it was your decision'' while if it's my brother saying so they tell him it's not his fault he is just unlucky.

When I was 17 I bought a bag with the shape of a black sheep and it became our High School's clique's mascot :)

It's not all bad with my parents, we have our good times too, but I know very well that they'd have preferred someone else than me, especially of a different sex.

What I will never forgive is my brother, because of something really bad he did to me with the approval of our parents.

I feel a black sheep everywhere I go.

I just can't fit in anywhere.

This also gives me a disadvantage when I have to do group work. I hate it. I feel better when I can work alone.

With time, I also became introverted and timid around people I don't know.

I don't try anymore to make people understand my viewpoint, I gave up, when someone does not want to listen it's useless.

I am fine anyway, there are two people in my life who accept me the way I am and that's enough.

I've always been the black sheep of my family. For whatever reason they outcasted me, my mom, dad and sister. It is probably due to the fact that my dad was born and raised Jewish and most of my moms side of the family is hardcore baptists where if you are not baptist you are going to hell.

Since 1991 there have been about 20 maybe more now deaths in my family most of which have been on my moms side of the family and about 5 were last year. After my grandmother died in 2007 me my dad and sister were hardly kept in the loop about anything in general. We had to call family members just to see if something was wrong because it would either be too late or close to it.

Things haven't always been good and i've since distanced myself from my moms side because its not worth it to try and reason with them.

Thanks for the responses you guys. Keep'em coming!

I pretty much AM the black sheep of the family as far as i know anyway. I know that some family members have went through certain circumstances with me so at first they didn't quite understand until later down the road when they would hear about something, now they know they can come to me for a little more information should i have any because for some reason, i hear, see or sense things that they haven't themselves. So really being the black sheep isn't too bad on my end but yet it still leaves that 'yes you are' feeling behind.

Whenever my family heard of my spiritual changes or mindset, they sort of fell away for a little while but some still remained close regardless of my choice. They do not treat me differently anymore once they saw that I'm still very much respectful of theirs.

I think most will just take time for people to grasp, some grasp it faster than others. But i guess what really matters is that no matter how different we can come off or seem, there are still others that will be there whether the number is great or small.

I am proud of the knowledge I have and that my family ignores.

I'm the black sheep on both sides of my family. While my cousins and anunts and uncles lead these ordinary lives, and conform to society, i myself choose to be who i am, i have smbraced being an individual.

Is there a trend between indvidualism and being the black sheep?

It seems to me like there is....

I was the black sheep, born out of wedlock my dad left when I was months old like that was my fault..

my mum married a sailor and had two kids who were treated so differently to me

I cannot see no logical reason why I was the black sheep but I was

I suppose I would be considered the black sheep in my family. I've always felt so different and lonely... Ever since I was little, I just... didn't feel like I belonged anywhere... Not with my family or with any one at school...

I didn't develop any TRULY close friendships until about high school. And even still I don't feel completely comfortable being myself... Not always...

With my family... well... I kinda always considered myself more... perceptive... than they were... Mainly because I was the only child willing to learn from the mistakes others in my family had made... And the only one willing to work to at least ATTEMPT to make something of myself... while they bum off of the government when they're all perfectly capable of working. I have a different way of thinking that doesn't judge everyone I meet or think that everyone is out to get me...

From 11 years old, if something happened... something bad or just out of the everyday norm, I would be telling my family to do this... or just think in a certain way... trying to give them advice, honestly... And I understand why they would never listen THEN... Even though it turned out I WAS right or at least in the direction of right... Now it's just like... they all ignore me... they never think anything I say is worth any value...

I'm the only one who's not let her curiosity of other religions and belief systems drive her to the point of insanity. My family fears God and I just had the bright idea to think that if God would punish me for my following my own heart than I would prefer that to living in with knowing I didn't have the courage to follow my own heart...

I spent most of my days from the 5th grade and up, trying to figure out who I was and what I believed. Analyzing how people were and honestly just trying to learn as much about the world and the universe as I could...

I've taken the time to learn from others and observe and learn about people in general while my family has fumbled around with their lives, guessing and not paying attention to what they should already know...

I've always felt different... No matter what I've done or who I've been around... I've always just had this overwhelming feeling that I was NOT like most others, especially not in my family...

I suppose that's just how it is for me...

Lack of sympathy from the family when younger.

Lack of motivation by family when younger.

Dismissed by family in certain ways when younger.

Being used by family even in the present day context.

Though I do not consider myself as being the "black sheep", I would consider the family as black sheep to my normality that I see myself, being the good person in general.

I was always the black sheep...but better then being their good little robot.

yes i am the black sheep of my family , i guess its because i dont see eye to eye with any of my family and dont get me wrong me and my mom are the only ones that get along but i am not a moms boy lol .
i am on here and in a coven .
i like a lot of different people not for who they are or even what they do but just because they are dont act like someone they are not and thats me i am who i am and i am here for all even if they dont like that i will always be here lol.

I am definitely the black sheep of my family and then some! My little sister is next in line, isnt that just lovely?

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I am glad thier is so much Black Sheep as we are Original (Most white sheep were bred for thier whiteness ) Us black sheep need no one id rather be a Soay Sheep anyday....

Long live the Black Sheep !!

Every aspect of my being was so incredibly different from my family. Not only my appearance, thought and action, but my mere presence was. Through out my childhood my mother was constantly telling me she thought she delivered a girl instead of a boy. As I researched this thought, I found suprising results of the girls family that was delivered that night as well. Only DNA results could confirm my suspcions, yet I fear the results would change too many lives.

Thats not nessessarily the "black sheep", thats f*cked up is what it is. the hospital staff should have been paying more attention.

Now, if your family outcasted you because of it, then I could see where you were coming from. But, if your family treated you as one of their own, then your post is a bit moot, save for the fact that it denotes a f*cked up scenerio.

i am an individualist and proud of it.i try hard to be the blackest sheep i can be and despise people who conform to the herd.

black sheep seems to be more negative than anything

i think sometimes a title can bring negativity with it even if it's not meant to intentionaly

i feel i am different in ways from my family but i have learned to deal with it.

True it is a negative type if definition i suppose if one takes it to be negative. Some others may take it another way and find it a good thing to be. Just as one said above....it's better than being the same as everyone else in the end :)

I am a black sheep I am so different then My Mother

she didn't raise me I am shaman and wiccan lol weird i know

But I dont blame anyone as i am me and this has taught me to walk my own path and walk tall

Life is to short to point fingers at everyone that may have screwed us up

were adults I take responsibility for me and My actions

I take responsability, I don't point the finger, I just can confirm that the upbring can influence a person and at the same time we are able to be ourselves.

What happens is, that often if you stand out, you're going to be seen as the black sheep.

In fact one of my sayings is:

'You have to pay a bitter price if you choose to be yourself.'

With this I won't say that I have a problem with myself being me, it's others that have, and I won't point the finger at anyone, I'm proud I standed out even though I had to pay a very bitter price.

Yeah, I was and am still the black sheep, but my relationship with my family wasn't bad, per se, just that I was always very different from them all.

I'm left-handed, they're all right-handed. I'm by far the most creative artistically and musically, I'm currently the highest educated, I live the farthest away from the "family" as a whole, I've been to more places around the world (actually I think I'm the only that's been out of the U.S. for that matter). When I got married, my wife was 12 years older than me and they disapproved--some of them boycotted the wedding. And it's just a litany of similar things that have always set me apart.

I'm on fairly good terms with my parents, aunts, uncles and so forth, so I wouldn't say that there is disdain or disapproval, but I am definitely the "other" when the whole family gets together.

hmmm...well I'm pretty much the black sheep anywhere I go lol never really have fit in anywhere with anyone. It kinda bothers me, but whatever you either like me or you don't.

LOL...I forgot to say WHY I am the black sheep of my family!

Well for years I was addicted to heroine and was even homeless. I lived on the streets of Camden NJ, which is an extremely dangerous place. They have been named the most dangerous city in america numerous times. But I survived! I'm off the heroine, but still the black sheep and I don't know why. I do know that it pisses me off. I haven't done heroine or have been homeless since 2006. I'm clean, I don't even drink! I mean, damn!

As for my sister...she is next in line because she had a black child out of wedlock and then another peurto rican child out of wedlock and because she smokes weed.

So here, you can see how close minded my family is. It kinda sucked growing up and striving to be at their standards. It really did. I'm so glad I am on my own now with my own family, but now the state is trying to take custody of my son away from my husband and I for one stupid argument that we had.

So my life is kind of like a bunch of chapters of adversity. Sometimes I wish I could trade places with somebody. Anybody!

Wow, Upir...

I think I'm the 'black sheep' of my family; more or less 'black sheep light'. It's really only because in a family that is pretty mainstream, I was always the eccentric one - to them anyway. But nothing negative.

I've always known I was different or the "Black Sheep" if you will. I just refuse to ignore what I was born to be and could careless what others think of me. My life has improved greatly since I made that choice, and it doesn't change who I am inside, just my beliefs and acceptance of issues that there is more, much more than what I was raised to believe in.

Being set apart as a child really hurts, and even though we grow past the labels, the core of rejection may still be there. I was convinced that I was adopted, or a foundling. For a brief period I even wished, hoped and dreamed that aliens had abandoned me. How I longed for them to return and take me home!

Now I'm grateful for being the outcast because otherwise I would never have gotten away. At the same time, I love these people - I can't help it. I've pretty much arrived at the point where it's enuf for me to love them, it's a good thing inside me, and it's made me more patient, tolerant and kind when I'm disagreeing with them.

My mom is the black sheep of my family. Her house is embarrassing to me...I can't even take my kid in there it's so bad. Have you ever heard of a hoarder? Well she is that and then some. At least hoarders aren't dirty...I don't think she has ever cleaned anything in the past 25 years. Thats the way it seems....I never saw her clean growing up and it REALLY pisses me off. She should have done better. Thats my mom and I love her, but she needs to get her shit together before the state comes and condemns the property.

I don't know if I am the black sheep, but I know all of my other siblings are what I would call "precious" and I am well.... not precious at all... They kinda just ignore me lol.

well i suppose i am the Black sheep of my family as I never go see them or keep in touch yet the rest of my family all keep in touch with each other.

I am the black sheep of the family but I have chosen to be. I don't blame anyone but I blame the behaviour of my parents and brother.

I was abused as a child, and as an adult the abuse continued into criticism, condensation, lies and back stabbing.

So I removed myself from the situation to heal myself and put the past behind me. I can't handle their constant negativity. They weren't helping just making my anxiety and depression even worst so I chose to disassociate myself.

Although they have claimed they have shut me out and have come up with lies about me to make me look like I am the bad person.

So I guess in a way its twofold lol.

Sorry I meant to add....

How does it effect your own perception of others and/or family life? At first I was hurt but then I saw that it was a good thing. However I can understand how someone could see this as a way of being isolated and unloved. I instead found a different family in friends, and eventually my husband and children. I realised after meeting my husbands family that no family is perfect. However I can understand and feel for those who feel shut out and unwanted by the world because of what their family has done to them.

Do you blame others for feeling this way or do you actually try to help them better understand your viewpoint? I think we all at first blame others and its natural, in the end you can basically get over it and find others who understand what you went through and get on with your life. Leave them behind like they left you is my philosophy.

I was the black sheep of the family and just didn't care!

I've always been the black sheep but I never really thought of it that way until the rest of my family and friends pointed it out.
Some of the reasons may not seem like much but they are what set me apart from MY family. It may not necessarily set me apart from everyone else because I'm sure that there are many others like me. I do not claim to be overly unique. Every person is unique in his or her way but if you think about it, while we may not be exactly the same, we are all VERY similar to a point that we could be said to be the same.

In my family, what sets me apart is that I'm the only one with brown eyes.
I'm the only one who likes to learn and even continues with school.
I'm the only one to graduate high school and has a high IQ.
I'm the only fit person.
I'm the only one with ambition.
I'm the only one with skinny feet, small ears, and high pain tolerance.
I'm the only one that won't snap under pressure.
I'm the only one good with money and relationships.
I'm the only one that doesn't just agree with whatever everyone else says. I'm a leader instead of a follower. I speak my mind and I'm not afraid to tell someone off.
I love to argue and will do anything to get my point across so that others understand how I think and feel.

Like I said, this may not set me apart from a lot of people but it's what makes me different in MY family.

I am the black sheep of my family. Which I find utterly stupid. I am the middle child my brother always done what he wanted and nobody seemed to say much. He was the popular one and had friends and a positvie mental attitude. he would set goals and oh he is so fantastic. I hated school, skipped all the time. I didn't set goals, I didn't have friends and I just didn't and still don't give a fuck. So needless to say everyone except dad worshiped the ground he walked on. Of course dad hates everybody.


My sister is the baby, my mom always referred to her as "the special blessing" I don't think my sister ever heard the word no, she got what she wanted everytime, all the time. I remember once I was pouring chocolate on my ice cream and my sister put her arm under it and went crying to mom saying "look what he done to me" Mom came in and grabbed me around the throat and shoved me into the wall and told me to get out. I was 12. Hell mom even slapped me across the face because I looked like my dad, Like I had a choice.

I was always getting yelled at, could never do anything right. I would work just as hard if not harder than my brother and he would get the praise and I got told I need to do more and help out. As years went on I started drinking, I loved beer! Never mind I always had money, my bills were always paid and I never missed a day of work, but since I told everyone what I thought of them and how the legalistic cult we were raised in which was the "one true church" could kiss my hairy ballsack, I was labled a demon possessed alcoholic.

My mom makes a point to babysit my brothers son and my sisters kids, she will even go pick up my brothers son and keep him for hours on end, same with my sister. But when it comes to my kids she can't seem to make the nine mile drive to my house to visit and when she does watch them if it's over a couple of hours she has a mental breakdown. So me and my wife don't get to do much. That's alright, there's no place I would rather be than with my children.

im the black sheep of my family
no one else has the claim of falling on homelessness and being exiled from the rest of the family members like i does :)

I suppose I'm a black sheep in my family but not for the usual reasons.

I haven't settled down and had the 2.4 kids like the rest of my cousins, friends etc I'm actually going to University while working full time, I try to stay fairly neutral in family bust up's (of which there are many), I'm into the more obscure/mystical things in life such as Zen and I'm not obsessed with cash.

There is more but I think that's more to do with being an Aquarian:)

Dismissed as an outsider from day one-or the "black sheep"...but thats okay; I'm the one who excelled. Everyone else in the family, or my "social network" took a nose-dive. Don't get me wrong, I'm not being smug, but it does call for an occassional grin or two.

I have never been referred to as the black sheep. I have been referred to as the sadistic teen.

I am not a black sheep... that would imply still being a sheep. Goat seams altogether more approprate, or perhaps, a giraffe.

i am a black sheep bc i do not try to fit in i am that which i am nothing more nothing less

I always "stood out". I never truly understood why. As a kid, I was the one "with potential".. but never really fully achieved it. Got into a couple of messes, and well, I always scraped through..
"Black sheep is an idiom used to describe an odd or disreputable member of a group, especially within one's family. The term has typically been given negative implications, implying waywardness."
Following this definition, then yes, I'm the Black Sheep of everything that I've ever been part of.

I am the black sheep in my family due to faith and my style. Family doesnt understand the whole gothic/emo thing. They dont understand the whole obessed with Vampires or anything that isnt fully understood. They dont like me being Wiccan but I learned to accept that I guess