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Not many people can stand direct stare in the eye, and if they can, they usually feel somehow challenged by the person who looks at them. I, for example, could get beaten few times, when I practiced "direct eye looking" in some clubs! :)
But on the other hand, person of the opposite sex, if sexually attracted by you, will probably stare back at your eyes without any problem!

What do you think, why?

just cant ever look at a person when i talk to them i dont know why its odd.

i can do it unless iam keeping something from them

As long as the Guy HAS eyes, I will look at them.

Women on the other hand......Well, it's fifty/fifty on looking them in the eyes....otherwise I'm looking elsewere.

It depends on the person for me. I can look people in the eyes when I am in a social gathering and being a social butterfly. I know that it sometimes intimidates people. BUt on the other hand there is a few people that I cannot look directly into thier eyes they intimidate me. Its very rare for me to find someone like that. Mostly it is males. Espically when I am telling my feelings for someone its hard for me to look them in the eyes. Always been that way.

I can stare into someone's eyes.....its fun to make them back down.
I like to show my dominance........

;)

*to Phoenix* ;> Yep! Does that makes us bad?

But, let's make a difference between looking a man through his eyes and looking into his eyes!

...and I forgot to ask Hawk
Do you tend to create negative emotions toward a person who stares at your eyes or somehow feel challenged by him and if your answer is 'yes' did you ever asked yourself why?

Zlee........It can't be bad, gives us the advantage though.......

;)

don't you think that a person who looks back down doesen't feel his weakness and feels bad when realizing that he is a little bit inferior then someone else?

It makes us bad making other people feel bad!

Why do you ask?

I love looking into pplz eyes so I can see there soul and what kind of person they, are so yea I can do it offen unless they feel alot of pain or violence then it hurts to much, and I dont like being looked in the eye cuz I dont like ppl to know or see my soul.

Because I noticed that people do feel challenged when you look them in the eye.
As I mentioned before i could got beaten by unknown man only because I looked him in the eye just a little bit longer than he used to. He came to me angry with:"What the fuck do you looking at!?" attitude, after I asked him:"What's wrong with looking at a person?", he got a little bit confused and said:"Don't do that!" and went off, but I still don't understand why he felt offended only because I looked at him.

were you staring at him like a manic?

let it slide, dude......

it ain't important.

It depends on the situation if I am fighting with someone I will stare them down how dare they oppose me if I love someone then I will look at them with affection if I am not sure about someone or am talking to someone I dont know well I have noticed I never look them in the eyes for I am very untrusting of others most people who cant trust others look away when they are speaking to someone

*looks back down* ;)

ok, it's sliding... just asking...

I, personally, despite people who can't look back, or look back with negative emotions and consider them not worth getting close with me, because I think that is an expression of low self esteem

Wow... I've never really noticed that until you now mention it... I've never really been able to look someone in the eye, especially if I'm lieing. I'm a dead give away when I'm lieing, unless it's to my parents... It seems the only time I actually look someone in the eyes without having a problem with it is when I'm infurriated at the person, or madly in love, caring for, or having a serious conversation with the person. That's so strange...

There is more to looking at someone than eye movement. There are hundreds of muscles in the face and their alignment offers subconscious communication as to your intent.

If you are male and you look at another male in a challenging way, the challenge will be felt. The opposing male will either look away (becoming non-responsive to the challenge) or will answer in a stronger fashion.

Different rules apply if you're looking at a homosexual man.

I can look anyone in the eyes longingly or not. and i have wierd eyes and people often mistake my look as comming on to em. some guys even thought i was making passes at em when its just my look and no i am not a homosexual oddly enough. I guess its cuz i was raised by my mom and i can have the look of oposition in my eyes people say i either look really longing or realy pissed or really stoned its one of the 3 all the time.

I forgot to mention comming from a island/latin culture i had to look people in the eyes it shows respect etc...

Cancer.........but what if you are looking at a woman? There is still the feeling of being challenged by a man, of being sized up. And men can be the first to look away (and I mean away from the woman) in response to that challenge.

if you can't meet a persons gaze then you have submitted to them...only when you can keep the eye contact will you be able to earn their respect.....

There was a study at University of Illinois at Chicago a year ago we took two people that had never met before and sat them down and made them stare at each other, not just stare though, they had to look deeply into the pupils of each other's eyes. After five minutes these two people felt like they had already begun the process of a relationship without even talking. They are now married... I enjoy looking into people's eyes, eyes tell alot.

*bows*
oh, it's my honor to have The Prince's reply in the thread... :)

Quite true Cancer, I have seen men do that as well......and I know someone that could probably stare down anyone, not from being aggressive, just the look in his eyes.

I was just wondering what you thought about men-women reactions.....since I know that I have stared down both men and women. Women stare, but not with the same intensity as the men. At least the ones I have known.

Its interesting the differences though.

Well, my experience in man-woman interaction is much more personal... So it wouldn't apply as uniformly.

Generally I have noticed that when a woman stares at a man, the man will take it to mean she wants sexual relations with him. It doesn't matter as to whether this is true or not... It's what the man feels. It's very difficult for woman to infer threatening feelings to a man via casual eye contact.

When a man stares at a woman it's more complex (the woman's reaction). It will depend upon the inferred intent, and the physical appeal of the man. Beautiful men get far more positive reactions from the opposite sex.

Now before all you ladies start jumping up and start proclaiming how looks don't matter to you, there isn't a single university study that supports this assertion. Women as a whole are just as physically responsive as men.

I won't argue about looks.......But I do know that I have made people back down.

Men that stare only for sexual reasons, can very easily find that a woman who doesn't enjoy that, can threaten then very easily. ;)

I think that the complex nature of men and women's reaction to things, and the differing opinions from those things, is very interesting though.

Well, at this point you're also putting your facial expressions into the mix... Which will change the outcome a lot.

I don't think it's possible to stare without revealing intent via facial expression. I was subtly trying to get that across in my first post. If you stare at someone and piss them off, it probably has more to do with the look on your face than the look in your eye.

Very true, I think I missed that point.......sorry. I see I am a bit too tired to think straight.

It is a mix of facial movements and expressions as well as eye contact to convey what I was thinking about.

:)

i can do it... but its always the same blank look.

I can look my man in the eye, but few people get that respect from me.

I can't look man in the eyes

nop, i cant..

I find it uncomfortable to look at a person in the eye,especially if I am attracted to them.I'll start blushing and my voice and body will shake.Altough now am not that uncomfortable,since drama lessons helped me a bit.

On the other hand,I've got this tendency to stare at people while am thinking/day dreaming and sometimes they think am giving them a bad look so they argue with me.

Sometimes if I look at a person in the eye by coincidance, they give me a bad look,because of the way I dress.(They think am doing some black spell or something,you know narrow minded ppl.)

Sometimes it happened that if I was laughing and looked to a person accidentally they argue as well cause they think am laughing at them.

Also sometimes I look at a men/guy by coincidance and they or smile back,or look away.I think that like Cancer said they'll think that I looked at them for sexual intensions.

And yes I also agree when he said it is the look you have in your face,but what if it was only a coincidence?

great believer of doorway to the soul, so if i am in conversation and i am afraid your lying to me i will look you in the eyes and know

oh yes I forgot to say that.I don't feel uncomfortable looking at my friends eyes and sometimes I stare at their eyes to see if they are lying/joking or not hehe.

The eyes are the clearest part of you, by looking into them you can see what the person is like, see into their soul.

ye it can be true some people can see from my eyes what I have inside

personally looking ppl in the eyes doesnt bother, me wheather there male, female on trans.., if its a male an ir provokes them o well more fun for me,

i just like the sign on respect u get if u look ppl in the eyes

i can look a man in the eyes it is show of respect and at other time you comand respect now i agree with cancer on this subject

i agree but still feel uncomfortable....am strange hehe

i can turn my eyes cold and out make ppl look away

In class, always MAKE eye contact to your students!
LOL!

I can stear people in theyr eyes all the time. most people dont like I do it,because they say that its something scary with my eyes. I have a strange feeling when I stear people in there theyr eyes.

I can and do look people in the eyes when its appropriate. Some situations it is not ok to stare because it can be perceived as "gunning someone down" and othertimes as rude. We all get them lil tingles if its a stare from someone we are attracted to and a look of distaste when its not.
Body language and facial experssions hold so much information...it can and is tricky to deciper due to cultural and sociatal norms. And somedays I simply stare cause a person has my attention. :-)
~Lady~

I look everyone in the eye when I am having a conversation with them. I do this to let them know that I am paying attention. I know this girl who looks over my head the whole time she is talking to me (and she does this with everyone she talks to) and she is a complete liar, so I believe there is some corrulation (sp) to her never being able to look someone in the eye. I am honest and I prove it by looking people right in the eye.

As for the man I love, I stare into his eyes to see the man behind the physical man. I love what I see, so I do it as often as he will allow me to. grrrrr

it is 50/50 when looking into a girls eyes

some girls like it and some dont

I always stare into the eyes. With women it's challenging, with men I'm tempting.... I also like to talk in a low tone and get right close into thier face, invading thier personal space. I like to see if they will stand thier ground, or take a few steps back. I'm nervy like that.

I always look into the eyes when

speaking with someone.

You know they say that the eyes are the windows to your soul.

It depends on what you are talking about. I for one, have to look a person in the eye when talking with them face to face. I don't know why, but have always done this. I believe it is a respect thing. So I guess, yes I can look a man in the eye. It is not as hard to get a point across when you have eye contact from that person. The same goes when looking at a woman.

There are some people who say that I can get my point across with just a look without verbally saying anything. Whether it is approval or not. And there are others who say they are afraid of me because I look into the eyes when I talk. They say it is like I am looking at their soul.

I wish more people would look me in the eye when they are talking to me or at least in the face. I mean, I know I am not all that beautiful, but I would like the respect thing.

Only if I know the person well, or in a professional setting, otherwise I get called things, and they seem to get upset, like I am harming them in some way.

You'll see when we meet :)

those looks hardly apply to me I have felt threathened by a womans look before and i took a defensive stance for i hate hurting people. i stare at guys in the eye all the time only few of them take it as a chalenge even when it come to sparing with another guy i usually smile as i fight. Its hard to explain I by no mean i am saying what cancer is saying is untrue but to me there is like a blurry line and i can never figure out why. some people find my look threatning and some people always are like wow you look like you're in deep thought all the time its hard to explain. and look so does matter no matter what any girl says i've learned that by befriending many girls over the years.

No matter who it is, I always look a person in the eyes when I'm speaking to them. But it's usually a sign of respect that they have my full attention. I will make eye contact for other reasons as well, with men to make a statement, or with women to show my interest. As Cancer had said your facial expressions help convey what is said with your eyes.

Yes, especially when Im reminding him where mine are :-D

I suppose it all depends on what curcumstance,a nd the sort fo stare, but usually I find direct eye contact a bit too easy, and sometimes people seem to think Im staring at them!

echo you sometimes do wear rather distracting things though :P

I was tyring to make a point. Dont bring my attire into it.

P.S. All clothes are reveiling when someone such as yourself is taller than me, and uses that as an ability to look down my clothes rather than at them.

i do not use my tallness for that!

"it's not my fault i'm large, i'm a diebetic"

:P

i can't look someone in the eye who is talking to me about something VERY serious... i don't know why...

but most of the time i have no problem looking into eyes.

I can't for more than a few seconds, unless I know the person well. If it's someone I just met, I can't. Or if it's a guy I like, I can hardly look at them at all. lol. The only time I can look anyone directly in the eye for an extended amount of time is when I'm lying to my mother, when someone's clearly challenging me, or when someone staring at me that I just don't want staring at me. lol

I remember an incident in school where something was said aloud about me and the entire class just turned and stared at me like they were superior to me...and I glared daggers at each one of them until every back was turned. Not one person was left to face off. Klootzaks...

Can you recall when the deepest and I think the strongest stare between two people happens (at least I feel as I'm giving and recieving the strongest stare when that kind of stare happens, but I believe it's reallly the strongest. I probably couldn't handle that kind of stare in other circumsatnces!)? ;)

*sends thanx to Echo&Gorey for reminding me of that kind of stare. winks*

i can look anyone in the eye if i want to but sometimes i would rather not

I don't know too many ppl who will keep solid eye contact with me...i'm told I look through people....not at them....
so often I don't make eye contact sinply to make others feel at ease....but I have no problem with it....espacially when talking to someone who seems to think they are my superior....I love watching them look away when I hold their gaze....
it's an alpha male thing....I do not put myself above others....but I also NEVER let others get away with trying to dominate me this way either.....
hehhe Oblyvia however has never shied from my open challenge....hehhe
but hey....thats what family is for....to challenge you

i have found that no matter where i am or what is goin on when i look at a person friend or stranger, the first thing i do is look into the eyes, i dont do it as a challeng, but i think you can learn a lot from a person by the way thay react when you look right in there eyes

I always get the "You're intimidating" response from men. After I get to know them is when they tell me what they get from me when we exchange glances. They tell me they would be scared to approach me in a social environment, and this is because of my height and the way I present myself. I get told often that I demand respect, I'm serious, and someone ''not to messed with''. I don't know whether this is true for everyone who meets me, but mostly all men tell me the same thing.

When I speak with someone, or exchange looks, etc... I always look directly into the eyes. I like to keep eye contact. Not everyone can do that, as I have been able to tell. When I look someone in the eye, they usually look away in discomfort or something of the sort. I believe eye contact with another person can either be very personal and/or very intense depending on the situation. It varies, when you go to a job interview or when you lock glances in a more personal manner. The intensity is different as the paradigms change from situation to situation because I'm not going to look at my boss the same way as I would my lover, but I'd look at them both in the eyes with different intensity, expression, whatever you would like to call it.

Direct eye contact is the same with us as with most animals. It is seen as a direct challenge to most. Any time you are around animals that don’t know you the owners will warn you not to stare at them directly in the eyes. I tend to look people in the eyes when speaking with them. When I was still active in boxing I would stare down my opponents before a fight. You have no idea how this will effect most men. If you stare them down it affects their confidence. I always knew I would have a good fight if they kept trying to stare back after the first time. If they only tried once or twice I knew I would control the fight because I was already inside their heads. If I notice a man staring at me in the club I take it as a challenge to me, if it is a girl I just smile and look away. I tend to get embarrassed when a female is staring at me. I think just like the animals we use it as a sign of dominance.

I can and do look most people in the eye's while talking to them about 90% of the time, to me it's a matter of a certain kind of respect even on a small scale. I do so not only in regards to respect, but I can also read a lot from a persons eyes, not just their facial movements but from their eyes, most people don't realize how much moment there are in their eyes when they are speaking, not to mention that eye color shades change as they are speaking as well. It's actually really interesting ... the times I have most trouble looking someone in the eye is if I am attracted to them, until I begin to feel really comfortable being with them .. then I don’t' really have problems with it.

I do, most of the time unless I don't like talking to the person, or they freak me out. I can just keep staring at there eyes, Even if there not to me. How long I do, depends on the person I'm talking to.

I just about always look people in the eye when i talk to them. Initially I did it because I was trying to at least partially overcome pathological shyness...now I do it, part out of habit, part because I think it's proper, and part because I get a kick out of seeing how they react. Some people will look me right back in the eye and converse that way...and those are the people that i get interested in. I've got it down so that I dont convey any sexual interest in my look...just intense interest in what the person is saying. I think it helps my conversations because people get more interested in what they're talking about when they can tell that you're really paying attention...it helps keep the bullshit "hey how are ya what's up i dont know how bout the weather ok well see ya later" conversations to a minimum..

well the only time i can't look anyone in the eyes is when i am lying or kkeping something from them,..... and i don't lie so i can look anyhone in t heir eyes... why not??

i can always look a person in the eyes (it takes a lot of pratise though) well unless they're taller then me and I can't actually see their eyes just their knees...

i can look someone in the eye so long as i have nothing to hide

No, but then again I can not look anyone In the eyes.

i have absolutly no problem with doing it. most people like to stare at me an i just love to give them an evil stare cuz then they stop. sometime members of the opposite sex actually get freaked out by it wen i stare back at them. i think its funny

Thanks ZLee *laughs* but in harsh reality, Gorey is just my pet perve.

:O

*cries*

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(oops, I pressed TAB instead of CAPS LOCK)

What I noticed is that the strongest & deepest stare between two people happens during a sexual intercourse, did anyone else noticed it, or am I the only psycho who analyses stares while doing IT... ;)

during sex.....and also during moments of intense hatred

i can look someone in the eyes all the time

yes, but I think that the one that happens during sex is the stronger one because both participants are willing to submit to each other, it's a "giving and reciving" stare, while the one that happens when hatered is expressed can not last so long beacuse stare of such intensity usualy bursts into a fight, and both people try to mentally block the stare of the other one.

I always try to make eye contact regardless of the situation...most turn away saying my eyes are unreadable and cold sometimes and they become intimidated for some reason...maybe 'cos I have nothing to hide and they do....lol

Like I said, The eyes are the windows to the soul. So therefore, most (and I said most not all) who can't look someone in the eyes usually has something to hide.

I agree with you Zlee........that stare, and as Daermon said, the one of hatred, are the most intense.

I try to make eye contact in most conversations I have. I have always thought it showed the person I was 'hearing' and paying attention to them. (even tho sometimes Im not..hehe).

Its something I picked up in high school debate. Connecting your eyes with the judges.. others you are debating with.. ect.

Well Zlee, it depends on

a) if we are chewing each others whiskers
(teehee I DID said that)

b) If it is dark

c) If he hasn't nice teeth, I would hardly go north

d) If it is a melting moment

e) etc, etc, etc...

*grins*

yes I've noticed the hatred thing,in those cases am not uncomfortable cause I look in the eyes every second of the moment,and most of the time it's the other person who looks away,sometimes I laugh at a person qho looks at me that way cause they think are cool or intimidating,in realty they're funny haha

my mom told me about a report, where they found, that if two people were to stare at each other for about 5 minutes, then they would fall in love. someone else mentioned a similar study earlier.

i have a hard time looking into people's eyes when i have to confront them. i lose my train of thought, and they see it all right there. i cant lie, either, so when i am upset with someone, i cant even look at them, or they will read it quickly....unless they are an idiot. ha...unaware, is more like it.
sometimes when i like someone alot, as in sexually, it is sorta hard to look very long. again, i tell too much with my eyes. feels vulnerable.
when you look into someone's eyes that are speaking, it lets them know that they have your attention, and that is respectful.
i try to stay out of others' space, and i expect the same of others. i dont bother with the games.....unless they are obviously assholes, and then i dont have a problem with holding my ground. ;)

I am terrible at making eye contact, it makes me nervous

it is not necessary that a person who can't look you in the eye has something to hide from you, many of people who are not comfortably with new people can't look them in the eye, people with a great tragedy in life also and a people that may have a problem with low self esteem, shy people too...

...and I forgot...

*to Sunshine*

They're lying, there are no eyes that are ureadable! That's, I think, the biggest flaw of internet, that we can't see eyes of the other person with whom we are talking, so some emotions and intentions can be easily understood...

yes I agree...that is the hardest part of online conversing......lack of eye contact and body language

^ I agree....It can be hard to detect a lie in someone's mind without seeing the individual...

well...it depends on the perons.. sometimes i get really annoyed when a person stays staring at my face...:P but then i wont mind it if its a nice guy:P hehehe

I love to look in to a females eyes and see usually fear, some times amusement. but with a guy I look into their eyes to make them back down. I also do this to try and look into theirs souls and see a part of them. However it doesn't work that way for me because my soul is empty. Therefore there is nothing to see.

Got to be honest I usually notice other things first :) but I like to look into fun peoples eyes :)

when i am staring at some one straight in the eyes it is very weird and it does seem like a compition. but when its because im with a person and we are sexually attracted to each other it still seems some what competitive, but its like a fun game.

well, if you look into eyes of a man which soul is empty you can see his empty soul through his eyes, so that is a lot more than nothing, Kraven!

it's one of those things

like anything else

Eyes are the key to the soul... they tell a story of life...
*~Gylanah~*

yeah of course i can look a guy in the eyes...if i'm in a flirty mood i will do anything ;)

i always make direct eye contact. I like to pierce individuals with my eyes.

i don't usually make eye contact i look between there eyes so it looks like i am looking at them

FOR ME IT DEFFERS FROM PERSON TO PERSON. I AGREE WITH KINKYVAMPIRE. I LIKE LOOKING IN OTHERS EYES ESPESIALLY MY LOVED ONES TO SEE WHATS INSIDE OF THEM. I THINK THAT WHEN YOU LOOK INTO SOMEONES EYES YOU CAN TRUELLY SEE THEM. THEN AGAIN OTHER TIMES IT HURTS TO DO SO IF THAT PERSON HAS BEEN THROUGH ALOT OF PAIN IN THERE LIFE BECAUSE YOU CAN SEE IT IN THERE EYES EVEN IF THEY DO NOT MEAN FOR YOU TO SEE IT. THE EYES ARE THE WINDOW NOT ONLY TO YOUR SOUL BUT ALSO YOUR WHOLE LIFE AND THE EXPERIANCES YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH

whoa...caps!

When I do it makes the other person feel weird for some reason. I'm used to looking at people when I talk to them though. And as for just staring...... it feels kinda odd just looking right at someone and saying nothing.

tako ti je to kad ti rikne komp! Propustish sve najbolje thredove!

nobody really ever even looks people in the eye because they have something to hide

well i was always told when u have a convo with someone the polite thing to do is look in their eyes...... yes if people have shifty eyes , they are hiding something...im pretty sure its a fact

Look into my eyes....look into my eyes........not around the eyes....look into my eyes......(if you're a Brit you will get what I am on about ...LOL)

it varies when it comes to looking at people in the eyes when i'm speaking to them but when it comes to someone that i'm attracted to, i just can't.

yes, when i look at the eye i feel that its percing me andf reading me and therefore cannot do it.

well,i got no peoblem to look in smbd eyes during he s talking to me.i even require that somebody is looking into my eyes during conversation.only then i m sure that he s listening to me.

agree'd ..it is ignorant not to look someone in the eyes when they are talking to you....I detest it when I am trying to convey a request or meaning and the person I am talking to looks away....makes me angry and is quite likely to get them into and arguement with me over them being ignorant and unworthy of my attention...LOL

thats it!i dont know if they re listening or not and if they re interested in what i say or not...

i believe that to be true...the opposite sex looks back u because they maybe flatered that u r giving the time of day...while the same sex may find u odd and not like the fact that u r staring because they may not be comfortable w/ their sexuality

I have to look someone in their eyes, easiest way to tell if they are lying or not. The imtimidation is in relation to how close you are standing to them.. personal space... some cultures just stare to stare and find nothing wrong with it, some cultures find it very disrespectful so you really have to be careful whom you stare down.. but would rather someone look me in the eye than at my chest.. just really HATE that.

when you lookk some one in the eye you are really lookin' at wat they are inside soo yeah.....i can't look some one in the eye it also makes me feel closer to them..

I can look in people's eyes for the most part but there are those few that i just can't. I don't know why I can't look at everyone in the eye, it's weird.

When I look into someone's eyes, its like looking into the universe. I cant see the person anynore and i cant hear anything anymore, all i seeis emptiness and swirling planets. Of course, they blink and I snapp out of my vision and I have to pay attention again.

i have to look someone in the eyes when i talk to them or i feel they dont hear me....but when it comes to my bf we just stare in to each others eyes without saying a thing

depends on who it is i could stare at anyone without batting an eye except if i have like a crush on a girl...but a guy ill stare them down no problem....

If I know the man quite well I can look him in the eye, but if I dont know him i find it quite hard.. I generally cannot look people I dont know in the eye, never mind if they are male or female!

Oh sunshine! come and stare at me!!!!!!!!!

no i can't do that .. i usually look them right between the eyes so they cant tell the difference... but if its with someone i know well.. only for a short period of time.

bad experience from childhood.

well most the time i look them in the eyes but there is always a time were i feel really wierd and i will look at there forehead...they never know...lol..but if i really like him i can look into his eyes,,tey are the window to yer soul!!1