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i dont no if this question has been posted if so sorry,

ok i once went to a party when i was younger for blood feeding , i did not particapet due to i did not no to many people, i saw a lot of people who had to physical pulled off and had to be tied down becuase they could not control them selfs, also i have read about people who lose them selfs to the moon and can not control them selfs ( i have some very close to me who gose through the moon problems ) , aslo people who even lose them selfs to food, drinking, shopping, cutting them selfs,

now my questions is how do you control your self , if you are one who loses them self, or do you no some one who can not control them selfs when it comes to magic, feeding , the moon,

me i dont lose control when i feed, because i dont want to hurt the donor and scare away potiotential doners,

i dose lose controls some control when i am runing through the night in the woods i feel like im one with the night and dont want to retun to the human side of my self

It's very easy to get "lost in the moment" at times. Control is something that takes practice.

losing yourself happens sometimes when something is built in the inside so much soo that one event ot two events may happen and be that one finally trigger that pulled that gun if you understand what I mean by that. I think there are times that this happens and people need to learn not to built and store so on the inside or esle bad things are bound to happen sooner or later.

Though I will say I have never been lost in any of the ways you posted there.

Theres other ways to lose your self. Losing yourself to depression, love problems, ect... Also iot into this.

But the main thing still applies. It takes practice to get out of it and control yourself. Just some are harder to control then others (they go too deep emotionally).

I have lost myself before, and I really see nothing wrong with it, depending on the situation. But I guess to control yourself you just have be aware of everything when you are in a situation where you may lose control.

I think it would have to do with self discipline since that is what control has to deal with. It takes time to develop but it would be worth it in the end, especially in some situation where one puts another person or theirself at risk.

Magick, blood, and all forms of energy can be quite the powerful experience for the user. The mortals who walk this plane of existence know only of their drugs and alcohol, few know what truly is an amazing feeling.

I myself find it rather enlightening to take in energy and practice ritual. But, I can see how one could lose themselves. It is all about self-control really.

Self-control is a good thing to have although I have to admit I have howled at the moon and ran naked during the fullmoon. It was quite refreshing.

work on building your personal control exercice your mind meditate figure out what is causing it your friend could also try wearing a moonstone

I dont think, you ever "Lose" your self, more like you revert back t oyour primal sense, alive, free, and afraid of nothing.. is how i look at it..

i have never had the problem. Though I can understand the feeling. Maybe I can control myself so well when because I don't control myself in other areas. I know that when I get into a fight I always lose it.

I do not "control" myself I let it take it's corse

Anyone who cannot control themselves when they drink blood they are already a weak person to begin with...

well self control if a good start but i find my self getting lost in stuff all the time and iknow that it is hard and i know that some times it is needed and i know that if i do i just need to find a way out

yea there are situations in life when we can loose our way and the thing needed is self control .i think my meditation helps me in that.

I guess one could lose themselves in the process, but in order to be a strong individual I think one must know when to take control of a situation in order for it not to take control of you.

I used to cut myself and when it started getting worse I got so scared of what was happening that I made myself stop. It was really hard to do and I did relapse some, but I'm better than I was then.

With drinking blood I don't so much as loose control as I feel the control shift. Their's still control but it just has different morals, if you will, than I do. lol I don't mind it.

Self control is one of the hardest things anyone has to master, vampire or otherwise.

There is no right way to do it, different things work for different people, however if you think that you don't have self control you should try and avoid (as much as you can) situations where you are likely to be tempted to break yours.

That said everyone has limits!

Self control is always an issue. For me I do the best that I do the best that I can. Meditation and study help the most. I also consult friends if the behaviour is self destructive.

Self control takes a lot of practice. Most I know control it by having friends or relatives about to keep eye on them just in case.

I agree. It is hard to have self control.

I dout I could ever "lose" myself. I can't be hypnotized either... a few have tried already and it doesn't work on me, so it seems. It is amusing to see when others are hypnotized though. I am always in control of what I do, unless under the influence of cold-medicine (and then I just sleep). lol

I have never had a circumstance where I have lost full control of myself. Discipline is key. I grew up in a very structured environment, and was a part of a youth organization where I had to be a leader. One can not be weak and easily led astray when you have others counting on you. However, self-control does indeed take time to develop.

I dont feed so i cant really say anything about that, but i do lose control on a full moon, tho i try to calm myself down, it never seems to work, i get anger quickly, very violent for no reason & very emotional! i tend to hide away in my room but the worset experience i had was when the pink moon hit...have no idea why but i was 10times worse than i would normally be on a full moon!

A lot of people lose control. Even the ones that think they are always in control. Human nature will always dictate that. However, it is something controllable. It takes lots of practice and understanding. As a donor, we appreciate it when others have that control. It makes us feel safe.

I agree wit thealmighty13, control takes practice.

If you notice, most people are leaving you generalised comments here- this is because losing control is a personal thing that nrmally people do not want to talk about, so i don't mean to rain on your parade but I do not think you will get many answers that you are looking for.

Its very easy to lose yourself in many things that makes you emotional in any way but you have to have some control especially if there is other people involved .

Well, I have not yet been lucky enough to feed, but I have been in the situation where someone has accidentally cut themselves and I did not go crazy and grab them up to lick the blood off their finger... I however, saw Faces Of Death When I was very young and there was a big segment about what the full moon caused people to do. Complete with a man jumping from a very tall building and , smack, right into the pavement. Now I have a complex that makes me think that the full moon can screw with a weaker person's mind. But that could be just a childhood fear brought on by a gruesome movie.

I have never fed off of anyone, tho the idea taunts me every day. however, i can understand the idea of losing control. and like with anything, control is gained through practice and patience. I lose control in other aspects, anger, sexually, etc. i imaging training ur mind is important in instances when feeding like it is important in other every day tasks.

I would think it would be potentially dangerous for one to lose themself. It's important to learn how to control yourself and stay grounded.

i'm one who sometimes gets lost when i cut. i can't explain it. its like you know what your doing, you know you should stop, but you can't. you've lost control of your body, and only when you've got enough blood to satisfy the internel desire will you regain control.

the moon is a strong power and energy i get lost in it and there is nothing wrong with it but if im with a donor for me its abosolutly important to have that control i dont want any of them dieing on me or becoming scared so yea control is hard but with practice there is nothing to really worry about

It's all in the mind, man. There's no real such thing as vampires, witches, or wearwolves. It is just a concept of horror media.

That's why meditation is a good practice... at least for me and my partners... the three of us practice meditation everyday.

i myself am not affected by the moon, but by the energy and mood of the people close to me. it takes alot of meditation and mental strangh not to lose control or lose yourself.

I believe that ppl can be lost or lose themselves when they r doing anything they like

Well i guess only you can know if you lose yourself or not..i mean I lose it when I'm mad or something but other than that i'm always in control.

Anything can trigger this, it all depends on the person and how much self-control they have. I don't lose control when I feed, because I don't want to harm anyone, or thing at that.

u make a conscious choice and stick to it,,,,,,,,,,,,if u have to ask that question u obviously have no will power

I do not know any one who has this problem, but could it be psychological?

will power and control are learned and practiced.savor the moment..

Losing yourself in anything that is pleasing to the flesh is always possible with just about anything.

But could you lose control in your attempts at self-disipline? Everyone loses themselves at some point or another. We all have a weakness, or desire if you will, that takes us to a point where self-control escapes our grasp.

I myself don't know, but was wondering how it is the first time someone lets you drink? what goes into your head? and how do you react?

For one as I begin of more then one part. my self divided. allow to what end to come naturally is that considered lost of control or one using the feel of the flow and to know when one must be compelled to stop...

I lost controle once when I was angry. I have not done that in a long time now.

Control is something gained....I've been trying to stop cutting because of its negative effects but for me it's hard because I love blood and I love feeling pain for pleasure...no one around here is into the blood drinking either, so I am alone in that aspect.

The adrenalin Rush is overtaking I know when it comes to u your heart beats fast and u feel as though your flying and when you feel that it is simply bearth taking (Justtaling about it makes me want to indulge mmmmm) but the way that i control myself is feeding often that way I don't need so much I try to feed as often as possible so that my doners and potential donners aren't scared away, anamalistic behaviours are hard to control u just have to keep focus at the task and know that this is for a boost and not to kill.

I just keep telling myself that I can control my actions. I believe that I can control everything I do.

Self control takes a lot of practice.

I think its a combination of self control and training. To many of us fail to seek council with our elders. We foget that they once were in our shoes. I was trained as a Mental Vampire. In my order, you learn to feel your limit and to discontinue feeding, before your unable to stop.

I guess it all depends on how strong you are mentally.
There are people who never lose control and I envy them in a way, but everyone has weaknesses. Sadly, I do too. As everyone has said before me, it takes time to develop control over your actions and emotions.
On the other hand, it feels so good to lose control...does it not? :)

every practitioner must use restraint when feeding....

Yeah I agree with you guys control isn't easy...I always want blood but I can never have it.

i guess you could either call it a weakness to urges just plain greed or disrespectful , i've never lost myself though it may be enticing i usually back off if i feel i will lose control so that no one gets hurt

Control does take practice. Especially if you don't want to hurt your self or others. That's why I think until your an adult, many things should be left untried. As a teen the hormones can go off the scales and adrenline can kick in and control is no where to be found.

As many others, I can't personally say i've lost myself in the moment.

Self - control takes time, patience and the want to do so.

I do know some that can't control their urges or needs and it takes over. That is when trouble can happen. We as their friends try to help them as much as we can.

Of course, there are others out there that I don't understand at all.

yeah, i also think self- control has alot to do with..though it's hard to do..it is possible...
they just need some time and support.

i agree with most but there are times when you cant grab control no matter how hard you try..i had this problem a week before full moon peaked when i would lose control over the littlest things, some were due to fact of depression/bi polar but wasnt all..i met One who gives me strength in myself by His teachings and i am learning to control myself..so it is a matter of self control in a way..

The phases of the moon can indeed make people crazy. Every fight my dad and his girlfriend ever got in, was on a full moon. I remember about a year ago, my friends and I were walking around her neighborhood, very late at night. We began to get scared, for no reason. We ran back home, and we could hear stuff knocking on our windows, and things moving around outside. Turns out, it was a full moon, a red one too.
Strange.

what you saw is called bloodlust.like what happens when an animal gets it taste of blood,and its cant control itself.that can happen,in vampires/vampire lifestylers.i always saw it as a sin to succumb to it.i drink blood,but i know when to stop.

i think its a mental thing more than anything, someone who goes nuts cause of the moon must of had a past experience concerning the moon, but the moon doesnt have its true powers to control the human mind but to sometimes heal the body to cleanse with its light such as a suns rays

Hmm, Blood crazed.Seems like a stage that some go through,and can be brought under control just as pretty much anything we go through.

i do understand where you are comming from though i will not understand fully cause i am not you lol but i think the best way to " control" it is when you feel that it is comming cause usually youll get this feeling , you pull your self off and then sit down for a while and when you feel that you are ok i guess you then can continue to what you are doing

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I am a control freak. Control is not the
problem, setting limits and following
through is the challange. Olny weak
minded people will let themselves be
led astray. Bella

Yes one needs to master oneself I used to love the thrill of fighting and I gained control through martial arts. I used to love smoking I gained control by convincing myself visually it was killing me.
Face your demons and control them …. As mentioned above meditation and will power is key to your situation.

i agree. losing control of one's self is not something that anyone who is stong minded would do.

Some times bad situations and accidents can affect someones mind so bad that they loose it completely..

Sometimes, it is just impossible to control yourself, as I have found, because I also, during feeding, have had to be held down and such until I was calm and had regained a sense of who I really am.

It is very easy to lose one's self I have noticed especially the younger and more naive the person is of their own powers. By powers I mean powers of their own self control. If one does not know how to control themselves in a given situation, then learning to control is what tends to happen and in learning comes experience and knowledge.

I used to have a hard time controlling my self with certain things, but I have been able to overcome (most of the time) the feeling.

Most of the control comes from a sense of will power that one must have in order to gain it. If one has the knowledge to take control of ones self, but not the will, then their is no chance of gaining that control until the will has been shown.

The realization of consequences which become reality through ones actions may give one the will to control their urges..

its really hard to keep control sometimes...i lost it once when i wes feeding. it scared me once i realized what i had done. the best thing to do is feed when you first get the urge.

I've lost myself but, I can handle it, I don't always. I think maybe a long time ago I did but I haven't in a while thankfully.lol.

Yes it is a very real danger when blood feeding to deeply and giving into that side of the nature.

It also comes when channeling raw energy, one can lose themselves very easily. As has been stated before. You have to find a way to ground out the individual before they become any more of a danger.

I think in terms of "losing yourself" it is just a cause of weakness. To have control of yourself and your emotions is to have strength. if you cannot control your impulses and behavior, you are weak minded and they control you.
it is not necassarily something to be proud of, and should not happen in the wrong situations.

i think as you get more aware of yourself and what you can do the more controll you will have over yourself.

I mean if i person can not control themselves when they are drinking another persons blood, then i do not think they should be drinking blood in the first place, because they may be mental cases...

Well... I think I am the only one here who has never been to a "feeding party"
but as I put in my profile.. I used to be on blood thinners and for my amusement I could suck blood out of my skin... it was disgusting.. It didnt taste like blood you lick from a cut... it tasted like the chemicals needed to thin my blood. So I'd spit it out and do it again... only because it was cool (I have to admit).

Losing yourself in any emotion which may cause hurt to yourself or others is unwise to say the least.

I wonder what other 'vices' were on hand at this party ?

Mass hysteria could also play a part.

i dont loss control but the energies do go through teh body making you feel different things

The first time i had blood it was a feeling i never felt before. After a couple times i became more into controlling the erge. at first it was hard, exspecially during full moons. Over time it has become easier, but there are stilll those days.

Having control over yourself is one of the most important things that you need to have in order to be able to survive by not making silly choices/mistakes. Yes it does happen to us all from time to time, but when it comes to losing yourself during something that can be dangerous. . . . that's not very good at all.

Moreover, gaining that control is something that almost everyone has to work at. And id does take practice. But if the will is strong. . . . anything can be accomplished with a bit of patience.

Control? Take a deep breath and try to be calm.

Deep breaths and try to focus on something else, something mundane

I have lost myself to anger. I never had time to learn control because i was always abused and made angry. I did hurt some pple and then i was sent away. I then became calm enough and learned to control myself. I usuallly talk myself out of it before i get too upset.

In my opinion, if you don't have control over your emotions while you are feeding, and feel like there is a chance that you will lose yourself, then it is best not to do anything. You must learn to control your emotions to use your powers properly

it takes a lot of practice to control the inner animal in you when you are feeding

True. But control is what seperates use from being the monsters (as seen on tv) we're preceived to be, and the developed culture we have become.

Basically it just boils down to self control..short and sweet.