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04:43 Feb 27 2009
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Long, grueling, and heartsick day. The surgery took nearly 6 hours with no word, no updates. The preliminary results from the surgeon were not what we had hoped. The cancer has reached the lymph nodes. I won't repeat the stage he gave us since he's thoracic and not an oncologist. It will take 48 hours for the pathology reports to come in.


On the positive side, my dad looks centered and peaceful in the face of everything. He is worried about my mom and expressing how grateful he is to have his family around him. They kicked us out of ICU at 9PM and mom and I are at the hotel for the night. She's had a shower, a good cry, and is reading her bible before trying to get some sleep.


They've been married 44 years. It's a lot to get your mind around, especially without answers. I managed to talk my way into the hospital library. (I still can't believe it.) I searched for lots of information and images about lung cancer, staging, causes, and treatments. There was even a list of questions for us to ask the doctors.


He should be moved into a room tomorrow. For now, together, we'll just face each day and each new thing as it comes. I am so lucky to have such a good and close family. Please continue to pray for us. Thank you for all the prayers you have sent our way so far. Love you all.


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PandorasBx
PandorasBx
04:47 Feb 27 2009

*Big ass HUG*





imagesinwords
imagesinwords
04:56 Feb 27 2009

I've been thinking about this ordeal a lot... it's just really hard for you, I know. All I can say it wow... "On the positive side..." & "I am so lucky..." - that just goes to show the person you are. You can think about that and take a lttle solace in it.



Although it may not be your intention, or even a care in your current topsy turvy world, you're being quite the example for those going through (and who will go through) such heartache.





Beastt17
Beastt17
05:37 Feb 27 2009

I checked here and found your update so I'll refrain from echoing the same information unless you'd like me to do so. I've been thinking about little else all day long and it leads to a very long day, even from my position. I so hoped the news would be better. There is one co-worker who knows a little about this situation and she sent me a TXT letting me know that she's praying for your parents, you and your family. My own hopes and wishes are consistent with everyone else offering their support here. You're likely some of the best medicine your parents could possibly have. You mean the world to many.





Sinora
Sinora
08:17 Feb 27 2009

*Hugs*.





Nightgame
Nightgame
12:58 Feb 27 2009

There are words much better here than any I could share but you are amazing and your parents are lucky people. Such love and devotion are more rare than you realize and I'm sure they know it. My prayers and heart are with you and your family. Never doubt that miracles happen everyday. *hugs*





birra
birra
18:07 Feb 27 2009

We're by your side... not physically, but in any way you need us.



I can't express much more than my unyielding faith in your spirit and your love for your family. It is the healing kind of love that can help overcome odds and obstacles.



Be strong and draw more strength from those who love you.





Blackheresy
Blackheresy
00:04 Feb 28 2009

Ummm, no ass hugs from me, but I will hug your neck ;) You are such a warrior, you know that? Me, I cry when I stub my toe and ask for a kiss for the bobo. In seriousness, keep coming back to us when you need to vent or cry or whatever, we love you Jo.





LadyChordewa
LadyChordewa
00:15 Feb 28 2009

I honestly can't add more than has already been added. You are an incredible woman with immense strength. You and your parents are in my thoughts and prayers.



meeper
meeper
00:23 Feb 28 2009

Tenacity through it all. You and your family are in our prayers.





Beastt17
Beastt17
07:17 Feb 28 2009

No new word? :-(





artemka
artemka
23:26 Feb 28 2009

Dunno what to say, never know what to say



*hugs*





 

02:34 Feb 26 2009
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We knew that when things started to move, it would go fast. Well...it's going fast now. The Thoracic surgeon called and got dad in for pre-op today. Tomorrow will be the surgery - the removal of a lobe of his left lung. He'll be in ICU at least one full day. Beyond that, we don't know...things will change day by day since they weren't able to get a biopsy from the scope last week.


So far, all signs point to the cells being contained with the one tumor on his lung. That is our prayer.


I have booked a hotel room two miles from the hospital so that between mom, Erin and I, we'll be able to take shifts, rest, and get a shower. That's right...mom will be there! Her surgery is scheduled tentatively for Mar. 12. That is a prayer answered. they were so worried that they'd have no time together. Maybe dad will even be post-op enough to help mom...we'll see. We still don't know about chemo or radiation. First things first.


My girls, the dog and cat, work, and the class I teach are all handled. I'm nervous as a cat myself and have busied myself all day with projects around the house. I think that by making order here, I feel better and it keeps my mind occupied.


I love you all. I have my cell phone and will be in touch with those that I can. For those that I can't...I'll try to see if Beastt, birra, Morri, Occam, and Irony can keep you all updated. Please keep us in prayers. I may even be able to get on in the evenings if I am at the hotel. I'm going to pack my little Acer Aspire One just in case.


Keep us and the surgeon in your prayers, please.


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Morrigon
Morrigon
02:49 Feb 26 2009

Of course.. Take care of yourself.





Beastt17
Beastt17
02:59 Feb 26 2009

You're so organized in the face of chaotic emotional events that I wonder how you do it. If there is anything... "A-N-Y-T-H-I-N-G", I can do, just ask.





LadyChordewa
LadyChordewa
03:03 Feb 26 2009



Fingers crossed, candles lit. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Good Luck!!!




moonkissed
moonkissed
06:59 Feb 26 2009

i read birra's journal often. i am hoping and yes praying that things are favorable.





Sinora
Sinora
09:36 Feb 26 2009

*Love and Hugs*





Blackheresy
Blackheresy
12:29 Feb 26 2009

We are all expecting god news from you about the surgery and other areas as well. Faithfully waiting is the phrase, I think. As a little throw back for me that you might take comfort in:

"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.".

and...

"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them."

and...

"Praise the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases; He redeems my life from the pit and crowns me with love and compassion."

and finally...

Wherefore, sirs, be of good cheer: for I believe God, that it shall be even as it was told me.



Believe in your God Jo as He is with you and yours now.





FallenPixie
FallenPixie
13:39 Feb 26 2009

You have always been an extremely strong woman in the face of any obstacle. I suspect the rest of the family is just as stubborn *hugs*. Don't worry about us here, I think we can managed to hold the fort, and ourselves, down till your return *smiles*

Much love as always, Sweety, we'll you soon ;)





captainglobehead
captainglobehead
16:12 Feb 26 2009

You all go with our prayers.





birra
birra
22:39 Feb 26 2009

We will be here for you. anything you need, just ask.



Have faith that all will go well.





 

23:27 Feb 23 2009
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Thank you. This is beautiful. You know who you are, my dear friend.

"I just want to say... I value You.

For who you are.

For what you stand for.

For your Morals.

For your Wit and charm.

For your support.

For your Wisdom.

Most of all I value you for your friendship.


I just wanted to tell you that. "



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FallenPixie
FallenPixie
23:40 Feb 23 2009

Seeee? *winks* There are quite a few of us around... Anything to make you smile, we'll be there *does the two-handed shooter wink*





TaintedPoison
TaintedPoison
04:39 Feb 24 2009

awwww *hugs*





 

21:54 Feb 23 2009
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Many of you know old Meatball. How lucky am I to travel my days with such a companion? As I type, he is at my feet. I had a rare day off from work today and took a nap. When I woke, I realized that somehow I had closed the door between us. When I opened it, he was asleep at there at the threshold. Those of you who have been loved by a dog understand and I don't have to say much more, but I will say one more thing...

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For all their heart and joy, romping and bellyrub begging, to behold the love of a dog is to behold noble love. It is the most humbling experience to look upon such love and ask, "Do I deserve this?" But then, is love ever truly...earned? Dogs get this. They love because it's what they're made of, heart. I want to love with that kind of heart.

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imagesinwords
imagesinwords
22:06 Feb 23 2009

:D





TaintedPoison
TaintedPoison
22:23 Feb 23 2009

He's pretty, one of the family.





dabbler
dabbler
22:33 Feb 23 2009

Instinctual Love..





FallenPixie
FallenPixie
23:20 Feb 23 2009

Too true the words you say...I miss my husky, Kasha ♥





Vampirewitch39
Vampirewitch39
23:57 Feb 23 2009

The little fur ball looks all healed from his truck run in. :)





Joli
Joli
00:13 Feb 24 2009

It's actually an older picture, predating the accident. I call it, "Meatball at twilight." Heh.



He actually is healed up. He has a patch of skin that doesn't grow fur any longer. Fortunately, he's a collie and the area is low enough that his comb-over isn't too noticeable or embarrassing in front of the ladies. He also has a slight limp that shows up sometimes, but never when he's running. He's an example of Grace in my life every day and I'm grateful to have him still.





moonkissed
moonkissed
07:00 Feb 26 2009

i wish people could be more like dogs in that way....





 

02:54 Feb 23 2009
Times Read: 837





I know that my friends love me. I'm lucky to have the people in my life that I do...and if I call you friend, know that I only surround myself closely with quality people. Character, mind and heart are what matter to me.


I apologize for my few words lately, and for being closed off. It is a terrible habit, closing away from those who love and want to help, who need to feel that they can at least listen or offer encouragement.


I love you and I KNOW you love me. This is a bump that my family and I will get past and we are all looking forward to even more joyful times ahead. It's just a lot to process and sometimes I need to be quiet...to listen to my own head, God, and the wisdom of the universe. I promise that you are dear to me and I'll be reaching for you over the next few weeks and maybe beyond.


I always fear that one day I'll reach out and you will be gone. That my quiet will cost me the people I hold most dear. Please, please don't mistake my quiet for not needing you.


And keep those prayers coming...they are working. My parents are facing this with so much wisdom, humility, and dignity. I am proud to be their daughter.

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FallenPixie
FallenPixie
08:11 Feb 23 2009

AWWWWW!!!!! *Big Hugs*



You are who you are, and we, as your friends, will never question it. There's no need to fear..."Mighty Mouse is here!" lol j/k....sorry, had to throw that in



Anywho, you have many many people that care too much about you to worry about them not being there. I'm honored to be your friend, I truly am!





Sinora
Sinora
09:09 Feb 23 2009

*Hugs and prayers*





BLOODLIFE
BLOODLIFE
09:49 Feb 23 2009

You're showing your integrity by being where you need to be, your friends will do the same ....





Blackheresy
Blackheresy
12:24 Feb 23 2009

Jo do what you have to do, we who love you most will always be here when you get it straight. We will be the pool of energy you can drink from at your need, the breath of wind you need to fill your lung at the second leg of the race. Ask and it will be yours.





meeper
meeper
16:24 Feb 23 2009

~hugs~





ThothLestat
ThothLestat
17:11 Feb 23 2009

*hugs and cupcakes*





captainglobehead
captainglobehead
22:12 Feb 23 2009

You are going through a lot, and you have a lot of responsibilities. It will take a lot more than time passing for you to lose me.





 

18:15 Feb 18 2009
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I can't write too terribly much about this because it's so hard, so forgive my light details. I haven't said much, but those closest to me know about my mom. Two years ago, we made it past breast cancer, but have learned that we will be battling that giant again. We're going to be far more aggressive this time.


My parents are amazing, in their early 60s and incredibly youthful and active. Both are retired teachers and have been doing the world traveling that they've always looked forward to. They even visited Turkey recently! They were getting ready to travel to Germany when they decided to have checkups first.


Yesterday, mom and dad came to visit me at work. They said they wanted me to see their faces and to know that they aren't panicking. Dad's test results were not good and things are moving very fast right now. He is having an endoscopy/biopsy for the nodule on his lung. Tomorrow is a PET scan and an MRI of his head, looking for places where the cells may have migrated. After that, they'll remove a lobe from his lung. Beyond that, we just don't know...everything will change daily for a little while.


Mom and dad won't even be able to be in the same hospital. They're most sad that they won't be able to help one another much as they recover. There is only my sister and myself, so we're likely going to divide them up and work on getting them well. My time is limited in the best of times with two teens and a job that goes beyond the clock. I'll still be peeking in here and journaling when I can, but it may be hard to catch me for a while. If you can pray for us, please do. Love you all.

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ThothLestat
ThothLestat
18:25 Feb 18 2009

bummer, J.

Prayers and thoughts for you and your fam!





PandorasBx
PandorasBx
19:26 Feb 18 2009

WOW, I wish the best for you and your family, my thoughts and prayers are with you.





Sinora
Sinora
19:51 Feb 18 2009

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers *hugs*.





Beastt17
Beastt17
21:20 Feb 18 2009

Anything... just ask.





LadyChordewa
LadyChordewa
21:34 Feb 18 2009

Awww hon. Its terrible that they can't be together in this time of need, but they have you hon. Be strong. *hugs* Know that we are all here for you.



birra
birra
23:51 Feb 18 2009

You know your friends are here for you.



With your parents' strength, faith in each other and positive outlook on life, they will get through this.





artemka
artemka
00:13 Feb 19 2009

Oh my, I never know what to say ... *hugs*





Bloodmother
Bloodmother
02:33 Feb 19 2009

A heavy burden on your shoulders.



If the docs agree, they should travel anyway.





moonkissed
moonkissed
20:05 Feb 19 2009

you all will be in our thoughts Joli.





Silverbow
Silverbow
04:13 Feb 21 2009

You and yours are most definitely in my thoughts and prayers.





Vampirewitch39
Vampirewitch39
02:11 Feb 23 2009

You know I will send you my best. Take care and don't over due Joli.



*hugs*





dabbler
dabbler
22:35 Feb 23 2009

I will lite a candle for you Joli, for you and your parents.





 

17:41 Feb 13 2009
Times Read: 949





My sympathy and prayers to the families of people on Flight 3407 that went down near Buffalo, NY.


Most of all, relief that my dear friend and yours, birra, was safe in good old Kentucky.


Joli: I'm freaking out...if you're here, say hello

birra: I'm here...1 sec

birra: All is well at home... the approach path to the ariport is about 17 miles north of where I live...

Joli: when you answered, my eyes welled up.

Relief really does wash over you. It's a good description.

birra: awww.. I'm sorry hon

Joli Dy: don't be...I'm so relieved and grateful

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xAstartex
xAstartex
21:45 Feb 13 2009

Lots of planes going down lately...Hmmmm. That tells me to keep my feet on the ground where they belong.





faeriemoon
faeriemoon
01:51 Feb 14 2009

I saw the story and immediately looked to my right to see if he was on messenger...the relief to see that little yellow dot has never been greater. He's been in my thoughts all day and I too have sent my prayers to the community.





BLOODLIFE
BLOODLIFE
10:54 Feb 14 2009

I'm welling up now thinking how fragile and sensitive you are ...



My prays to the families who suffered losses on Flight 3407.





birra
birra
13:47 Feb 15 2009

Your caring, compassion and loving nature is amazing... you are a dear friend Jo... thank you.








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