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what is the most significant and universal advice you have recieved from an elder

mine would have to been life is to short to spend stressing out on little things

mine was that you should never blame urself for somebody elses death fore death is like the catipillar it goes through a period of time that it lives as a catepillar then it wraps itself into a caccoon and then eventually it turns into a butterfly and thats its destiny just like our destiny is to die although some of us die before our time we all have the same destiny just like every catepillar although the person who told me isnt what id really call an elder but he is older than me but only by like 5 yrs so i guess he is an elder

yeah and with somthing that prifound id say five years is significant

awsome post

yes he has knowledge well beyond his years thanks i like ur thread itll teach us all somen new from everyone who posts great job :)

You don't know what you have untill it's gone, so take everything in as an experience. Thanks papp!

"Dont be afraid of being yourself. If Someone doesnt like you, for you, Exuros, then they arent worthy to be in your presence.."

That made my life better, i think.

The best advice I got was from my mother. She told me one day " Hunny, you can't save the world."

Then I realized that for the amount of time I was trying to I was falling apart. Things ring so true when you least expect it.

I know its quite a generic thing to say, but realising that life is for the lving, and that being scared of making decisions DOESN'T protect you, it just stops you making a discovery. That we are on our own in this world and ultimately there is nobody to help us do the right thing.

I suppose that the most iportant thing I have learnt isnt from one person but a collection of wiser people... and thats that I have a lot to learn.

never mind growing older....but never accept growing up
Sam Little-my stepfathers father

"Don't eat glue. Smoke somethin'"

"just be yourself" the amount of times i've been told that... it's true though. you can't be happy if you aren't yourself

these are all great

not really advice but i read this once

"Money can't buy you happiness, but it can buy you a damn good alternative"

i don't know why but my grand ma always said "NEVER LOOK BACK U WILL GET SALT IN UR EYES"

This one has been done at least twice before, albiet under different names. It has been reccommended that members skim the old forum threads before creating new ones to make sure they don't repeat topics.

Anyway, my dad once told me the most profound wisdom ever uttered:

I think you've hit the nail on the head there Jason... that describes my day yesterday to a tee. x

I was told by my grandmother that you can't spend your life stressing and worring about what other think and want of you. Make yourself happy first then help others. She also told me that no matter what happens I'm still me and no one can take that away. Also, you can't regret anything you did... just learn from your mistake and the mistakes of others...

I wish she was still here...

I think maybe the best advice is to take advice, but not all advice.

That is also good advice...

Well my stepdad always used to tell me I never tookany of his advice (he's a very traditional man adn believes younger epople should do absolutely everything you say) so I kind of used ti as defense lol!

best advice i ever got was

*what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger*

&

*everything happens for a reason*

up to this day i see the truth in those statements, best advice i ever got from my mother and grandmother

They seem like good ways to live life on, DarknessBound.

I didn't really learn this from an elder, but i think it reaaly good because when i say it over and over again, i'm not so scared anymore:

You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time, so just be y'r self and don't worry about those who don't understand you or want to get to know you, they are the ones loosing out, not you.

The best advice ive ever heard was."Just bacause there body is dead, doesnt mean the spirt didnt live on".That made me realize that noone really dies they just live on through others.

...a really old chinaman who was well over a hundred years old said "...everything in moderation." best advice i ever heard! :)

best advice i ever read
"Making your unknown known isthe important thing---and keeping the unknown always beyond you"
Georgia O'Keefe

hmmmm best advice.... "live each day as if it were your last"

If you are going to get hit by a bus, make sure you're wearing clean underwear!

So now i don't wear any... no problem >:)

'Advice is probably the only free thing which people won't take'
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--Lothar Kaul

"A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others. We all make mistakes"

My brother, six years my senior, has had very few real conversations with me. Last summer he was asking about my boyfriend (who I'm now engaged to) I wasn't quite sure what he wanted to know, so I went off on the list of usual things, trying to be cautious since it was my big brother I was talking to. I said "Well, he's really nice, and treats me well, we have our fights, but nothing's perfect...." My brother asked "Is he honest?" And I didn't even have to think before saying the yes, he is. My brother said "Well there you go." And I never really considered the importance of honesty in a relationship before that moment...I mean, I knew it was important, but at that moment I realised that without it, there IS no relationship.

Someone close to me said this to me one day when i was finding it difficult to make a decision and it has stuck with me ever since and made me feel free.....so i thank him very much for that.....

''In 100 years noone will know about you, who you were or what you did .....so do what comes naturally and never be afraid of anyone... live your life and enjoy it to the maximum''

So I do ::runs off to have some fun::

DON´T LET YOUR LIFE BECOME A STEREOTYPE!!!!

There's one thing my Grandmother says to me all the time, it's not really advice per say, but in a way it does help to keep me "in line" so to speak ...

I pray for you every night.

Just knowing that she's praying for ME, (everyone else to) but that after all I've done (and I've done some pretty rotten stupid things) that she still pray's for me means something to me

"Don't touch it - it's hot."

This can apply to so many things ...

dont do anything that you would regret and the biggest one the rule of three from my mother what ever you cast comes back three times fold

don't tie yourself down to one guy waiting for a response from him that will never come. explore your options before tieing yourself to that one guy. live your dreams out first then settle down then

Never ever give up. Cos life is too short.

Yes and also:
Dont stick with one guy, u have time for it!
Now u r in the age of having many many friends so u have what to choose from

No, never stick with one guy for to long!

Hmm. I don't have much respect for the elders around me. The majority of them are more childish than I am. The rest of them are too busy to care about anything or anyone else.
Advice seems to be a dangerous thing to listen too sometimes. So far all I've learned is by trial and error.

"Everything taste better when it's free"
that's something my father told me.

"Don't do anything I wouldn't do. Oh and that's not saying alot" LOL

a closed mind is like a closed door.....you can never delve it's secrets without opening it

You know, I'm surprised, in all this time there are two pieces of advice that I am sure that everyone has heard in their lifetime, and they have not been posted, so here they are ...

If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.

Do unto others as you'd have done to you.

from good old mom god rest her soul....take time to smell the roses

This is a really good thread.

this ones a bit of a twist on one, but at least it's by me! " When life gives you lemons, you find a kid with an open wound" Hehe...

...my dad once sid: "don't ever put anything in writing that you don't want held against you later." so true. think about it. ;)

"When life gives you lemons, find some one who life is giving them vodka and have a party" ~Ron White

"You can pick your nose and you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your friend's nose."

"No matter what, say I'm sorry. No fights that way." ~me

advice of an elder
LIVE at all costs LIVE
survival is not enough
still trying to learn to follow that advice

"Don't apologize, just dont do that anymore"

maybe not the most important one but it sure does stick in my mind. I hate when people are over apologetic.

Most important advice ever given to me:

Smile. Just smile.

From my mother.

I like the advice from Darkness, Sunshine, and ElderDan the most... *writes a few things done*

oops ElderDaniel! I should have remembered that... *looks at clock* Okay, maybe I should hit the sack soon!

I am usually too busy giving advice but there was an old chinese Master, my Dan who had so many beautiful philisophies that I adapted them into my own lifestyle.

never sell yourself short of goal because of someone or something.

I like to pepper my life with new philosophies, and the longevity fo this thread proves that everyuone else does too. We should print this thread out to inspire others in the world.... I've definately taken a lot of advice on here to heart :-)

don't cry because it ended, smile because it finished... and i agree wholeheartedly

this one came to me from a dream....
" when you stop trying to make others happy, you learn to make yourself happy"

For those who spend their time giving to others and never to themselves. It's not selfish to be happy yourself. *winks*

go to school

the best advice i can give is 'only depend on yourself cos at the end of the day you are alone

unless you're married lol

'If you succesed that in your heart, you are always open and splendid to miracles which happens every day in our lives; your pain would not seem least splendid than your happiness...
Let your soul raise your mind to hights of passion to start singing!
Understand, your happiness is your masked pain; and that spot from which comes your laughter was full of tears before...
And when love give you the sign, follow it! Even if it's path is full of thorns...
When it calls you trust in it! Even if it's voice could destroy your dreams...
Love can give you wings, but also can crucify you...
This place is not for weak ones....'

From old lady Lillian
I will always love you and always remember you....

I hope I spelled right :-/

'When you are alone and feel something's behind you don't look back, just fight it via your mind'

always follow your heart
no matter the cost

dont eat yellow snow

whoops i just realised my mistake in what i posted last... its ok though only a couple of days late lol!!! what i meant to write was... don't cry cos it ended, smile cos it happened. and i still agree wholeheartedly lol

Above all, to yourself be true.

'Fuck now, Suffer later!' :))