Long, grueling, and heartsick day. The surgery took nearly 6 hours with no word, no updates. The preliminary results from the surgeon were not what we had hoped. The cancer has reached the lymph nodes. I won't repeat the stage he gave us since he's thoracic and not an oncologist. It will take 48 hours for the pathology reports to come in.
On the positive side, my dad looks centered and peaceful in the face of everything. He is worried about my mom and expressing how grateful he is to have his family around him. They kicked us out of ICU at 9PM and mom and I are at the hotel for the night. She's had a shower, a good cry, and is reading her bible before trying to get some sleep.
They've been married 44 years. It's a lot to get your mind around, especially without answers. I managed to talk my way into the hospital library. (I still can't believe it.) I searched for lots of information and images about lung cancer, staging, causes, and treatments. There was even a list of questions for us to ask the doctors.
He should be moved into a room tomorrow. For now, together, we'll just face each day and each new thing as it comes. I am so lucky to have such a good and close family. Please continue to pray for us. Thank you for all the prayers you have sent our way so far. Love you all.
*Big ass HUG*
I've been thinking about this ordeal a lot... it's just really hard for you, I know. All I can say it wow... "On the positive side..." & "I am so lucky..." - that just goes to show the person you are. You can think about that and take a lttle solace in it.
Although it may not be your intention, or even a care in your current topsy turvy world, you're being quite the example for those going through (and who will go through) such heartache.
I checked here and found your update so I'll refrain from echoing the same information unless you'd like me to do so. I've been thinking about little else all day long and it leads to a very long day, even from my position. I so hoped the news would be better. There is one co-worker who knows a little about this situation and she sent me a TXT letting me know that she's praying for your parents, you and your family. My own hopes and wishes are consistent with everyone else offering their support here. You're likely some of the best medicine your parents could possibly have. You mean the world to many.
There are words much better here than any I could share but you are amazing and your parents are lucky people. Such love and devotion are more rare than you realize and I'm sure they know it. My prayers and heart are with you and your family. Never doubt that miracles happen everyday. *hugs*
We're by your side... not physically, but in any way you need us.
I can't express much more than my unyielding faith in your spirit and your love for your family. It is the healing kind of love that can help overcome odds and obstacles.
Be strong and draw more strength from those who love you.
Ummm, no ass hugs from me, but I will hug your neck ;) You are such a warrior, you know that? Me, I cry when I stub my toe and ask for a kiss for the bobo. In seriousness, keep coming back to us when you need to vent or cry or whatever, we love you Jo.
Tenacity through it all. You and your family are in our prayers.
No new word? :-(
Dunno what to say, never know what to say
We knew that when things started to move, it would go fast. Well...it's going fast now. The Thoracic surgeon called and got dad in for pre-op today. Tomorrow will be the surgery - the removal of a lobe of his left lung. He'll be in ICU at least one full day. Beyond that, we don't know...things will change day by day since they weren't able to get a biopsy from the scope last week.
So far, all signs point to the cells being contained with the one tumor on his lung. That is our prayer.
I have booked a hotel room two miles from the hospital so that between mom, Erin and I, we'll be able to take shifts, rest, and get a shower. That's right...mom will be there! Her surgery is scheduled tentatively for Mar. 12. That is a prayer answered. they were so worried that they'd have no time together. Maybe dad will even be post-op enough to help mom...we'll see. We still don't know about chemo or radiation. First things first.
My girls, the dog and cat, work, and the class I teach are all handled. I'm nervous as a cat myself and have busied myself all day with projects around the house. I think that by making order here, I feel better and it keeps my mind occupied.
I love you all. I have my cell phone and will be in touch with those that I can. For those that I can't...I'll try to see if Beastt, birra, Morri, Occam, and Irony can keep you all updated. Please keep us in prayers. I may even be able to get on in the evenings if I am at the hotel. I'm going to pack my little Acer Aspire One just in case.
Keep us and the surgeon in your prayers, please.
Of course.. Take care of yourself.
You're so organized in the face of chaotic emotional events that I wonder how you do it. If there is anything... "A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G", I can do, just ask.
i read birra's journal often. i am hoping and yes praying that things are favorable.
*Love and Hugs*
We are all expecting god news from you about the surgery and other areas as well. Faithfully waiting is the phrase, I think. As a little throw back for me that you might take comfort in:
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.".
"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them."
"Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases; He redeems my life from the pit and crowns me with love and compassion."
Wherefore, sirs, be of good cheer: for I believe God, that it shall be even as it was told me.
Believe in your God Jo as He is with you and yours now.
You have always been an extremely strong woman in the face of any obstacle. I suspect the rest of the family is just as stubborn *hugs*. Don't worry about us here, I think we can managed to hold the fort, and ourselves, down till your return *smiles*
Much love as always, Sweety, we'll you soon ;)
You all go with our prayers.
We will be here for you. anything you need, just ask.
Have faith that all will go well.
He's pretty, one of the family.
Too true the words you say...I miss my husky, Kasha ♥
The little fur ball looks all healed from his truck run in. :)
It's actually an older picture, predating the accident. I call it, "Meatball at twilight." Heh.
He actually is healed up. He has a patch of skin that doesn't grow fur any longer. Fortunately, he's a collie and the area is low enough that his comb-over isn't too noticeable or embarrassing in front of the ladies. He also has a slight limp that shows up sometimes, but never when he's running. He's an example of Grace in my life every day and I'm grateful to have him still.
i wish people could be more like dogs in that way....
AWWWWW!!!!! *Big Hugs*
You are who you are, and we, as your friends, will never question it. There's no need to fear..."Mighty Mouse is here!" lol j/k....sorry, had to throw that in
Anywho, you have many many people that care too much about you to worry about them not being there. I'm honored to be your friend, I truly am!
*Hugs and prayers*
You're showing your integrity by being where you need to be, your friends will do the same ....
Jo do what you have to do, we who love you most will always be here when you get it straight. We will be the pool of energy you can drink from at your need, the breath of wind you need to fill your lung at the second leg of the race. Ask and it will be yours.
*hugs and cupcakes*
You are going through a lot, and you have a lot of responsibilities. It will take a lot more than time passing for you to lose me.
Prayers and thoughts for you and your fam!
WOW, I wish the best for you and your family, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers *hugs*.
Anything... just ask.
You know your friends are here for you.
With your parents' strength, faith in each other and positive outlook on life, they will get through this.
Oh my, I never know what to say ... *hugs*
A heavy burden on your shoulders.
If the docs agree, they should travel anyway.
you all will be in our thoughts Joli.
You and yours are most definitely in my thoughts and prayers.
You know I will send you my best. Take care and don't over due Joli.
I will lite a candle for you Joli, for you and your parents.
Lots of planes going down lately...Hmmmm. That tells me to keep my feet on the ground where they belong.
I saw the story and immediately looked to my right to see if he was on messenger...the relief to see that little yellow dot has never been greater. He's been in my thoughts all day and I too have sent my prayers to the community.
I'm welling up now thinking how fragile and sensitive you are ...
My prays to the families who suffered losses on Flight 3407.
Your caring, compassion and loving nature is amazing... you are a dear friend Jo... thank you.