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I summoned the courage to talk to my mom about me being non-binary tonight. It went better than I expected, as she assured me she would do her best to honor my chosen pronouns, but that I shouldn't be angry if she slips up. That's perfectly reasonable to me. She's known me for 37 and a half years as being her daughter, her girl, so expecting her to be able to use they/them without any slip ups seems unreasonable. As long as she actually tries, that's what matters. She also told me it wouldn't change my dad's mind, so it would probably be best not to tell him. And I know that, and it hurts. This is who I am, and to have to hide it from my own father, sucks. She said if was really important to me, to tell him, but don't expect him to respect it. While it is important to me, she's probably right. It just isn't worth the effort, it's just going to be a fight.

I guess one parent who accepts me is better than neither of them accepting me. But it does really suck to not be able to fully be myself with my own family.

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ThornLBlack
17:08 Feb 19 2025

Sending strength and vitality. Congratulations on being yourself.

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Logan's mom passed away a little before 1 this morning. We were all in the room when they did it, and while it was so hard to be there, I'm glad I was able to be there. But now... Now comes the aftermath. She was such a connecting force in the house, and now it will never feel the same. I hate that she and I didn't really get to know one another better, but I am grateful of the time we did have. She was such an amazing person. I'm going to miss her immensely.

Logan is handling things better than I expected. But, it's what he was raised for, to be the pillar of stone in the family. He was raised to take over when his mom passed. And now we're here. And it's hard.

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CuRsEdToDaRkNeSs
22:04 Feb 12 2025

So sorry to hear this. *hugs*

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OldSoul
00:49 Feb 13 2025

Sorry for your loss

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MooniePie
20:04 Feb 13 2025

Losing a parent is very hard. I lost my mom over 20 years ago and my dad just over 3. There is still a part of me that grieves after all this time. That line people say 'Time heals all wounds' is b.s. The days will get easier, but the loss is till there.

Remember the good times. Laugh about them and tell the stories with love. She might be gone, but keep that part of her alive.

My condolences on his loss and your loss. My thoughts are with you.

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It's been a rough couple of days... And things aren't going to get better anytime soon.

I may not be around much for a while. Logan's mom is... She's not doing okay and I want to try and be here for his family as much and in any capacity that I am able. So... Yeah.

I told Logan I was non-binary last night, and his response was pretty much, "yeah, I know. And?" . And then I threw up. Because stress, yay!

I have felt this way for a number of years, it's always been there, in the back of my mind. And then at the biginning of this year, I really felt like it was time to just embrace it fully. He's the first person I've told because, as I told him, I know he'd always accept me, but I can't say the same for my family. I don't know what they would say if I voiced it to them. I honestly don't think they would accept the change in pronouns, and that hurts me so much. It's been something that I've had to grapple with on my own, because I can't voice it to anyone else. And now with the felon back in office, and with all his anti-LGBTQIA+ legislation, I can't really talk a out it with anyone else. I don't feel safe. But I know out of everyone, Logan would understand, Logan would accept me for me. He's open-minded and he has the training to understand the mental side of it. Which, I think, is why he saw it when no one else has.

This is a big step for me. I'm fully understanding myself and what it means for me to be non-binary. I'm not going to ask anyone to change the pronouns they use when talking of/to me. While I would prefer to go by they/them, I'm not opposed to she/her. I have to accept it from my family, so it's not that big a deal to me. I do think, if I work Faire this year, I will get a bone pin with they/them on it so patrons can address me as such. Faire people are always good about that.

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OccultRanger
07:08 Feb 09 2025

At least you've never invented another persona and played head games with people in online communities... or have you?

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immortalxkiss
07:51 Feb 09 2025

No, I have never catfished anyone.

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Neowise2020
08:06 Feb 11 2025

Have you ever lied?

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immortalxkiss
17:49 Feb 11 2025

Everyone has lied, but I reiterate, I have never catfished someone. This line of questioning is bullshit and has no relevance to the post.

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Slain
05:38 Feb 12 2025

Have you ever lied... lmfao. So many opportunities. Alas you already answered. lol

That was such a fantastically well thought out question doe.... Intrinsically related to the post.

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