When I use to breach this subject (as I went through a stage where when I added it all up I discovered we are all truly insignificant). I was told this….
…” we are all part of the cycle that makes it worthwhile in a significant universe. We are all a piece of the jigsaw and whether it’s merited or earned we still all belong”.
We've had to have a few transfusions because of bleeding, but we've done this before and the staff at the hospital is great. He's gotten 5 units of blood over the last 2 days. His attitude has been really good - best I've ever seen him. Usually he's a pretty terrible patient. I think he's growing up. He's focused on getting well, and that's a great thing.
The doctor is hoping to skip past the wheelchair phase completely and give him crutches with "toe touch." I am praying for this. Wheelchair progression is usually walker and then crutches. It frustrates him. He's a strong young man and if he can go directly to crutches and build up to weight-bearing, his mobility will be better and I think he'll feel better, closer to getting well.
What I'm worried about is the integrity of the bone. During the accident, his bone, as the doctor explains it, "exploded" at the upper region of the femur. Whn they put the rod in, bone did regrow, but it never filled in the hole where the impact took place, so if you can imagine it, there's a very large hole in the center of the bone at the top. I asked him if it will be strong enough to support my son. His answer, "We've looked at it and we think so."
The word, "amputation" has been thrown out there a lot. This is basically the last surgery before we have to seriously visit that scary topic. The primary outcome we want with this surgery is to be infection-free. Ashton has not been infection-free since the accident 4 years ago. With the rod gone, they believe the infection won't have a place to harbor. As wonderful as surgical hardware is, it comes with its own scary risks.
The second goal will be that the bone will support his weight without the rod. He had hoped that they were going to lengthen the ligaments on his knee so that he'd have more range of motion, but the doctor was adament about not doing that because it can weaken muscle and make the leg "loose" and take away from his ability to extend it as he walks.
It's been such a long road for Ashton. He wants to go back to school. He's ready not to have a wound vac attached to him all the time. He's young and has had to put dreams aside while he tries to get well. We're hoping that he is all finished now and can go to school in the fall. He wants to study radiology. I want him to have that chance and to feel like he's moving forward again.
You both are going through a great deal.Hang in there.Still have you both in my thoughts..
My thoughts and most sincere wishes that your road, the roads of those you love, become smoother and more easily traveled in the very near future.
Thank you. He's growing through it all. Hard to see your kid hurt, but we can't soft soap what is. Everyone has challenges in life...his are physical and the emotional bumps that come with it, but he is in good hands and he's very loved. One goal at a time and we'll get there!
I've had a few inquiries about the Student Sponsorship Challenge. We have received $6000! Most of it has come $75 at a time, so Thank you to all!
We also have a VBS who chose us as their mission project and the donation will be between $2500 and $3000!!
My son's surgery went well. He's in his room and settling in for his stay in the hospital. We're not sure when he'll be able to go home...depends on how he's healing and infection. But for now, all is blissfully good.
Thank you to all who wished us well. You'll never know how much it helped.
Well wishes for a speedy recovery, and no infections!
I mirror Images' words as well. All the best.
Hope things go well for all of you.
Blessings sent your way. And remember you are not away from him, ever. He has you in his heart, knows he is loved, even if you can't be there in person.
My prayers are with you and my G-d rocks ;-)
I sure hope everything goes well and he recovers quickly.You are in my thoughts.
Sending prayers your way. ♥
I wonder sometimes if she even has a clue how special she is. Her eye, her mind, her creativity. I find myself reflecting on things she says or images she shares. I'll be brushing my teeth in the morning and grin at some clever turn-of-phrase. I think to the mirror, "she'd love knowing she caused this foamy smile."
The other day she described the experience of a new beverage she was trying for the first time. I don't remember its name, only that the proof number was above 100 and that I'll likely never try it. But I feel as though I have because she said, "Oh my god, drinking her is like breathing in the sun."
That's just... I love you, girl. So often, you just make my day.
Today, I am writing a love letter. I'm sad to say that I can't remember the last one I wrote, maybe a card when we were still separated by an ocean.
I've never been so loved and cared for. Last night I worked late and didn't get home until after 8. He had all the ingredients for my dinner on the counter and cooked for me while I sat down.
People say so often, "it's the little things." They are so right. Things like having my cell phone and keys set next to my purse because he knows I tend to mislay them. He doesn't tease about it...he just does it so that when I wake, they are ready for me.
The best, though, is the earnest desire to spend time with me.
So now I'm all secret-squirrel...putting pen to paper to express to him how special he is and how blessed I am to have him in my life. I don't want him to ever think that I don't know how lucky I am.
This past weekend, Stabb and I flew out to Washington, D.C. for my daughter's graduation. It was so great to hang out with her again. It's been a long year without her. We all went to The Smithsonian Air and Space museum. Then Stabb and I went to theNatural History museum while they went to the spy museum.
We drove over to West Virginia and went to visit Harper's Ferry. Points to me...I remembered the historical relevance. Yay me! We walked around and bought a few things in the shops. It was fun having her show me around.
We drove to her friend's house which was built in the 1800's. I was jonesing for my good camera. I saw an old slave quarter building that VW would have drooled over.
We walked in the heat to visit all the expected monuments, and I spent a few minutes remembering my grandfather and his service in WWII while we were at that monument. It was emotional because I still miss him so much.
On a drive through WV, we had to stop on a country road so that Allie and Stabb could move a huge snapping turtle to a ditch on the side of the road. It was neither pleased nor impressed by their efforts to save him. They threw a towel over his head and fast silly-walked him to safety while he tried to spin around and eat them.
I'm a lucky and rich person. I have a family who loves me. I am grateful, so grateful. Stabb was wonderful to travel with. We share interests and really just love one another's company. Allie and Caitlin are the best daughters a mom could hope for, each independent, intelligent, and lovely. They make me laugh and they make me cry. I will spend a lifetime saying thank you for all of the blessings I have been given and trying to be worthy of even one of them.
So proud and so loved. No luck needed but I guess it doesn't hurt.
Sounds like you had a great time walking in a little history and spending time with loved ones and making your own history.
I love road trips and making note of worthy things along the way. Sounds like a great time was had by all ;)
I wish you'd video'd the turtle moving, it had to be wicked funny :) Congrats on your daughter's graduation that's a big milestone but I believe she got a great start in life with you as her Mom.
Never.. NEVER take such a trip without a good camera.
What birra said. Maybe I will 'see' the slave building in your words soon. :)
And congrats on the daughter's next step into the world.
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