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How important is body image and physical attractiveness to you? How does your self-perception of your own body image impact your personal happiness?

Appearance is only skin deep.I have went out with some awsome looking woman who once you got to know them you found out how ugly they were.As for your appearance as long as you like it who cares what others think.

I personally am not attracted to a person based on their appearance. I mean, looks are a bonus, don't get me wrong, but I care more about what is inside a person, how well we "click". I had a relationship once where this person was not good looking. I loved his personality. I loved the way he looked at life. It was unique and interesting, but I was having a hard time getting past the physical. But one day, I looked at him, really looked at him, and it was like my brain said "Oh, there you are", and my heart paused, and I was lost in his eyes. For the remainder of our relationship, I didn't even look at other men, and when I looked at him, he was so handsome to me. And to this day, I still remember that moment of "ah-hah".

As far as personal happiness and my own appearance: Sure, there are a lot of things I would change about me when I look in the mirror. I think that goes for most people. We are our own worst critics, afterall. But my personality, who I am, I am totally happy with. After all, happiness is just a state of mind. And I figure if I stay true to myself, follow my heart, then I will be happy, and the rest of the world will eventually adjust accordingly.

It isnt the most important thing to me, but it does have some sway in some of lifes prioriteies. At least from my point of view anyway.

I dont think that anyone could say they have NEVER thought about their appearance in a way that doesn't show it as important.

I love myself and I like the way I look... if someone else doesn't, they can go to hell for all I care. Stuff like that doesn't bother me...

Actually... on a concious level.. there is still SOMEWHAT of a level of attraction to the physical being in front of you. It human nature. The point of finding something (about a person) attractive is to stimulate the reproductive system. To further the race of mankind and ensure it's survival.

There is also a subconcious thing, which I find neat, about physical traits one looks for in a partner.

It's actually a proven fact (here I go...) that people with subconciously chose a partner (sexual partner for the purposes of reproduction, whether you like it or not) that has dissimilar FACIAL features than they do.
Facial features are specified because of surgical enhancments and exorcise routines can change the appearance of the body.
Reason for this is that memeber of a family tend to have similar facial features. The subconcious weeds these things out as bad in a sexual partner (what is attractive) in order to stay clear of possible family members (known or unknown) and therefore prevent birth defects in the offspring due to inadvertant inbreeding.

Speaking of inbreeding...
No offence to any Chinese population we may have here at The Rave...
But given the laws of limitations in China on how many children families are allowed to have (mostly restricting rural families)...

Most families will kill or neglect to death their female offspring because the males are wortg more and bring home more money.
This little act of love has caused China to be short 50 million females?

Thats a lot of girls... and thus causing the men to marry as close as first cousins....
Interesting huh?

my life has been great ever since i took down all the mirrors in my house. but as for appearence counting, no not to me. well not anymore at least some crazy S**t has to happen for that to happen although its not completely gone, physical appearance does catch my attention but my cup of tea in a girl is not the same flavor as everyone elses. an intellectual girl is the upmost importance to me, it reigns over a girls looks.

Just the general type stuff but i mean if your overly obese to the point were yu could die then its a problem......oh

Agreed... if she's nothing but a bottle of bleach and a 15 minute spray on salon tan in a pair of D&G pumps... there ain't much to do...

But I still say... there's something to be said for the subconsious. Even if one hates to admit it.

i wasn't blessed with x-ray vision. When I first meet a person, I cant help but notice their physical appearance. I must admit that if i am physically attracted to them I feel more inclined to get to know them. Call me shallow, but thats the way my cookie crumbles.


mmmm Khay, d&G pumps are Godly.

::hangs upside down froma tree smoking a fag::
Well this is a here nor there topic to mebecause basically you never really do find ANYBODY who is happy with themselves tottally really please refer to the below

Ugly guy (or see's self as):Will not approach any girl or guy because of low self esteem no matter how many times told their attractive in "A certain way".

Ugly girl (or see's self as):same as above really and both fell the need tobe attractive usually influenced by the media or peers.

Attractive Girl (or see's self as):Either knows it and use's it or ignores it and gets on with with it or is usually generally happy except they tend tosingle one body part to single out and dislike/despise.

Attractive Guy( or see's self as):Same as abovebut in both GENERAL case's is either full of himself or a nice guy both tend to just get on with it.

Then there ppl like me who accept who they are faults included and get on with it blissfully ignorant to things (to a point) and are happy withion themselves but anyway to round off ppl should jus be happy in themselves and tel the rest of the world to eat shit :)

I will admit it I'm sorry but physical appearance is very important to me. I have to be attracted to anyone that I may potentially become physical with. I have great male friends that have wanted to be more but I couldn't because I wasn't in the least physically attracted to them and you can't make yourself attracted to them because their nice or have excellent personalities.

And I have met some really attractive men that turned ugly because of their attitude (I call them disposables - Like paper plates you use them once then throw them away!!!!) Ha.

As far as my physical self I'm always working on imporving myself physically and mentally. Lots of the gym and kickboxing in large doses.

i agree with chaos i mean i know there is stuff wrong with me, but after knowing this they just go off me not knowing me fully, but at the end of the day i am what i am and who is ok for me weather they like me or not.

There is already a thread exactly the same as this.

Vampiric666:

Ya can't expect everyone to go diggin back gods only know how many pages to see if their topic has been discussed. Ya didn't have to read it, sugar ;)



Deity:

You little Goddess, you.....

I hate when I misspell someone screen name...

VAMPYRIC666.

Sorry, girl... that was rude of me.

i think appearance is important to a certain point. you don't wanna be lookin all dirrty and nasty and expect someone HOTT come up to you and "look past the appearance" because its not that easy!...hey im not the hottest person in the world but i sure aint the worst. i keep myself lookin good ((most the time, i do have lazy days)).

BUT you should NOT JUDGE a person by their looks...get to know them first!! im a VERY judging person!! Brianna ((on this site)) her pics scared the living shit outta me, but i IMed her on aim and shes awesome!! hahahahahahahahaha!! shes me only..DIFFERENT looks!!

if a person will only date or talk to someone if they are "hot" and not "fat" or "ugly" then thats their problem and they are going to end up alone. no1 is perfect!!!

some people hide behind their image because they think its going to get them by in life..and those people need smacked because....yeah they just do!!



c yall later


Cassie

i honestly have to say here, that attractiveness is very important to me. I honestly don't i look good, so i definetly dont wanna go look over to my left and see an unattractive person next to me...i think. but personality definetly plays a huge part with me too!

damn my spelling...
i meant to say, i dont think i look good**
grr... >:(

apperance to me when u truly care about someone is a bonus. (kissing) and (personality) is what i look for. in either sex.

like many other people, i try to make myself look better. ppl tell me that i look just fine, but i put on makeup to let ppl know a lil bit more about me. i really don't have a problem with what i look like, but i still like to look my best.

i really don't care what other ppl look like either. i started liking this guy at school and he looks like a total nerd, but he's cool.

i agree w. what u think chaos

Well i belive that we all would like to belive that appearances Arent important And they might not be to some but to most they are. Sad but true. think about it i have not gotten jobs because i am not a pretty prep. i have some pretty prep friends that are dumb as bricks and cant do as good of a job as i could and they got the job that i didnt ... i try not to judge people by there out side because thats how i have always been judged. I also think that once you know some who might not be all that good looking and they have a beautiful inside. You see them more beautiful then when you first met them... I am happy with what i look like and if someone wants to judge me on looks thats there problem... But thats just what i think

it matters to a point

I am going to be honest and say that looks aren't everything. But on the other hand as some of you have mentioned already, there has to be some kind of physical attraction with someone that you would want to be with. I believe that beauty is also on the inside. I have met some really attractive women only to find out that their personality was grotesque, and did not want anything to do with them. I truthfully believe that beauty on the inside is what really counts.

Appearance is very important to first or even second impressions.....
we begin forming opinions about people before we ever even speak to them.....
after that you may or may not like the way a person thinks or acts.....
but it is secondary to your initial impressions....
sad but quite true......
oh and Khay....I LOVE the soapbox smiley....
hehehe awsome....

i couldn't care less what the person looks like. i am even training myself to not judge the person at all unless i communicate with them or my intuition kicks off (very rarely does with people). as for myself, i will admit i enjoy looking decent, but nothing not humble.

My appearance is very important to me because i like what i look like, and i really hate going out if i'm not looking my best... what i wear is also important to me because many times it partly has to do with how i'm feeling...

As far as other people go though, I'll admit it just isn't quite as important to me because if what i wear is an expression of how i feel, it doesn't really mean that other people do the same... plus i still really do hate people who judge on appearance only. true i'll admit most of the time i'll be the first to take the piss out of someone who looks silly, but he'd have to be doing something equally silly for it to be worth it :P then as far as relationships go, well, can't really say appearance isn't important cos i can't really have a good relationship with someone if i'm not physically attracted to them, but it's not the end of the world either.

it does matter to a point, but then there's personality. I remember when i fell in love at 1st it was with his long hair...he wasn't exactly pretty, but as i got to know him i loved him for him and looks didnt mean a thing...

None of us can deny the fact that appearance matters to us. We pass judgement and assume them to be a certain way before we even know there names. We are all human and to some degree selfish and judgemental. Its how we take that next step after judging one person's appearance that determines a part of our being. I care about the way I look because I was made that way and the same is true for you.

Its not so important to me...
Its like 30% of physical beauty to 70% of beautiful soul what i seek for

Funny, i break it done 20% physical attraction, 30% intellect/conversation, 50% spirit/heart/character.

Kay no worries, love the lil dude in the box! lol

I just look for people that i can mentally "click" with. I don't really look at how they look so much as i do how they are in their heads because i'm really picky like that. LOL I am aroused by a positive and mentally stimulating man.

Anothers appearence has very little meaning to me. The mind and the thoughts in it are much more beautiful than any flesh could contain.
As for my own flesh it is another matter entirely A little beauty is like a little dead and i feel quite ugly hence my self discription of a ugly little troll monster. My personal happiness is not so much effected by how i look but by how others respond to it.

This thread is a good one! (I think) I don't go for looks at all... if you know my dad and you ask him about it he'll tell you! I like guys and gals with heart and soul! ;) As for myself, I know I'm not the best looking chick in town but I tell myself I am! I might have an off day here or there but other then that I think my beauty can be seen all the way down to my heart... :)

Looks can be deceiving, they don't mean much.. As for how I look..I am satisfied, if I wasn't I'd change it. I think that beauty lies in all different aspects, and if you really love someone you can always find something pretty/sexy about them and the way they look.

i dont really care what another person looks like as long as i like they personality i will be friends with them, but on the other hand i hate they way i look and i dont see how anyone could like me but yeah people do and its weird

:Laughing: How does my appearance seem to you? Many years and many tears went into this public performace non sense to please you and those like you
To hell with it

Yeah its only skin deep......soooo get a sharp knife and cut away...just kiding. I think everyone starts off by looking at other people looks but that is not what counts and later eveyone will see that.

deepredblood: I have more than once and most likely will again both by my own hand and but the doctors scalpel to pay for the pleasure of please others

Keith your bad! :P Just joshing with ya!

if they only have looks its ok, if they only have personality its ok. but what really attracts me is when they have both but i tend to go to they people who have to me a great personality. it makes them more attractive.

mslefaye: that was not pointed at you at all. Just the subject.

looks dont much matter when you play online do they really?
you dont fall for the picture but the words behind them
in the flesh world you may never have approached but here you see the thoughts put forth

very ture mslefaye. The only problem is here some people dont act like who they really are. Now as for myself I like to joke a little just sometimes its a little dry and gets taken the wrong way. Looks are not everything but thats whats looked at at first.

i act like i act
online
offline
in person
on phone
what ever where ever i am me
ugly troll monster
lol

One of the very few.......lol

yes thats right i am a bitch in person and online
:)
sweet and innocent as a unicorn.....
with blood dripping off its horn
LOL

this may sound kind of funny.....i do like to look good but it doesn't matter about my body all that matters in my hair!

My friend Mike pointed something out to me the other day he said "Appearance is what first peaks your intrest, personality is was keeps you there."

it is everything

If all you are doing is looking at the person
Looks 100%
if you want a conversation better be something else in that head.....

I have to be physically attracted to the person and has to have a great personality too, to be happy in arelationship.So yes for me looks are important but not the most.As for me I don't care very much about my appearence.Sometimes I go out without even looking at the mirror.I have to say I disklike people who think they can use people like objects only cause they are attractive and know it.I also dislike those girls who look in the mirror every second and those who say they're ugly to fish for compliments.

i wud say that the looks are like primal thing..than we are seeking something more on that person...

hmm, well they have to at least take care of themselves... if they cant at least take care of themselves, then what makes me think that they will take care of me?
but, its not the cuteness or anything, just the cleanliness. I love to search for personalities and usually its in their eyes when they lie :)

I will admit, I am shallow to a point. Not only do I have to be attracted to a persons looks but they have to attract me me mentally also. There has to be that ability to mesh. I like what I like what can I say.

I would rather have a sexy brain :-)

*kisses echo's sexy brain*

you've not just got a sexy brain either :D

*nuzzles up to echo*

Hey you, lets not hijack this thread in a couply fashion :-)

i was simply making a point... you have sexiness in more than one area...

:P

ANYWAY...

Closing.

Mistress Moreish